Good old fashioned smacking

[heepie]

I don't believe it did me any harm and I do wonder why the previous generation, ie mine, was so much better behavied than the current, ie my kids. I find the softly softly, ignore bad reward good behaviour does not work with a strong willed child and find myself more and more thinking what was wrong with a good old smack? Peeing on the floor right in front of you with a big smile on the face surely warrants more than the removal of a star on the reward chart? And whacking little brother over the head with a heavy object? Not eating something very nice and edible that I have slaved over in the kitchen? Why must we never tell our children to eat what is in front of them when I wasn't allowed to leave the table until I was finished? I don't have an eating disorder. I think it's time I through all the modern how to bring up children books out of the window and remember how it was done when I was a child? Anyone else feel this way?

aw heepie, don't you want to discuss this? you did start this conversation you know.....

PS No I don't hit my kids, but then mine wouldnt behave that way - my glasses are already on!

Well, trip trap 9probably) and Paaarp... but just one small point.

We live in a world where trying to solve problems with violence is a stain on humanity across the world. It doesn't work, it causes untold suffering, it makes things worse and always has done. And we don't seem to learn.

Trying to teach children that violence is not the way to solve problems or deal with people you aren't happy with would seem to be a useful first step.

Come here Heepie, I'm afraid you spelt threw wrongly so I'm going to just administer a 'good old smack" to teach you a valuable lesson.

Sure you won't have a problem with that now will you?

sorry I meant THROW

[meowmix beats herself to teach herself a valuable lesson]

please dont feed the weirdy smacking trolls

I have occasionally smacked my two.

I did have to scoff a bit (although, to be fair I was already gobsmacked), when the father of the little boy who smacked my DS 4 (yes four times) in the back yesterday at a theme park said to him "Go and say sorry to that boy. Go on. If you dont go say sorry, I'll smack you...."

Well, even I realise that this was a pretty futile exercise, and probably served to reinforce the behaviour rather than rectify it......

Obviously this is quite a touchy subject. Heepie, nobody wants to publically agree with you but I will say that I agree that nothing is wrong with me and I was brought up the 'traditional' way.

I tried the 'modern' way for a while and have found that its doesn't provide quite the same 'incentive' to behave or comply. And I have a small 3 year old terrorist in the making. He walks past parked cars and I can see him wanting to jump in and take it for a joyride. Its basically PC britain gone wrong because nobody wants to admit they do it and they are so scared that someone is going to report them to social services or take their kids away. So the kids continue to run riot. I see nothing wrong with it if its done with a warning of the consequences and done with love. ie don't hit in anger and repeatedly. Sending them to their room for 10 mins to think about it first always helps! After all we are blessed with the gift of children and we have a responsibility to teach them the way they should go.

She sits back with a coffee and waits for bagsundereyes to pass the biscuits...

well said saffy....

'weirdy smacking trolls'
great name for a band
or a new range from sylvanian family

you know some trolls just cant wait for you to tell your smacking stories dont you?

I like "Spanking Trolls"

LOL at the Sylvanian Families possibility here
furrowed little furry brows?
Red and aching tiny paws from beating their little cubs?

saffy. i don't ever smack my ds's. they are not mini terrorists. you do believe in smacking. you describe your own ds as a "mini terrorist in the making"...... errr, do you think the hitting may not be working so well as you'd hoped??

Was away putting kids to bed, not avoiding responding. Children DD nearly 3, DS nearly 1. Was interested to see what response I would get. Glad to see some people at least think along my lines. I think violence is taught in the home by adults who lay into each other. I think a smack for overstepping the mark teaches a child that there are limits. I don't beat my children regularly, I give my eldest a smack very occassionally, not for eating or peeing (I mentioned those two because I wonder if deliberately doing that deserves one). I find the threat of a smack works absolute wonders provided she knows what exactly that means, having had a few. I am coming around to not feeling guilty about it any more. Each to their own hey. I'll be very surprised if recognise my children on CCTV on Crimewatch a few years down the track.

You would hope that a journo hack would be able to tell the difference between threw and through though, wouldn't you?

Well, this is the thing saffy.

Not everyone has the intelligence, presence of mind, or sense to dish out smacking in a proportionate manner.

Some children get clouts just for crying. Therein lies the problem.

My 2 most hated phrases in the world:

"It never did me any harm"

"PC gone mad!"

Apart from that...trolltrolltrolltrolltrolltrolltrolltrolltrolletytroll

Yes, Im sure they do Enid. But dont those sort just come out late at night????

So there was no badly behaved children before then? All children ate their dinner and didnt hit siblings?? I was smacked as a child and still rememeber doing those things.
Forcing your child to eat is one of the main reasons for such a fat socility now. My husband still struggles to finish dinner, and i say dont its fine but its been drilled inot him that you must finish your plate, what ever happened to listening to when your body says your full??
I admit I dont smack my dd but dont think she is badly behaved most of the time. I will admit to her going to bed with no dinner as she refused to eat what was made for dinner.

Smacking teaches what?? To live in fear of adults, hittings ok as long as its an adult that hits a child?? hmm that sounds logical

lisa

How do you know that lisad123?

Poor diet is the main reason for obesity in the UK, not beating your child into eating......... I think you are given too much credence to this.

I think children might be fat today because they eat a lot of junk !?!

That and kids not getting off their bottoms and moving about.