37 weeks pregnant and found out yesterday that our baby has died

[CheeseandGherkins]

I'm still totally in shock, as is DH, our little girl has died. I hadn't felt movements since late on Wednesday and when I went in on Thursday they couldn't find a heartbeat with doppler. Sent straight for a scan and there was no heartbeat.

I already have 3 dcs who are so upset but it was DH's first baby.

I have to go in today, in a few hours, for a tablet to start things off but I can come home after an hour apparently and then go back 24 hours or so later (if nothing happens) to start inducement properly.

Does anyone have any experience of this? I'm scared of being induced, which sounds stupid under the circumstances but there it is. How long will it take? First 3 labours were fast, 3 and a half, 3 hours and just over an hour.

I still keep expecting to feel her move but of course she won't. Feels so surreal and that it can't be happening but it is. I was due on Dec 23rd.

I don't know what to do.

Thinking of you and all your family this morning. I have lit a candle for you.

Wishing you all the strength in the world.

Thank you, it means so much. Just had more gel, stronger, as I have been contracting and feeling pain through the night but notuch change. Dreading this and not feeling strong at all, scared all over again, hurting a fair bit but nothing happening. wasn't this bad until proper labour before.
Thank you for all the candles being lit.
Cannot believe we are having to do this

Morning, we're all still here for you x

Cross posts C&G...can you ask for more pain relief, there is no need for you to be feeling any more pain than you already are my love x

gorgeous name, im so sorry you are going through this and wish i could say something more useful but i too will light a candle and wish you all much peace.

its ok to feel scared, you ARE being strong and are doing all you can for your wee girl.

Thinking of you all and Scarlett hope things have progressed.

So sorry for your loss

My thoughts are with you Cheese

I am so sorry for the loss of your little girl and the heartbreak you and your family are going through.

I lit a candle for you all this morning and said a prayer for baby Scarlett, with love from my family to yours.

My thoughts and prayers are with you all.

Very sorry for your loss.

such an exquisite name.. be strong. we're here for you..much love x

So sorry you are having to go through this, I will be thinking of you and your family today.

Cheese, I hope this part is over for you soon. Sending strength and hugs xxxxx

C&G wishing you everything you need to get through this, especially the hours in hospital. Here is the other thread with more candles for you all.

I'm so so sorry you are having to go through this. Sending strength and hugs to you. Scarlett Niamh is a beautiful name. I wish you all the best for the coming hours, days and weeks. xx

Candle lit here for you too - So sorry to hear about Scarlett - She'll always be watching you from above.

Fly high Scarlett on wings of love.

Thank you so much and I will read the other thread soon, I had a canula put in just now which shocked me as I have a phobia of needles and always refused them
Before. Waiting for drs to do rounds and have been recommended I go for a walk. Had blood taken again to check for clotting and infection. Had no pain relief yet but am even now seriously considering an epidural if I need a drip. Should I? Thought of being numb scares me, I am awful with all my fears. Nothing has been worse than this though, our baby.
Pains the same and every 5 mins, seems nothing much is happening.

:(

Xx

You've been so strong, you do whatever you need to do x

So incredibly sorry for your loss. May God give you strength in this dark time.

my love... peace and strength to you.

Cheese, if you have an epidural sited, you can always ask them to turn it off again, or only turn it on if you really need it.

I am so, so, sorry xx

Sending you so my thoughts, C&G. I thought about you in the middle of the night. So sorry you couldn't have longer with Scarlett.

C&G thinking of you, you are so very brave. God bless little baby Scarlett.

do whatever will make it easier for you.im afraid i have no experiance of epidural as i ,like you am afraid of needles.although,i know it is one of the ones you can stop if you want to.i always found gas and air helpful it made everything seem a little blury too.

i will be thinking of you.
love and light.