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my partner smacked my dd

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majormug · 07/09/2006 23:03

help.... the other night my partner smacked my daugter because she licked her hands after she had eaten a doughnut..... he had told her not to and told her to go wash her hands.... temptation got the better of her and she licked them. i giggled because its the sort of thing i would do. it was a smack not a tap. he isnt in my good books anyway.... long story but we havent been together long and even her daddy wouldnt smack for something so trivial. he is always getting at her.... on a recent holiday she went through a 'dribbly' phase (how else do i put it.... little accidents' he went mad... took away privaledges and i had to turn my head whilst i cried. i know that this is def NOT the way to treat her or deal with her but our relationship is very fragile...

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majormug · 30/07/2007 23:46

its going to be hard but worth it. please keep bumping this for me if you can so when i can pick up messages or get a friend to print them all off for me!!!!

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DrippingLizzie · 30/07/2007 23:47

Good luck with everything. I don't think you'll regret your decision.

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majormug · 30/07/2007 23:57

please keep bumping this everyone. i will try get back to pick up messages x

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Saturn74 · 30/07/2007 23:58

just put the thread on watch, then you can go straight to it next time you're online.

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majormug · 31/07/2007 08:24

Morning all, just having last breakfast and then off to start arduous task of unpacking a 5yr old girls bedroom - which has been harder to move than any other room - too many toys!!! Going to get the music on and a cuppa in hand!!!

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majormug · 31/07/2007 09:05

Anyone up yet??

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HonoriaGlossop · 31/07/2007 09:19

majormug, well done. I am so impressed you've had the strength to do what you've done. I have worked in social work in the past and I saw people there who were completely unable to prioritise their children over their relationship and I've seen the damage done to children.

You are a top parent and I'm very proud of you.

lucyellensmum · 31/07/2007 09:33

majormug, you are such a brave and strong person, ive not read all of this but i am so proud of you - you have done the right thing for your dd and for you. You too should feel very proud of yourself.

Budababe · 31/07/2007 09:38

Well done you! Your DD will be SO proud of you when she is old enough to understand it all.

And, more importantly, you should be very proud of yourself!

Lots of people here to support you.

New name suggestion for you:

"Iwasamajormugbutnotanymore!"

Too long to type?

"majormughasleftthebuilding"!

We'll find you a new name to go with the new you!

macmama73 · 31/07/2007 09:52

Well done majormugthatwas!!

You deserve to be very happy with your DD, she will be proud of you!

TeaTime · 01/08/2007 00:53

Hi MM - so happy for you and dd - I read the whole thread and felt the pain you've been through, not to mention the issue of people wondering whether it was all genuine... Good luck in your new life and freedom - you're a brilliant mum so keep that thought in mind and drive that low self esteem out...(that was someone else )

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majormug · 03/08/2007 19:51

had a few ups and downs this week but still happy with it all. he is doing his upmost to wind me up, make me jealous etc etc but am getting my make up on, doing hair and thinkng sod it!!!!!

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majormug · 31/08/2007 16:28

still happy in new house. x

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tiredemma · 31/08/2007 16:32

Wonderful news.

As Whitney Houston once said 'rather be alone than unhappy' !!!!

UnderPesha · 31/08/2007 16:54

MM I was following this thread before - sooo glad to see you've moved out and got your own place, how exciting!!!

I dont know about where you live but here as well as freecycle there is a charity for people in receipt of certain benefits where you can buy furniture, toys, bedding, videos and they even have paint and wallpaper - end of the line things from b&q and places, all really cheap. I think most areas have something like this, the local council would have more details I expect. I furnished my entire house from there when I left my xp with my dd 6 years ago and have gradually been replacing it with new furniture bit by bit. But I loved having my own house to decorate exactly how I wanted and the freedom to do what I wanted, when I wanted.

You should be so proud doing this for yourself and your wonderful little girl Keep posting and letting us know how you get on. Perhaps you should start a new thread for your new life?

And I agree you should change your name - go into my mumsnet then registration details and just type in whatever name you fancy (just make sure to tell us who you are so we can keep supporting you!)

PutThatInYourPipeandSmokeIt · 31/08/2007 18:46

Brilliant - stick with it or you are likely to be sentencing your DD to having disfunctional relationships in the future.

sparklycheerymummy · 07/05/2009 14:34

hi i am major mug but with a new name. I am reading this and its scary when i realise what me and my daughter web=nt through. however i have since met a truly wonderful man. its all good. i am a real success story!!! Anyone who is in an unhappy relationship take note.... there is light at the end of the tunnel

beesonmummyshead · 07/05/2009 19:23

i've just read through this sparkly and just want to say WELL DONE!!! thankfully i've never been in your situation, but I imagine it takes an awful lot of courage to go through what you have done and come out the other side a better, happier person.

sparklycheerymummy · 07/05/2009 20:45

thanks its a great feeling..... have had some cognitive behaviour therapy to make sure i change the way i deal with situations in future. that was a brill experience!!

MrsKitty · 08/05/2009 07:48

I'm so happy for you that you found the strength to escape from such a horrible situation - and I'm so glad for your daughter.

I really hope that the therapy has helped and that you and your daughter will never ever find yourselves in a similar situation again.

Well done & congratulations on your new life!

welshbyrd · 08/05/2009 07:54

You are obviously aware what he is doing is wrong, so why post this thread???

You might want to spend your time more constructively, like getting incontact with the appropriate people, to get rid of this animal

Any man out his hands to my kids, would not be around to do it again

This is wrong, and you know it, why would you consider staying with him???

You maybe scared of him, but how much more scared of him is your DD?

You want locking up if you stay with him

You should be disgusted with yourself for even considering it

welshbyrd · 08/05/2009 07:56

awwww soz didnt read the whole thread, was enraged as soon as i saw the original thread

Well done for getting rid of this dick

Take care and enjoy your DD x

pottycock · 08/05/2009 07:57

welshbyrd have you read the last few posts?!

pottycock · 08/05/2009 07:58

whoops xposts!

Devendra · 08/05/2009 07:59

Ummm read the whole thread welshbyrd