Help me to "guide" DS2.10 please...

[mm22bys]

Hi,

I lost it this morning with DS2.10.

Main issue is he helps himself to food in cupboards and fridge.

I tell him not to - take him down from bench and get him the food he wants - this morning it was toast.

Then I had to have a shower and I could hear him help himself to fridge again, this time he wanted yogurt. I told him to wait. Got back in shower and next thing I know DS is crying and there is yogurt all over the floor and walls.

Told him he was naughty and tried to explain that that is why I told him to wait...

In meantime I notice toast is still uneaten so told him to eat it. He threw it on the floor.

That's when I lost it with him...

He then ASKED for cheese, so I got it for him. He threw that on the floor so now he is in his room.

Help please! What am I doing wrong? I probably should not have left him unattended but what else can I do? I asked him to tell me if he was hungry, and I got him what he asked for, and still it all went wrong....

my 2.10 could climb anything by ageof 2. some kids just do.

Bozza you are due a terror be very very careful!

lmao at this whole thread.

mm22bys you have actually been quite rude. You've had loads of advice - but practically your only response to that has been

'THERE IS NO KITCHEN DOOR!!!!!!!!!!

How many times do I have to say this?'

Shouting = quite rude imvho.

Then you say 'ok next question then' - you're actually coming across as much more confrontational than custy did when she called you daft

Maybe you should step away from this thread for now, and come back when you are calmer and can concentrate on the good advice you have been given. Just a suggestion

I can never manage to shower b4 my LO's awake as the noise of the shower always always wakes her

Hasn't anybody said "where do you usually go to be insulted?" yet?

I had a safety gate on my kitchen until ds was 2. I had a playpen until he was about 18 month and I could happily put him in it and go for a shower. after that he played upstairs where there was also a safety gate. the gates we had were those ones that you had to lift and push at the same time, and unless your 2 yo is related to arnold Schwartznegger (sp?) or some similar such god of muscle, he will not be able to open those gates.

take your child upstairs while you shower, or shower early in the morning or before you go to bed when the kids are in bed.

really this is common sense stuff not first time parent stuff.

has anyone noticed that whenever anyone feels a bit embarrassed by a post they have made, they always reveal that there is a Dark And Secret Reason For It, rather than just saying "sorry i overreacted"

could be a coincidence of course, and mm22bb, i'm sure yours is entirely valid

Sorry for my last post mm22bys, I took ages to type it and I didn't see that you and custy have patched things up.

JanH I did, I did .. but I got told off for it .. but I didn't give it the right phrasing so can understand why

in my head I was larfing though

call me a taxi
you're a taxi

Oh I was first???

(I usually miss the chance to get punchlines in )

The rollerblind stairgates are huge. I thought about using them to block off my mum and dad's landing (which is about 10 foot long. 2, one on top of each other, then he can't climb over.

Alternatively custy's suggestiuon is again a good one. Handyman, bespoke solution. We have people coming to fix perspex over the length of our stairs because our period features are dangerous to an autistic 7 year old who likes to try and wriggle through 4 floors up.

There is always a physical soultion- you just have to think outside of the box.

OK I will say it.

Sorry I overreacted.

I expect this will get posted to the other thread now.

I do feel humiliated, and I don't like the feeling.

Thanks for everyone's advice.

I am going to step away from this thread now, and will leave some of you to keep making fun of me.

Sorry especially to Custy and Twiglett and for shouting at the other poster.

Can we please leave it alone now?

Well done mm22bys, and please don't be scared away from MN.

Before you leave please tell us why he can't come into bathroom and be locked in with you?

Or ave a shower while he is in bed?

ds can't open babygates (and he is a baby Arnie ) but he gives up to quickly and unscrews them from the wall

Then he complains cos the 'gate's broken'

I love him as a 2yo, but dear god they are testing

Actually, custy and twiglett are not right. There are some children who can outdo any security measure, and climb /scramble onto anything. I should know, I had one. He was unstoppable. I tore my hair out until he was 6, and then he morphed into the sweetest, most laid-back boy ever.

I would personally keep telling him your rules, if necessary backed up by timeout. He is challenging your rules. If you stick to your guns, he will eventually bend to the you want to do things.

That helping themselves drives me nuts too. Even at the ages they are now (9, 11, 13) I expect them to ask before having anything. I need to know what we have in house, and plan things based on what I know we have. Otherwise, my housekeeping would tun into a magic mystery tour every mealtime. Can't be doing that when we live 4 miles away from nearest shop.

I hope you don't leave and never come back - mn is great really.

Yes please do.

Answer the questions I mean, not leave and never come back.

arf

hooray and well done mm22bb

Don't feel humiliated, you are obviously having a rough time with things we don't know about, you understandably over-reacted at a typical blunt MN response and it's all gone a bit Pete Tong!

Do you think we might be able to help with the other things? At the moment, you probably wish we'd all go play in the traffic...

I'm not saying that you should have to justify your posts with "Right, I have an unwell baby, and I'm very stressed, and this is the problem, please be nice" but sometimes questions seem like they are really easily answered so maybe that explains the blunt/one words answers that get given.

And you have made up with the others, so no need for further upset!

Oh don;t go MM22bys - we've all over-reacted from time to time or felt humiliated by and some bugger (like me) keeps coming along and buming the bloody thread.

Live and learn - if you are feeling sensitive or stressed and need people to make soothing commetns you need ot say so quite openly. I know it sounds mad but its hard to get a feel for things when in a post so you need to be much more direct.

For crying out loud, I type 4 lines and 18 of you other so and sos get in before me!

I am beginning to realise that DS who is "good" and 3.4 may not have prepared me for DD who is 18 months and "inquisitive". Although she is OK with bedroom cupboards.