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Good old fashioned smacking

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heepie · 02/07/2007 13:20

I don't believe it did me any harm and I do wonder why the previous generation, ie mine, was so much better behavied than the current, ie my kids. I find the softly softly, ignore bad reward good behaviour does not work with a strong willed child and find myself more and more thinking what was wrong with a good old smack? Peeing on the floor right in front of you with a big smile on the face surely warrants more than the removal of a star on the reward chart? And whacking little brother over the head with a heavy object? Not eating something very nice and edible that I have slaved over in the kitchen? Why must we never tell our children to eat what is in front of them when I wasn't allowed to leave the table until I was finished? I don't have an eating disorder. I think it's time I through all the modern how to bring up children books out of the window and remember how it was done when I was a child? Anyone else feel this way?

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flack · 02/07/2007 13:56

You smack a 2yo for not eating the food you like?
You smack a 2yo for weeing on the floor "deliberately".

Do you smack the 1yo for the same transgressions? My sons showed signs of anticpating their wee before they were 12m old, after all, perhaps they should have exercised more self-control. If only I had disciplined them more firmly, eh?!

...parp, parp, parp...

MrsScavo · 02/07/2007 13:57

NO, I A DO NOT FEEL THE SAME WAY AS YOU HEEPIE.

Enid · 02/07/2007 13:59

nearly 3

monstrous

IntergalacticWalrus · 02/07/2007 13:59

IU was made to eat a cornish pasty that my mum served up for dinner. I don;t like cornish pasies.

I was given the smae pasty fro Breaskfast lunch and dinner for about 3 days, and i still refused to eat it

I hate fucking Cronish pasies even more after that. Desired effect? I don';t think so

My mum smacked me a lot as a child, and as a result, I have absoluetely no respect for my mum as a parent.

Greensleeves · 02/07/2007 14:04

"I have a small 3 year old terrorist in the making. He walks past parked cars and I can see him wanting to jump in and take it for a joyride."

God how unbelievably nasty . Your poor little boy.

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heepie · 02/07/2007 14:04

Needless to say Saffymum I totally agree. My child always gets an option of a smack or complying. Choice is hers.

I can't remember the other names but thank you to all of you who were brave enough to agree with me that smacking has its place.

To everyone else, there is a huge difference between child abuse and smacking, and to say that a mother doesn't love her child if she chooses to use smacking as one method of disciplining is a bit silly you must agree.

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meowmix · 02/07/2007 14:05

smacking a 2 year old for not eating? Great way to instil a sense of panic at the dinner table and create more bad food related behaviour.

and as for the three year old mini-terrorist? words fail me. what a great way to think about your child.

laneydaye · 02/07/2007 14:05

its pathetic heepie.... i agree smacking has its place...

controlfreaky2 · 02/07/2007 14:05

no. i don't agree.
be careful not to leave any marks on your baby / toddler won't you. that wouyld make your "smack of love" a criminal offence.

laneydaye · 02/07/2007 14:06

here we go.......

lulumama · 02/07/2007 14:06

at the age of 3, it is a bit more complex than comply or smack.......children are pushing the boundaries, and working out how far to go, and once chance to do something, before getting a smack , is not enough , IMO

surely the fact you have to be 'brave' to admit to smacking says a lot about smacking itself?

smacking for not eating, is bad bad news IMO

sparklesandwine · 02/07/2007 14:08

trip trap

has heepie come back to this or just tried to set the scene?

meandmyflyingmachine · 02/07/2007 14:08

While I think there are worse things you can do to a child than the occassional smack (and no, I'm not pro smacking I just think other behaviours are equally abusive and get far less attention) I can't see that smacking a 2 year old for not eating something you have cooked for them will help. Is it actually effective? Does he enjoy what you give him to eat now?

Greensleeves · 02/07/2007 14:08

lol at being "brave enough" to boast about hitting a child. You people really do perceive yourselves as some sort of oppressed righteous band of freedom-fighters, don't you? You'er not. You're cowards who bully and frighten people smaller than you because you haven't the humanity or the imagination to find a better way of coping with them.

laneydaye · 02/07/2007 14:09

heepie isnt the only person admitted to smacking their child...... is she???

littlelapin · 02/07/2007 14:09

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meowmix · 02/07/2007 14:10

Go greeny, go greeny, go greeny. Couldn't have put it better myself.

MamaMaiasaura · 02/07/2007 14:10

PARP

MamaMaiasaura · 02/07/2007 14:11
sparklesandwine · 02/07/2007 14:11

what i do find irritating are people who try to teach their children not to smack with the obligutary 'XXX don't smack its naughty' and then gives XXX a smack for smacking - eh???

Izabella · 02/07/2007 14:11

Heepie, please please do not smack your children for not eating. Believe me if anyone knows how frustrating that it its me. DD has gone on feeing strikes when she was BF and can take ages on her solids but I sit with her anyway how ever long it takes. She is only just on the 0,4 centile (and has fallen off the charts) so I have no other choice. Believe you me, there were times I was very angry/ annoyed at her but I literally had to go out of the room until I calmed down. If you smack your kids because they're not eating, you could give them very negative connotations of food and mealtimes which may do them harm in the long run.

I know what you mean about children nowadays and I do agree that we have gone too softly softly. Children need boundaries and when they cross those boundaries they need to know that discipline will follow but there are plenty of other very effective means of doing that other than smacking. Equally they also need lots of praise and affirmation as well.

I won't say that I'll never smack DD but I know it will only be for very serious incidents like running out onto the road or as littlelapin said, for doing very dangerous things with sockets.

littlelapin · 02/07/2007 14:12

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IntergalacticWalrus · 02/07/2007 14:13

There's a couple of bridges wthouit their trolls this aftrenoon

controlfreaky2 · 02/07/2007 14:13

ooooh and really annoying shop assistants / people in the pub / traffic wardens..... why would it be wrong to give them a loving smack to show them you mean business???? or do you???

Chattyhan · 02/07/2007 14:15

My mum smacked me as a child and i do respect her. Smacking was a severe punishment for consistantly pushing the limits and i have adopted a simular discipline with my DS. I do not smack when i'm angry because i don't want to let emotion lead me to smack too hard but if DS persistantly pushes the limits and efforts to reason, naughty step, quiet time, do not work i then threaten a smack. 9/10 times the threat works and we go no further but if it doesn't then i see it through. I do not leave a mark and do not smack bare flesh. The aim is not to hurt it is to shock.

I know many people disagree with smacking and that's fine but i know several people who use it as a punishment. I think other peoples parenting choices should be respected as their own decision.