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my partner smacked my dd

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majormug · 07/09/2006 23:03

help.... the other night my partner smacked my daugter because she licked her hands after she had eaten a doughnut..... he had told her not to and told her to go wash her hands.... temptation got the better of her and she licked them. i giggled because its the sort of thing i would do. it was a smack not a tap. he isnt in my good books anyway.... long story but we havent been together long and even her daddy wouldnt smack for something so trivial. he is always getting at her.... on a recent holiday she went through a 'dribbly' phase (how else do i put it.... little accidents' he went mad... took away privaledges and i had to turn my head whilst i cried. i know that this is def NOT the way to treat her or deal with her but our relationship is very fragile...

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majormug · 01/03/2007 23:35

ok. just worried and upset that i came on here for support and people are making out that i am going under dif names etc..... is there another thread discussing me....i think i need to read it.

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hunkermunker · 01/03/2007 23:45

No, afaik it was one post and only in a climate of "OMG there are namechangers everywhere, let's root them all out" - there was no big discussion of you.

Are you OK? How's your DD?

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majormug · 01/03/2007 23:48

oh an mejustme you have no idea. i would never hit my daughter and perhaps coming on here was not only a way of getting some support from other people i dont know it was a way of telling my friends as i know a paricular friend comes on here and i didnt know how to tell her. i dont actually feel like i can talk about how things are now for fear of getting accused of making it up. i am incredibly hurt that you would think i would do this to get attention,,,,, it completely delittles what i am going through and brings my self esteem even lower

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majormug · 01/03/2007 23:50

i dont know how to change my name and dont see the point..... if i dont want to know what people have to say i just dont come on here.

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hunkermunker · 01/03/2007 23:52

MM, please don't take it personally - you know what MN is like for troll-outing (bonkers and inaccurate sometimes) - don't let the small minority put you off getting support, if not for your sake, then for your DD's sake.

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majormug · 01/03/2007 23:58

you might see i dont come on so much nowadays which is a shame..... but i also dont feel i can post on other peoples threads.... like i have been blacklisted. looking back at other threads i am on it may look like i am making things up.... one message said we had just split then another mentioned something like it a few days before. anyone who knows me realises that it realy has been on and off like that..... i decide its over and he crawls back. anyway what i need help with now is money.... where i can go for help finding a house etc..... whatever has or hasnt gone on recently i know he is NOT the one.

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hunkermunker · 02/03/2007 00:11

Are you with him now? Do keep posting - start a new thread maybe?

Sakura · 02/03/2007 01:06

majormug, you are really strong to have made this decision and to have realised that he is not the one. I wish my dad could have "rescued" me and my brothers from the situation we were in, by just acknowledging how it was in the way you have. You can`t imagine what a huge, important step you have made by simply acknowledging the problem.

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majormug · 03/03/2007 07:51

lke i said dont feel able to say much on here now..... i am ok and dd is fab!!! big 5 year old now!!

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majormug · 30/07/2007 23:09

HI I JUST THOUGHT I WOULD COME BACK ON TO LET YOU ALL KNOW THAT I AM FREE. I HAVE A LOVELY LITTLE HOUSE OF MY OWN FOR ME AND DD. I AM SKINT, HAVE NO SOFA, BED OR TABLE YET BUT AM QUITE EXCITED. LITTLE SCARED, WORRIED ETC ABOUT BEING LONELY BUT LOOKING FORWARD TO CAMPING OUT IN LOUNGE WITH DD, MAKING BUNS AT 8AM ON A SUNDAY MORNING AND SINGING 'GIRLS JUST WANNA HAVE FUN' REALLY LOUD. REALISED I WAS ONLY STAYING WITH HIM BECAUSE I DIDN'T WANT HIM TO BE WITH ANYONE ELSE. NOW HAVE TO BE STRONG AND REALLY PISS HIM OFF BY BEING OK (OR PRETENDING TO BE EVEN IF I AM NOT) EVEN TREATED MYSELF TODAY TO £120 WORTH OF CLOTHES AND SHOES FROM NEXT (HAVENT BOUGHT MYSLEF ANYTHING NEW FOR YEARS!!) AM WRITING IN CAPITALS BECAUSE I AM SO EXCITED. WILL HAVE TO USE MY DADS COMPUTER FROM NOW BUT WILL STILL POP BY SO KEEP IN TOUCH EVERYONE!!

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Saturn74 · 30/07/2007 23:10

Well done!
I hope you and your DD have a wonderful, happy life in your new home.

Saturn74 · 30/07/2007 23:10

And change your posting name to something more optimistic now?

divastrop · 30/07/2007 23:11

very happy for you,you sound very stong,and your strength will grow and grow.

all the best xxx

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majormug · 30/07/2007 23:11

Thanks, its about time I got something right in my life!!! dd is a bit sad about leaving ex but i am sure he will soon be forgotten!

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UCM · 30/07/2007 23:12

Well done you, I remember your posts. I am so pleased that it's all worked out for you.

Please don't type in capital letters though, IT'S HARD TO READ

Biglips · 30/07/2007 23:15

hooray well done majormug...(you can change ya nickname now!)......

as you are skint atm...take a look on Freecycle.org for furniture for your house as you be surprised what you will find for free....yes all for free!! (you just gotta collect it)

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majormug · 30/07/2007 23:16

Sorry about caps!! It was some stuff that my dd said that made me bloomin wake up!

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EscapeFrom · 30/07/2007 23:17

Hoooorayyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyy!!!!!!!!!!

I am very very happy you have left, MM.

EscapeFrom · 30/07/2007 23:17

What did she say?

legalalien · 30/07/2007 23:18

Majormug - have only skimmed the thread and have absolutely no idea whether you are real or not real.

My view on life has always been that if you have something someone else might need, and it's no loss to you to give it, then you ought to trust people when they say they need stuff and take the risk.

So - if you do need stuff (practical stuff like furniture) and can give a general idea of where physically you are (city etc) - suggest you do so. suspect there are at least some people who feel like me.

sure - we get taken for mugs sometimes - but that's the risk you take.

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majormug · 30/07/2007 23:20

I am real. I am in north yorkshire.

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legalalien · 30/07/2007 23:26

sorry if annoying - just had a bit more of a flick through and realised just how many "are you real" suggestions that there were.

Am miles away which limits practical help but must be someone out there nearby?

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majormug · 30/07/2007 23:32

the whole real thing happened because i have some friends from outside mumsnet who are on here - they introduced me to it. when my friends realised it was me and i was too worried to say anything they posted on here to give me support and try explain to others what the situation was like for me. my friends were on here first and they changed their name to try protect my identity - i think they have been to meet ups etc. i ws shocked to find after a gap of coming onn that there was the suggestion i wasnt real.my situation has been awful but now is on the up.

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majormug · 30/07/2007 23:38

dd told me she wanted to be another little girl, nobody liked her and she was horrid. she can be a monkey but she is brilliant!

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hunkermunker · 30/07/2007 23:40

Oh, fab! Am very glad you're making a fresh start. Well done!