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Flying high enjoying their wings, Remembering our precious much loved children...

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CazandBelle · 21/11/2010 20:35

For my beautiful Anabelle Violet. Born an angel.

Mummy and Daddy miss and love you so much. Always. xxx

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lavandes · 02/12/2010 15:18

sending love to you and your family tw hope all goes well for your brother xx

travellingwilbury · 02/12/2010 16:16

Thanks all x

What a looooooooong day this is turning out to be .

My brother went down at about half 12 and we are not expecting any news till about 7 .
I just can't believe he is going through this Sad And today of all days is just mean .

Minione · 02/12/2010 17:18

Thanks Caz

TW - Thinking of you and all of your family today xxx

TheMousefaceBeforeChristMouse · 02/12/2010 17:26

Hello

I just wanted to pop in and say hello to you all (I'm normally just Mouseface BTW!) Xmas Smile

We have decided to plant a little Christmas tree this year for the boys. I'm not sure why this year over any other but it just feels right IYSWIM?

Hope you are all ok.

Much love. xxxxx

hazygirl · 02/12/2010 17:51

tw sorry i forgot to say,good luck to your brother todayx

Deemented · 02/12/2010 18:11

Have a big (cwtch) TW.

Hope you have news of your brother soon x

travellingwilbury · 02/12/2010 18:58

Got news half an hour ago , all went well Grin

Feels weird to be smiling on this day but I have promised myself a Harry day next week .

ILikeToMoveItMoveIt · 02/12/2010 19:19

So many emotions are running through your head TW, but Harry knows that you thinking of your db doesn't take away what you feel for him.

SO glad all went well for you db. You can now give a HUGE sigh of relief.

Take care xxxx

Deemented · 02/12/2010 19:27

Ah, thats good news indeed.

shabbapinkfrog · 02/12/2010 19:34

Massive sigh of relief here TW. I know its mad but when you said a heart problem it made me almost pass out with fear. How fantastic - its amazing the medical advances in heart surgery over the years. Just 'another day at the office' for the Doctors....I knew it would be on your little mans day.....somehow I think your brother needed a guardian angel watching out for him xxxxxx Grin Great news my love. xx

lavandes · 02/12/2010 20:26

great news tw I am so happy for you. Take care xx

spilttheteaagain · 02/12/2010 21:08

So pleased to hear your brother's op went well TW Smile

CazandBelle · 02/12/2010 21:19

Love to you TW xx

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shabbapinkfrog · 03/12/2010 06:43

Morning girls xx

shelleylou · 03/12/2010 08:51

Morning

Glad your DB's op went well. I've been thinking of you all over the past few days just had to keep computer of due to electric lol.

travellingwilbury · 03/12/2010 08:52

Good morning all xx

I feel so much better today , I have had a text from him this morning Grin
How cool is that ? A text from intensive care . They woke him up last night and they are hopefully moving him to recovery ward today .

Sorry I nearly gave you a heart attack Shabs , it is horrible when something takes you right back xxxx

shabbapinkfrog · 03/12/2010 09:22

Oh dont worry TW - I am a bit of a loon when it comes to stuff like that Grin Gareth would have had to have many surgeries had he survived. The advances that have been made in heart surgery are totally amazing. To be honest, his Doctor said possible heart/lung transplant.....this may sound cold hearted (and believe me, its not meant to) but there are times when I think 'thank God Gareth didn't have to go through all that...thank God that his 7 short months were happy and loving....thank God that he was with us even for such a short time.'

BUT it has taken many, many years to feel that way. xxx

Minione · 03/12/2010 16:45

Hi Ladies

TW - Glad to hear that your brother is doing well, you must be really happy x

There is a lady who has just started a thread about her stillborn daughter, I'd do a link but I'm too IT illiterate! I've posted, thought others who've experienced this might wasnt to support her.

My collegue who announced her pregnancy a couple of hours before I found out Malachy had died had her baby today, a little girl for her. Where has that time gone? I'm so happy for her but its hit me hard.

DSS is 18 today! He would be a fab big brother, I hope this will happen.

CazandBelle · 03/12/2010 18:22

Thanks for highlighting thread Mini - I've posted a link now.

How are you doing this week back at work? Keeping hoping, it WILL happen. We all have to believe that. I try to keep drumming that into myself at the moment. Hope and Faith.

TW glad to hear your brother is doing well.

I'm going over my friends house in a while to start planning/brainstorming Belle's 1st birthday fundraiser. We want to do a fete/stall type event, any ideas welcomed here too!

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lavandes · 03/12/2010 22:00

caz I work in a council run leisure centre and we very often give prizes for charity events - raffle/draw prizes - it may be worth approaching similar centres in your area. If you can maybe put a P.O. box address I would willingly donate something for you. xx

CazandBelle · 04/12/2010 00:26

Oh lavandes that would be lovely and a great idea. I will start looking into that. How does a PO box address work? how do I get one of them?

We made a just giving page tonight, and within 3 people have donated £40 between them! I'm amazed and overwhelmed by the kindness!

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shabbapinkfrog · 04/12/2010 00:58

Caz I raised about 30,000 pounds for my friends son who had Fanconi Anemia....they were trying to raise a quarter of a million pounds to get him to the USA for treatment. Luckily for my friends DS she had a little girl who didnt have Fanconi and matched her brothers blood. He was given a cord blood transplant and is thriving at High school now. I have loads of ideas. Will put my thinking cap on and get back to you in the morning xxx

shabbapinkfrog · 04/12/2010 08:27

Morning girls xx

lavandes · 04/12/2010 09:09

caz I am away for weekend seeing grandkids. will look into p.o. box next week xx

shabbapinkfrog · 04/12/2010 12:20

CHRISTMAS THOUGHTS

Beyond the Christmas trees, the angels and the stars, and beloved carols..beyond the presents, the shopping, the baking and cooking....beyond all of these sights and sounds of Christmas...beyond all of these...there is HOPE.

Hope...for the bereaved parent; even at Christmas, one of the most painful times of the year, there is an essence of hope. Hope...it is hope that sustains us through the days of grief and anger and frustration and loneliness.

The hope that someday the pain of the deaths of our children will be eased. The hope that someday our smiles will be real. The hope is that once again we will laugh and love and cry completely without fear and hollowness. It is the hope that someday we can remember our children with a tenderness merely tinged with sorrow and not overwhelmed with it.

So it is that for each of you I would hope....peace, compassion, love, sympathy, understanding, sharing and listening. In the sharing of our grief with one another and in the emotional support we give to one another, we receive and understand all of these gifts.

Taken from a Compassionate Friends newsletter.

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