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37 weeks pregnant and found out yesterday that our baby has died

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CheeseandGherkins · 03/12/2010 12:17

I'm still totally in shock, as is DH, our little girl has died. I hadn't felt movements since late on Wednesday and when I went in on Thursday they couldn't find a heartbeat with doppler. Sent straight for a scan and there was no heartbeat.

I already have 3 dcs who are so upset but it was DH's first baby.

I have to go in today, in a few hours, for a tablet to start things off but I can come home after an hour apparently and then go back 24 hours or so later (if nothing happens) to start inducement properly.

Does anyone have any experience of this? I'm scared of being induced, which sounds stupid under the circumstances but there it is. How long will it take? First 3 labours were fast, 3 and a half, 3 hours and just over an hour.

I still keep expecting to feel her move but of course she won't. Feels so surreal and that it can't be happening but it is. I was due on Dec 23rd.

I don't know what to do.

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LeninGrad · 05/12/2010 22:13

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venusandchristmars · 05/12/2010 22:18

Cheese, when the time comes for you to say goodbye to your little daughter, there are some wonderful celebrants who can help you create a ceremony that can reflect the traditions and beliefs of you, your dh and your family. SANDs or the the hospital bereavement service should be able to help you with this. Make sure you work with someone you feel you can trust, and feel free to pm me if you need any help to find someone suitable.

marriednotmulled · 05/12/2010 22:19

Hi C&G, just one of many on here wishing you and your family strength through this painful time.

Scarlett has an amazing mummy and daddy waiting to cuddle her as she sleeps.

Take care x

clumsymumsnowdriftbaby · 05/12/2010 22:20

i dont know what to say,i wanted to let you know a candle has been lit for you here.
i will be thinking of you and your sleeping babe tonight.

Berk · 05/12/2010 22:23

Still here, thinking of you all and beautiful Scarlett Niamh x

ABird · 05/12/2010 22:24

Cheese&Gherkins, I am so terribly sorry for your loss.

Wishing you all the love and strength in the world xxx

EdgarAllenSnow · 05/12/2010 22:26

sorry for your loss
xx

BaroqinAroundTheChristmasTree · 05/12/2010 22:28

oh Cheese Sad

I have only just seen your FB, and then saw this thread.

I am so sorry Sad

MagnamOfChristmasCheer · 05/12/2010 22:29

Cheese thinking of you and your DH at this time Sad

poobumfartbollocks · 05/12/2010 22:30

There are candles lit all over the world for Scarlett Niamh.

This is MN at its best

IMHO

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Adversecamber · 05/12/2010 22:33

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systemsaddict · 05/12/2010 22:36

Candle burning for Scarlett Niamh here too, will be thinking of you and your family through the night.

Vallhala · 05/12/2010 22:41

You're in my thoughts tonight, all of you.

May your god go with you.

Val x

clumsymumsnowdriftbaby · 05/12/2010 22:44

i am still here,i cannot stop crying for you,i hope this goes as smoothly as it possibly can for you,and that you are able to hold your darling daughter for as long as you like.
Scarlett niamh will always be remembered here.

carriedafirework · 05/12/2010 22:48

oh i am so deeply sorry for your loss.

how horrendous

life is totally unfair

misdee · 05/12/2010 22:48

i have struggled to post here, as 'chatted' on fb about our respective bumps and their awkwardness with positions over the last few weeks. I keep welling up thinking of you going through this, and my thoughts are youw you, yourdh, your kiddies and little Scarlett Niamh.

I am really sorry, and words just aren't enough.

much love xxx

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DuffyMoon · 05/12/2010 22:55

Am so sorry for your loss - it is unimaginable and words seem so trite at a time like this. I am thinking of you and your family x

BusyMisstletoeIzzy · 05/12/2010 22:58

I'm so sorry. Another candle burning here for your beautiful girl.

LoveBeingADaddysGirl · 05/12/2010 23:03

I don't know what to say, I am so sorry. I had a mc a week ago but know it doesn't compare. Hope you get through the rest of the night ok x x x

CapriceNelson · 05/12/2010 23:06

So sorry. A candle lit here for Scarlett Niamh.

Concordia · 05/12/2010 23:06

thinking of you and Scarlett and your family tonight

Miffster · 05/12/2010 23:16

C&G still thinking of you. There is another thread in Chat with even more candles being lit for you, for Scarlett and your husband and family. Hundreds of little lights in the dark. Prayers and tears for you all. You are in the thoughts of so many people, and deservedly so.

MrsSnaplegs · 05/12/2010 23:59

cheese my thoughts and prayers are with you and your family tonight especially for little Scarlett x

ben5 · 06/12/2010 00:06

a pray and a candle lit here for you and your family

biffandchip · 06/12/2010 00:07

Thoughts and prayers to you and your family. So sorry for your loss.