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Help me to "guide" DS2.10 please...

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mm22bys · 28/03/2007 09:21

Hi,

I lost it this morning with DS2.10.

Main issue is he helps himself to food in cupboards and fridge.

I tell him not to - take him down from bench and get him the food he wants - this morning it was toast.

Then I had to have a shower and I could hear him help himself to fridge again, this time he wanted yogurt. I told him to wait. Got back in shower and next thing I know DS is crying and there is yogurt all over the floor and walls.

Told him he was naughty and tried to explain that that is why I told him to wait...

In meantime I notice toast is still uneaten so told him to eat it. He threw it on the floor.

That's when I lost it with him...

He then ASKED for cheese, so I got it for him. He threw that on the floor so now he is in his room.

Help please! What am I doing wrong? I probably should not have left him unattended but what else can I do? I asked him to tell me if he was hungry, and I got him what he asked for, and still it all went wrong....

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yellowrose · 28/03/2007 18:10

Yes, absolutely necessary to have a pushchair with ds as he will run off or even worse go into the street. Depends on how safe/empty your roads are. Mine aren't.

FLIER · 28/03/2007 18:15

As with most things, it depends on the individual child and circumstances, I've seen 4yo's still in buggies....I've seen 2yo's no longer in buggies.....

Hulababy · 29/03/2007 20:53

Many 2yo I know of still have buggies for at least some of the time, if not all. Very much depends on circumstances that. 2yos arestill very little.

DrMarthaMcMoo · 29/03/2007 21:02

My kitchen/dining room is open plan and ds2 was a nightmare of a child who would do things lke drag a chair to the cooker and turn all the gas rings on.

I got one of these - it comes with wall fixings so instead of having it in a playpen shape (though you could also have it as a playpen and put him in it) you can create a long fence (of pretty much any shape - angled round corners etc.) with an opening gate in it. You can even buy extension pieces if the sections of the 'playpen' are not long enough.

When I was in the shower, though, I would shut him in his bedroom (with a gate - the door was hooked back so he couldn't trap his fingers) with some toys.

DrMarthaMcMoo · 29/03/2007 21:05

If you click on that top picture of the playpen you will see how it can be configured.

awenbadbunny · 29/03/2007 21:07

Re the openplan room - I had an open plan downstairs with ds when he was really small and I got the babydan playpen /link{http://shop.babyworld.co.uk/DisplayDetail.aspx?prodid=122\here} it is def big enough as a stair gate type thing and you can have it whatever lenght by taking out the segments.

BTW i actually think custy was right (twice in one day i have agreed with her !!)

awenbadbunny · 29/03/2007 21:08

here sorry

awenbadbunny · 29/03/2007 21:08

oo Dr Marth x posts

NorksBride · 29/03/2007 21:27

The Babydan playpen fence is not high enough to deter good and determined climbers. I used one to fence off open doors to the garden last summer and my 2.5yo was scaling it in no time.

And we have a highly accomplished 2.5yo at pre-school who climbed on a ride-on tractor and was about to disappear over a 4ft fence into the wilderness before someone grabbed the back of his trews. He is now man-marked at considerable expense.

And my friends 3yo is so damned tall he can practically step over stair gates.

These children are dangerous and need chaining up

DrMarthaMcMoo · 29/03/2007 21:39

Yes, we had that problem with ds1 - he kept climbing over the stairgate on his bedroom. So we mounted it a bit further up the wall. And he squeezed underneath. So we fastened a bit of wood at the bottom. And he prised it off.

We gave up in the end and took it off

Nightynight · 29/03/2007 21:47

I think that laughing at someone's problems is rarely helpful.

your ds sounds like a handful mm - fridge lock definitely, and I would investigate cupboard locks, maybe you could get away with just one, and put all his favourite foods in one cupboard??
If he gets no result, he will probably stop climbing up looking for food fairly quickly.

Must say, a child who threw toast on the floor wouldnt get anything else in my house. apart from a lecture on children who have nothing to eat (even 2 years old).
Your original description sounds like a child who likes doing stuff by himself, and seeks your attention, rather than a hungry child.

lou33 · 29/03/2007 23:22

i have a lock on a specific kitchen cupboard to stop my almost 15 yr old from snaffling all the goodies and a list of all refrigerated treats on the fridge door, so i know exactly how many of what there are supposed to be, to stop all of them helping themselves and clearing the goodies out within 48 hrs!

agree with custy btw, desperate times call for desperate measures

sohappyicouldcry · 29/03/2007 23:24

What about a playpen ?? Are they suitable for toddlers ?? Would he be too tall for it and thus manage to escape ???

My DD is only 8 months, but is up and mobile. Our playpen is a godsend !

Good luck and I have every sympathy with you.

midnightexpress · 30/03/2007 09:57

sorry if someone's alrweady suggested this, but erm, shower when he's gone to bed in the evening?

kitbit · 30/03/2007 10:52

at toddler who helps himself to food. I wish I had that problem - mine just doesn't eat. I leave nibble trays and cute perfect-for-little-fingers boxes of yummy things out to try and tempt him but no joy.
Maybe you could give him a place where he IS allowed to rifle for foods, and make those foods ones that you consider OK for him to have without supervision. Positive diversion might help channel his foraging into something you are happy with.

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mm22bys · 30/03/2007 11:21

Hi,

I've been trying to keep a low profile, but I have been really interested in all your responses (and the other thread ).

Thanks for all your advice, there are some great suggestions here, and I will try them out.

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bran · 30/03/2007 14:17

I have been dithering about posting this as I would normally steer clear of a thread where I think I might know the poster in rl, but I didn't realise until I read a different thread that I do know her. So.....

YOU LOT, be nice to mm22bys. She is a rl friend of mine and she is lovely, but knackered and very stressed.

(I keeping my fingers crossed that I'm fearsome enough make others obey and that there isn't a huge chorus of people denying they've ever heard of me.)

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mm22bys · 30/03/2007 14:23

Bran I have searched on your name and I think I know who you are.

Can we please not ever ever ever refer to this is in rl?

I am so so so embarrassed!

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bran · 30/03/2007 14:37

No, of course not. I will pretend that I don't know who you are forever more (actually I will almost certainly forget your MN name as I have a memory like a sieve). There's no need for you to be very embarassed, and I didn't mean to make it any worse, but I didn't want to see you in rl knowing that I had read a few of your threads without you knowing that I knew (IYSWIM). I know I have said and admitted to lots of very embarassing things on MN so I hope your search didn't turn those up.

Just in case you're not completely sure who I am, I always order the grilled calamari in a certain restaurant and we occasionally walk home from nursery together.

By the way, usually the number after ds indicates the position in the family and the age is given in brackets or sometimes after a dot, which is why some people thought you were talking about your second son who was 10 years old. Your elder son should be ds1(2.10) and your younger should be ds2(0.4).

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mm22bys · 30/03/2007 14:41

Thanks for the tips and I was right!

See you soon,

Now everybody else I am not going to tell you what you can and can't post about on MN, but can we please let this thread (and any related ones) die a (perhaps not so) natural and quite honestly well deserving death?

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