Help me to "guide" DS2.10 please...

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Hi,

I lost it this morning with DS2.10.

Main issue is he helps himself to food in cupboards and fridge.

I tell him not to - take him down from bench and get him the food he wants - this morning it was toast.

Then I had to have a shower and I could hear him help himself to fridge again, this time he wanted yogurt. I told him to wait. Got back in shower and next thing I know DS is crying and there is yogurt all over the floor and walls.

Told him he was naughty and tried to explain that that is why I told him to wait...

In meantime I notice toast is still uneaten so told him to eat it. He threw it on the floor.

That's when I lost it with him...

He then ASKED for cheese, so I got it for him. He threw that on the floor so now he is in his room.

Help please! What am I doing wrong? I probably should not have left him unattended but what else can I do? I asked him to tell me if he was hungry, and I got him what he asked for, and still it all went wrong....

No great advice I'm afraid. But for what it's worth, I wouldn't like to be called "daft" either. People can be quite hurtful on here I've found, although many people are very kind and helpful.

Yes as a childminder I have locks on all cupboards etc.

There is NO WAY that a 3 year old will open our stirgates

Adults can't do it

and they are controlled by strength

I'm a childminder so yes i do have cupboard locks on every cupboard including the bathroom cupboard.

This afternoon i will be caring for 4 children ages..

16mths
19mths
2.10yr old (very bright like i said)
7yr old

NONE of them will be helping themselves to the food even though i don't have a stairgate on my kitchen or fridge lock.

I have ds (2.5) and take him in shower with me (over bath one) and let him amuse himself with pouring water etc till I have finished.

He gets washed as well so bonus.

He can unlock (downstairs) bathroom door and run into kitchen so he comes in with me.

Would never consider leaving him by himself while I did it as would come back to devestation.

What make of stair gates do you use? I know that some are easier to get through than others.
My parents made a stair gate for their house.
I don't suppose you know a carpenter or could get one made.
Perhaps you

I have a locks on all but one of my cupboards where I put all her plates bowls and cups and a small bit of food.

I have locks on every single cupboard apart from the one that holds only plastic stuff and the pan cupboard

I don't lock the fridge but then I have a US fridge freezer

I don't have locks on the drawers

my 6 year old can open the locks although I've told him he's not allowed to so he doesn't .. because he's 6 .. my 2.10 year old would just look me in the face and laugh

My ds is 4 and he comes upstairs with me when I shower. I have a stairgate at top of stairs. I have a dd too (19m)

If your ds could manage to climb over that and put himself in danger, then I would take him into the bathroom with me and lock the door. Give him one of those 'clean' drawing toys like an aquadraw or magnet sketch pen thingy(sorry can't think of name) to get on with. Or any toys really.

For friggin's sake!

It was not the advice I reported!!!!

The fact that I was called "daft"!!!!

You all like being called "daft" do you?

I would like to know your response!

If I wasn't struggling I wouldn't have come here for advice and help.

I didn't come here though to be insulted.

ds (22mo) stays with me when i shower

I don't have locks but mainly she is not out of my sight and if she does venture into the kitchen whilst I am lolling on the sofa I bellow DD2 COME OUT OF THE KITCHEN NOW

The only room she is allowed in alone is the playroom and even then I walk in and she is balanced on one leg on the table trying to reach a candle 6ft in the air or something

bloody nightmare child

but SHE IS 2 and I am hoping this is a PHASE and will END SOON

You need to move all objects
Keep in sight at all times
Count to 10

then go somewhere else

daft not sufficiently insulting to warrant reporting a post to mnhq imvho

you mightfind babyworld more to your taste

I obviously don't know that I am born. I have had not one, but two, children that I could/can quite happily leave at this age while I have a shower. I must be extra careful with contraception because I would obviously be due a terror next.

re being daft. I can be daft so am not too fussed.
There are worse things to be called.

Ktanga, Just to say my ds when 2.5y was opening stair gates and cupboard locks! It is not the norm I agree but he was a bl**dy nuisance.

Please tell us why he can't come into bathroom with you or you have shower before he is up

be afraid, be very afraid bozza

dd1 was so 'good' and dd2 makes up for it in spades

Lots of people on Mn have been called daft, or similar. They don't report the post.

We have all been there - hence the reaosn we are all giving the same answers.

I personally learnt the hard way after i had a bath and dd1 emptied a tub on butter onto my sofa and sudacrem over my chair - so i definately do know what its like.

As for being called daft i've been called alot worse.

I am not hog whimpering wild about being called daft but I wouldn't report it. I might seethe, inwardly, and Plot, but then I quite enjoy nursing a sense of coruscating resentment.

Thanks RachelG, that is actually what I have found.

Honestly there is NO way a child would be strong enough to open our ones

you need to twist and lift a disk

they are TOMY ADJUST A WIDTH GATES circa 1995

Twiglett, dont tell her to go somewhere else. I know you are p*ssed about this but can we all keep it civil.

OK, next question then, how do I "control" DS2.10 by keeping him by my side at all times and still look after his sick 4 month old brother?