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Beyond the distant star, I wish upon tonight to see you smile, If only for a while, to know you're there.

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shabbapinkfrog · 04/10/2010 10:08

Our thread to honour and remember our precious children who sadly are not 'physically' here xxxxx

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lavandes · 24/10/2010 00:08

I did not read the thread I don't know where it is. I can't bear the thought of random people picking over my grief. I cannot understand why people need to do this.

I think we should ignore this and carry on supporting eachother. I just made me rant for a moment.

caz try to forget this its not worth the effort xx

CazandBelle · 24/10/2010 00:21

The thread was pulled quickly. There is a follow up in site stuff. I know you're right lavandes - I guess this is probably the reaction the OP was hoping for. Probably a troll.

lavandes · 24/10/2010 00:21

I'm trying to concentrate on 'nice things' we are going to see our grandsons tomorrow, we are taking them to the cinema. Our 10 yearold will say 'Granny you always fall asleep' He will not be disappointed!!!! xx

Deemented · 24/10/2010 06:21

In fairness, it was just the OP of that thread who was a nasty cunt. Everyone else told he/she/it to wind her neck in and fuck off. They were outraged on our behalf. And i appreciated that - they could have said 'Well... now you come to mention it...' but no, they stuck up for us.

To be honest, i think this whole SS has had a huge impact on us and our thread. I suppose it could go one of two ways - we can either pack our tables up, move away and not be here to support one another because we are scared... or we can stand united and continue offering our support to everyone who needs it.

I know which i prefer.

shabbapinkfrog · 24/10/2010 08:53

Morning girls. xxx

Christ on a bike - I go up to Chelles for the night and it all happens!!! MNHQ never pull a thread that quickly - would have loved to have read it!!

Also started over the week-end which points fingers in one general direction.

UNITED WE STAND, DIVIDED WE FALL......Dont know about the rest of you but IM GOING NOWHERE!!

LAVENDES is totally spot on - FUCK 'EM!!!!

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frasersmummy · 24/10/2010 09:02

another bloody bereaved mummy has been named as a troll on the follow up thread!!!!!

WTF???

shabbapinkfrog · 24/10/2010 09:05

Its the week-end - we all know from the previous problem that MNHQ dont act quickly at week-ends. We must all have a good idea who started it - MNHQ pulled it very quickly which, must suggest they know the OP. Deep breathing and nice thoughts my friends....

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CazandBelle · 24/10/2010 09:09

Morning - still united. I'm a little bit addicted to this thread I think - its one of my support networks and I need it. So not intending to go anywhere.

Will admit that its unnerving again though.

Up and early for church. They are making up Christmas hampers and I forgot to buy my biscuit contribution, so better get a move on so I can go into Asdas on the way!

shabbapinkfrog · 24/10/2010 09:10

Can someone link me to the follow up thread please? I am loosing the will to live trying to find it Grin

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CazandBelle · 24/10/2010 09:24

You know what. I've re-read that follow up again in the calmness of a new morning, and even though I didn't see the original thread I get the impression that someone is very deliberately trying to cause dis-trust amongst us. It is very spiteful.

shabbapinkfrog · 24/10/2010 09:36

Ignore Caz, just ignore - put your fingers in your ears and la la la la la la - I find it works for me.

Just private messaged you darling xx

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Minione · 24/10/2010 09:51

Morning Ladies

I'm not going anywhere either! You guys have been my salvation and support and the twat of an OP last might really upset me. I was pleased to see that all the posters supported us and thought the OP was a cunt. I don't know or really care who the OP was, all I do know is that they are a shit of the highest form.

Right, sweary rant over!

shabbapinkfrog · 24/10/2010 09:55

Awwwwww Mini was swearing ROFL - gonna tell the teacher of you xxx

Business as normal today - no excuses you lot!!

Did anyone swoon as much as me watching Matt Cardle on last nights X Factor? Rather nice or what????

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Minione · 24/10/2010 10:02

Sorry Miss!!!

Yes, Matt is rather lovely, Dh often accuses me of fancying him! Meeting my old school friends for lunch today, am really looking forward to it. Back at school tomorrow, boo hoo. Why does Leicestershire have to have a different holiday to everyone else, pisses me off as DH is off and I'll be back at work.

Deemented · 24/10/2010 10:03

Nah, i swooned completely a little bit at Aiden though - phwoooooooooar

shabbapinkfrog · 24/10/2010 10:12

Dee - he is very intense isin't he!!! AND Lady Jane he is only 17 ROFL - hands off him you dirty owd mare!!

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louisesh · 24/10/2010 11:39

Went out last night with family for a couple of drinks and food, soo missed all of above...I m very confused!!!!!

I wish i had made all this up as it would mean my Georgie was here and all would be "Normal" instead of this hell hole.I feel like 2 totally different people at the moment do other peole understand this? I feel like i m trying to act "normal" , do "normal" stuff and plod on, but, then it all becomes too much and i breakdown thinking of Georgie and wishing with all my heart Georgie was here and how it SHOULD be.

2 weeks today Georgie was born it seems like forever ago and as my DH just said we just wish she'd open her eyes.Hi to all x

shabbapinkfrog · 24/10/2010 12:03

Louise - dont worry love you weren't under any doubt.......I was one 'named and shamed' - to be honest the accusations have had a weird reaction from me....I think it is hysterical - I honestly have not been upset by it I have laughed so loudly that Im reaching for a straight jacket as we speak. Sod 'em - the doubters - I know the truth and thats all that matters.

Two different people? Oh yes I remember that feeling very well. I still put my happy face mask on before I go out of the door xxx You are in raw, early grief my love and it hurts like hell. xxx

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Minione · 24/10/2010 12:07

Oh Louise, I know what you mean. I remember trying to do normal things, I still have times when doing normal things seems wrong. LIke today, meeting my oldest friends, I should be taking Malachy and I shouldn't be going back to work tomorrow as I should be on Maternity leave. Its shit, it really is.

Dee - I love Aiden (think its the name!)he's very good looking but a bit young! If they're the same age as kids I teach then they're noff limits! Like the little boyband, they are so sweet, they look like a bunch of toddlers! Dh hates it but it sits through as he thinks Wagner is hilarious - we love him!

Minione · 24/10/2010 12:15

Off limits - not sure what noff limits are!

shabbapinkfrog · 24/10/2010 12:34

ROFL Mini - my PE teacher from High School (I left in 1973) added me recently on Facebook. I had the biggest crush on him. It was his first teaching job so he will have been maybe about 24 and I was 16.

Every time he sends me a message I go like this Blush and I cant call him by his first name - I just put Sir or Mr PE teacher.

Is it wrong of me to hope that Matt Cardle smokes... I love lads who smoke - think a small part of me is very immature and my parents used to tell me how evil smoking was and how I shouldn't go out with a lad who did. Grin Oh what the hell I admit its more than a small part of me that is very immature!!

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ILikeToMoveItMoveIt · 24/10/2010 12:52

Hi ladies and welcome louisesh, so sorry to hear about your darling Georgie.

Seems like there has been some trolling going on ............. again. God there are some sick people in this world.

Where is TW? I hope she's just got pc problems.

Nice to see you FM, I understand MN is a weird place at the moment, but remember we'll be here whenever you want a chat Smile

Minione · 24/10/2010 13:11

I think he does smoke as when he got through the first audition he said about going for a pint and a fag!

I am pleased to say that DH has not somoked for about eight weeks! He even got a certificate from the nurse!

shabbapinkfrog · 24/10/2010 13:14

He does???????? I do like a bad lad Grin

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