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Beyond the distant star, I wish upon tonight to see you smile, If only for a while, to know you're there.

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shabbapinkfrog · 04/10/2010 10:08

Our thread to honour and remember our precious children who sadly are not 'physically' here xxxxx

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Minione · 07/11/2010 16:16

HI ladies, sorry I've not been around, been quite busy.

Ilike - thinking of you today and your beautiful son, will light a candle for you both. Hope today goes as well as it can - big hugs xxx

So glad Ofsted is over - the school got a good so the head has promised some kind of celebration!

Shabs - so sorry to hear about Tom's teacher, that's realy sad, she sounded fab. Did you watch X factor - Matt was amazing!!!

Minione · 07/11/2010 16:20

Sorry, just read thread properly and noticed other remember days. Candle lit for Everlong and CWWM, my thoughts are with all of you. Look after yourselves xxx

shabbapinkfrog · 07/11/2010 16:34

Hiya Mini - yes Toms teacher was fab...and always will be. I have been on her fb page again today and her DS1 is talking to her as normal. Poor lad - think he is about 16. I have urged the Head at Toms primary school to have some kind of service for Mrs B. She left the school about 3 years ago when she first got ill. I hope he does but Im not holding my breath!!!!

Yes I watched X factor - I think I may be deeply in love with Matt Cardle - and he is only about 5ft 6in so perfect for me at 4ft 10in.

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Minione · 07/11/2010 17:33

Is he really? Well, I'm 5ft 5in so he's still a bit taller!

lavandes · 07/11/2010 20:13

ilike hugs and love to you and your family. Candle lit here in Cornwall. xxx

shelleylou · 07/11/2010 20:58

Ahhh thats ruined it for me, he's shorter than I am. Wouldnt mind him singing to me though lol.

Candle light here too

shabbapinkfrog · 08/11/2010 06:23

Morning girls xx

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lavandes · 08/11/2010 07:12

Morning ladies xx

CazandBelle · 08/11/2010 11:24

20 weeks today since my beautiful girl was born. I feel so sad. The last time we were hitting a 20 week milestone we were celebrating finding out who our little baby was, named her Anabelle and had pink champagne with our families for her.

Minione · 08/11/2010 17:05

Oh Caz, I know what you mean. I can't believe Malachy was born over 21 weeks ago, some days it feels like hours others it seems much longer.

My scan has now come through for the 24th, I'll be 10 weeks then so feel a bit happier. I'm finding this pregnancy difficult, I wnat to enjoy it but feel like I'm worrying constantly.

shabbapinkfrog · 09/11/2010 06:50

Good morning girls xx

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travellingwilbury · 09/11/2010 06:59

Morning all x

lavandes · 09/11/2010 07:15

Morning ladies xx

hazygirl · 09/11/2010 07:23

morning girlsxxxx

AxisofEvil · 09/11/2010 08:10

Hello all

AxisofEvil · 09/11/2010 17:41

I had to see my GP today for my post natal check. He kept suggesting anti depressants which I wasn't keen on. I sort of feel I'm bereaved rather than depressed per se but then maybe I'm not the best judge of what is appropriate. I said no but he wants me to go back if I don't improve.

Has anyone here taken them in this situation and did it help.

shelleylou · 09/11/2010 18:03

Obviously my situation is different. I went onto anti depressants in June this year after fighting with depression since db's death in october. They do seam to help on a reasonable dose (highesy I've ever had) they've brought me on a more even keel..

shabbapinkfrog · 10/11/2010 07:22

Morning girls xx

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travellingwilbury · 10/11/2010 09:22

Morning all x

How we all doing ?

Axis I felt the same as you do about taking any meds . I figured I had every right to be sad and grumpy and pissed off and I actually wanted to feel the pain asx well iyswim .
I was also worried about being numbed from it all for a yr or two and then coming off the meds and it really coming back with a vengeance by which time everyone would be expecting me to be getting back to "normal" at least being a mess at the time meant most people got why I was the way I was .

But I do also know others who have taken them and found them a godsend . Sorry not very helpful really am I ?

shabbapinkfrog · 10/11/2010 09:50

I didn't have any AD at all - but now, with hindsight, I wonder why I didn't. I ended up, about 5 years ago having horrendous, crippling panic attacks. Went to see my GP and had a spectacular one in front of him!!!!!

He prescribed me Beta Blockers (I refuse to read the leaflet inside the box because it talks about strokes and heart attacks Confused)

GP said they would help me and I still take one every single morning. They calm me and have stopped - 99% of my panic attacks.

I think we all do things differently - to try to make the same awful situation better. Whatever works is fantastic.

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shabbapinkfrog · 11/11/2010 06:40

Morning girls xx

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hazygirl · 11/11/2010 06:43

morning girlsx

travellingwilbury · 11/11/2010 09:19

morning xx

lavandes · 11/11/2010 17:59

sneaks in quietly - how are you all? xx

shabbapinkfrog · 11/11/2010 18:08

Hiya Lavendes - fine ta - just walked five minutes to our corner shop and almost blew away - BUT - other than that Im just fine xxxx

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