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37 weeks pregnant and found out yesterday that our baby has died

886 replies

CheeseandGherkins · 03/12/2010 12:17

I'm still totally in shock, as is DH, our little girl has died. I hadn't felt movements since late on Wednesday and when I went in on Thursday they couldn't find a heartbeat with doppler. Sent straight for a scan and there was no heartbeat.

I already have 3 dcs who are so upset but it was DH's first baby.

I have to go in today, in a few hours, for a tablet to start things off but I can come home after an hour apparently and then go back 24 hours or so later (if nothing happens) to start inducement properly.

Does anyone have any experience of this? I'm scared of being induced, which sounds stupid under the circumstances but there it is. How long will it take? First 3 labours were fast, 3 and a half, 3 hours and just over an hour.

I still keep expecting to feel her move but of course she won't. Feels so surreal and that it can't be happening but it is. I was due on Dec 23rd.

I don't know what to do.

OP posts:
AitchTwoOh · 06/12/2010 00:09

thinking of you and yours, cheese. scarlett niamh is a beautiful name.

NotanOtter · 06/12/2010 00:11

lovely name and so so sorry for your loss x

ChippingIn · 06/12/2010 04:15

Cheese - I'm just off to bed - I'm thinking of you and will check in again in the morning. Sending you both lots of love and strength x

mathanxiety · 06/12/2010 04:29

I have no words but am gasping at your courage tonight, and your DH's. Will say a prayer for you and for your little Scarlett Niamh and your other DCs, and hope you won't mind. Love to you all.

Sakura · 06/12/2010 04:50

my condolences on your loss x

fannybaws · 06/12/2010 06:15

Just awake and thinking about you x

monkeyfacegrace · 06/12/2010 06:21

Morning cheese, have things progressed, and have you had any rest?
Candle has just been re-lit for the day ahead x

poobumfartbollocks · 06/12/2010 06:22

Cheese

Still thinking of you all.

Words are so inadequate.

Mairi xo

namechangedfor3months · 06/12/2010 06:29

Hello C&G. Hope you have rested and things are progressing. Will be thinking of you today. Much love, x

babylanguagelearner · 06/12/2010 06:48

so sorry for what you are going through. Another candle for your beautiful girl, with the beautiful name.

izzybiz · 06/12/2010 06:49

So so sorry.

Will be thinking of you and your family.

Em.x

Miffster · 06/12/2010 06:49

Woke thinking of you and your family and have lit a new candle. My thoughts are with you all as are the thoughts of many people.

girlsyearapart · 06/12/2010 06:50

Sending much love to you and your family and your little angel Scarlett. You sound so strong

ItalianLady · 06/12/2010 07:47

Thinking of you all this morning, C.

EssieW · 06/12/2010 08:05

Candle lit for you here too. So sorry for your loss.

billybunter · 06/12/2010 08:15

Candle re-lit here x

So many are thinking of you.

SkylineDrifter · 06/12/2010 08:17

Just came to this now Cheese, am now crying - my thoughts are with you.

TheGrumpalo · 06/12/2010 08:19

I'm so sorry Sad I cannot begin to imagine what you're all going through.

Thinking of you and your family x

clumsymumsnowdriftbaby · 06/12/2010 08:37

a new candle has been lit for you all this morning.

i do hope all these little lights in the dark will provide you with some small comfort.

love and light.

gailforce1 · 06/12/2010 08:41

Thinking of you all today and will light a candle when I get home from work.x

SirBoobAlot · 06/12/2010 08:58

Thinking of you, your DH, and little Scarlett. She has a beautiful name. x

TotalChaos · 06/12/2010 09:03

very sorry for your loss C&G.

follygirl · 06/12/2010 09:08

Thinking of all of you and little Scarlett.
So sorry for your loss.

strumpet82 · 06/12/2010 09:11

Thinking of you and your family.

So sorry xxx

ChippingIn · 06/12/2010 09:13

Morning, thinking of you all still - lots of love & strength xxx