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Help me to "guide" DS2.10 please...

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mm22bys · 28/03/2007 09:21

Hi,

I lost it this morning with DS2.10.

Main issue is he helps himself to food in cupboards and fridge.

I tell him not to - take him down from bench and get him the food he wants - this morning it was toast.

Then I had to have a shower and I could hear him help himself to fridge again, this time he wanted yogurt. I told him to wait. Got back in shower and next thing I know DS is crying and there is yogurt all over the floor and walls.

Told him he was naughty and tried to explain that that is why I told him to wait...

In meantime I notice toast is still uneaten so told him to eat it. He threw it on the floor.

That's when I lost it with him...

He then ASKED for cheese, so I got it for him. He threw that on the floor so now he is in his room.

Help please! What am I doing wrong? I probably should not have left him unattended but what else can I do? I asked him to tell me if he was hungry, and I got him what he asked for, and still it all went wrong....

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OrvilleRedenbacher · 28/03/2007 17:31

has nayoen said a starigate?

WaynettanEasterEgg · 28/03/2007 17:32

Step away from the thread....nothing to see here. Everyone is all friends again, mm22bys has had had lots of good advice, and is going to try some of it out.
Again - Step away from the thread

littleEasterlapin · 28/03/2007 17:32

Orville - do you need a summary? Open plan layout not very conducive to stairgates, mm22bys also has a new LO taking up lots of time, 2yo is very inquisitive!

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mm22bys · 28/03/2007 17:33

Oh no.....

Please noone get upset but do I need to explain all this again?

Orville please don't take this as rudeness on my part, and I do appreciate you taking the time to respond and your advice, but stairgates are not practical in this situation.

Thank you for your time though!

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OrvilleRedenbacher · 28/03/2007 17:33

oh ok

kid in room
lock door?

OrvilleRedenbacher · 28/03/2007 17:33

ok will leave!

LilyLoo · 28/03/2007 17:33

LOL Waynetta

ChocolateSucksWithoutSugar · 28/03/2007 17:34

Littlelapin - am lol at the efforts your friends went to to attach their babydan playpen to the walls as a long divider gate. You only have to phone up Babydan and they send you the wall brackets to attach it for free!

FLIER · 28/03/2007 17:34

mm22bys
I went through this when my lo was around the same age and it is so infuriating so I can really sympathise with you. Like you say, it's more the safety aspect rather than the fact he's helping himself to food. All I can say is that he will grow out of it, especially if you keep impressing upon him that he shouldn't be doing it. Funnily enough, my son did this when his little sister was newly born, so obviously an attention thing.
PS We locked all our cupboards, fridge etc using the magnet locks, but I couldn't believe it when I kept catching him dragging chairs through from the dining room to the kitchen & climbing up to the higher unlocked cupboards! .
Sorry for long post, just wanted to show support, I'm fairly new to posting too.

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mm22bys · 28/03/2007 17:35

At least I am laughing now....

It is actually really funny when you think about it isn't it?

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yellowrose · 28/03/2007 17:37

OMG - I have just seen this ! Why would you report people who has given excellent advice ? At first I thought he was TEN not TWO.TEN and I was going to suggest you both see a therapist (Please don't report me, I am joking !!) Then reaised he is 2.10, same age as my son and realised he is just bloody NORMAL !

littleEasterlapin · 28/03/2007 17:37

chocolate - d'oh... although might be cos they are in married quarters and trying not to make many holes? More likely cos he's a BOY and they like to do stuff like that (her DH, I mean)

littleEasterlapin · 28/03/2007 17:38

she's apologised... golly, it is getting groundhog!

margo1974 · 28/03/2007 17:44

can i add to the thread?

terramum · 28/03/2007 17:48

What really helped stop DS (now 2yrs 8 months) from emptying all my kitchen cupboards was giving him his own cupboard. It also meant we werent constantly saying "NO" to him....instead "Why dont you have a look in Hs cupboard.." or "Thats Hs cupboard" (saying his name as he didnt really understand "your" back then). It had all his cups, plates etc in it as well as other non-dangerous kitchen items like tubberwear, wooden utensils. Maybe worth trying that & leaving a range of healthy snacks in it every day that you dont mind him having so he is able to feel a little grown up & can still help himself to stuff....just the stuff you want him to have

Judy1234 · 28/03/2007 17:50

Still don't see why he can't be locked in the bathroom with you off the kitchen whilst you have a shower. Then he can't get at anything. he doesn't have to come in the actual shower.

nailpolish · 28/03/2007 17:53

i think you should take him into the bathroom with you while you shower

they like to play peek a boo with the shower curtain

FLIER · 28/03/2007 17:54

I've prob been v irresponsible, but I used to have a bath while my little one watched cbeebies, I used to time it with something that I knew he would stay glued to for 10-15mins while I could get a v quick bath then at least I could hear him if he moved.
controversial?

nailpolish · 28/03/2007 17:55

actually come to think if it i used to let them have a treat while i showered, they got to watch telly in my bed

worked a treat for a while

RTKangaMummy · 28/03/2007 17:55

He may even apprieate the special Mummy + big boy time

without baby {who is safely in cot}

ucm · 28/03/2007 17:57

Actually if your bathroom is on ground level and you are having a quick shower, what about strapping him in the buggy and either having him in with you of plonking him in front of CBeebies.

yellowrose · 28/03/2007 17:58

Or he could just watch you have a shower, you give him a snack and a few toys to play with in the bathroom with you with the door shut. Ds does this, he loves watching me in the bath/shower and he gets toys to throw into the water while I get clean

I agree with terramum too. Good advice. Ds is allowed to open and pull out all our kitchen cupboards, I don't put anything dangerous in the bottom shelves. He is growing out of it now, but he used to get all the pots and pans and spoons out and take them to the living room. I allowed him, it was a game for him. The less you say "no, don't do that" with things that don't really matter, the sooner they grow out of it.

Ds is same age as yours mm22bys !

terramum · 28/03/2007 18:03

Just remembered reading all these suggestions re you showering....When DS was littler we didnt have a door on the bathroom (it fell off its hinges ) so had to have ways of keeping DS safe & occupied without leaving him to scream somewhere else....so to keep him happy & occupied I got him "involved" in my bath/shower....asked him to pass me the towel, shampoo, shower gel, my glasses etc...it seemed to keep him happy & he looked really chuffed when he got the right bottle or managed to pick up the big bath towel or wipe mummy eyes for her

nailpolish · 28/03/2007 18:03

does a 2.10yr old still have a buggy??

terramum · 28/03/2007 18:08

Mine does but we dont use it much - only for when we walk back from PILs house after a visit as he is usually asleep & is too heavy to carry now....the only time he uses it when awake is if I bribe him with food when I know Im going to have to walk a long way & know that half way he will stop, look mourneful & ask to be carried