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Good old fashioned smacking

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heepie · 02/07/2007 13:20

I don't believe it did me any harm and I do wonder why the previous generation, ie mine, was so much better behavied than the current, ie my kids. I find the softly softly, ignore bad reward good behaviour does not work with a strong willed child and find myself more and more thinking what was wrong with a good old smack? Peeing on the floor right in front of you with a big smile on the face surely warrants more than the removal of a star on the reward chart? And whacking little brother over the head with a heavy object? Not eating something very nice and edible that I have slaved over in the kitchen? Why must we never tell our children to eat what is in front of them when I wasn't allowed to leave the table until I was finished? I don't have an eating disorder. I think it's time I through all the modern how to bring up children books out of the window and remember how it was done when I was a child? Anyone else feel this way?

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Greensleeves · 02/07/2007 13:22

trip trap

moljam · 02/07/2007 13:22

just thinking that greensleeves

bagsundereyes · 02/07/2007 13:23
binkleandflip · 02/07/2007 13:23

Why so? It could be someone seriously wanting a frank discussion

ProjectIcarus · 02/07/2007 13:23

yes.

Clearly you have no issues.

VoluptuaGoodshag · 02/07/2007 13:23

Hear hear (but shall duck behind wall with you when they start chucking buns at us).

I'm also for other old fashioned things like making kids wear some sort of smock to keep their clothes clean then I only need do one washing a week. I shall wear an apron also so that I don't get bits of child goo all over my jeans.

But seriously, I do agree with you. I think parents worry more now about what other parents think rather than just getting on with the (bloody hard) job that it is.

bobsmum · 02/07/2007 13:23

Interesting first post.

What ages are your children heepie?

MrsBadger · 02/07/2007 13:24

first post, eh heepie?

Speccy · 02/07/2007 13:26

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Crazydazy · 02/07/2007 13:26

Well I lay mine in a row and cane them 5 times.

Whatever

LucyLamb · 02/07/2007 13:27

In Real Life I know loads of people who would openly agree with you - maybe even applaud you - I know lots of people who smack too (I do !) - but on here you will not find many who will admit to it !

Mumsnet is a microcosm of society - not always representative of the real world !

OrmIrian · 02/07/2007 13:27

Do you mean 'good old-fashioned' in the sense of wholesome and traditional, or in the sense of other old fashioned things like child chimney sweeps and cholera???

Greensleeves · 02/07/2007 13:27

It's quite obvious from your OP that it hasn't done you the slightest harm.

I mean, it's not as if you've turned out to be the sort of adult who think's it's OK to hit people smaller than you.

lulumama · 02/07/2007 13:27

the 'never did me any harm rationale' is a glib way to say, i cannot think of a real reason that this is a good reason, so i;ll trot out some platitude, and that will be fine

there is a middle ground between removing a sticker off the chart and smacking

i tend to aim for that

oh, and

trip trap

ruddynorah · 02/07/2007 13:28

ok. so your son hits your other son for taking hs toy or whatever, so you hit him to show that...well...that hitting people is wrong? but he hit his brother cos taking toys is wrong no...god yes i can see how it would work...

littlelapin · 02/07/2007 13:29

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bohemianbint · 02/07/2007 13:30

I was smacked and it did an awful lot of harm.

bobsmum · 02/07/2007 13:31

I'll ask again, how old are your children Heepie?

Greensleeves · 02/07/2007 13:32

This is some tinpot hack trawling for quotes the lazy way IMO

chopster · 02/07/2007 13:35

oh dear. heepie, try searching the archives, and then bugger off. Shut the door behind you.

ruddynorah · 02/07/2007 13:35

that's right LL, cos not eating all your food is WRONG so you deserve to be hit right?! next time they will be so scared of you hitting them they will eat all their food. OK?!

katylui1 · 02/07/2007 13:35

I spent my childhood getting told off and was generally terrible. My parents and I had to part company when I was 17 cos I was so naughty! Im sure I did get a few smacks although I cant remember them and Im sure it didnt do me any harm but who knows?
Some considerable years on we are now great friends, I have a successful career and am a fabulous, gorgeous mummy!! Not a drug addled, asbo dodging drunk as predicted for kids today! Now I am raising my own kids and asking mum for advice on discipline, she has several times told me she doesn't know what to suggest as she doesn't remember hers being that bad??!! Well I do cos I was there! Rose tinted glasses indeed!!!!!

VeniVidiVickiQV · 02/07/2007 13:37

I was smacked, occasionally. I honestly believe it never did me any harm. But, there is smacking, and there is smacking.

Thwacking a child for disliking your own taste in food is, just a tad, excessive.

I would suggest that you spend a bit less time 'slaving', and a bit more time giving your child attention, and they may likely stop pissing on your floor whilst smiling at you, which is patently an effort at seeking attention.

IMVHFO.

Does that sound reasonable?