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my partner smacked my dd

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majormug · 07/09/2006 23:03

help.... the other night my partner smacked my daugter because she licked her hands after she had eaten a doughnut..... he had told her not to and told her to go wash her hands.... temptation got the better of her and she licked them. i giggled because its the sort of thing i would do. it was a smack not a tap. he isnt in my good books anyway.... long story but we havent been together long and even her daddy wouldnt smack for something so trivial. he is always getting at her.... on a recent holiday she went through a 'dribbly' phase (how else do i put it.... little accidents' he went mad... took away privaledges and i had to turn my head whilst i cried. i know that this is def NOT the way to treat her or deal with her but our relationship is very fragile...

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qi · 04/10/2006 20:56

majormugsfriend good that you want to help.

I'd like you to pass on to here that she has the strength to post her, she is doing okay. She will be able to find help and strength to get away from it.

I haven't been in her situ before byself but I have a friend who's mother was a bit like that. He totally hates his mother thinking that she did not protect him (he should forgive her but he grows up with problems so not making sensible judegments sometime). I know there are psychotheropists who would do sessions for free if the person really needs help and can't afford it. Maybe a threopist can help her become stronger.

Best of luck to her. It break my heart when hearing bad story like this. Really it is not her fault to be in the situation, all she needs is accept others help.

runkid · 06/10/2006 21:45

Majormug or anyone who knows her how is she doing

runkid · 09/10/2006 22:14

majormug how are you

runkid · 25/10/2006 19:42

Majormug how are things with you !!

I have been wondering about you and your dd

BATtymumma · 25/10/2006 19:49

i received an email and am a little worried. i have replied a couple of times but have yet to get a response

essbee · 25/10/2006 19:57

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cowmad · 25/10/2006 19:57

hhmmm

tortUREoisechamber · 25/10/2006 19:59

I had been wondering too. Hope they are ok.

runkid · 25/10/2006 20:09

Battymumma if you speak to mm again let her know were thinking about her please

erinssleepymum · 26/10/2006 09:35

hi, read through this whole thread last night and couldnt stop crying! brought back many-a-memory i can tell you! i just hope you get the help and support MM and soon B4 it totally destroys your souls. leaving will be the hardest thing you will ever do but time is a great healer and you will get through it. please leave for the sake of your little girl. dont let her grow up thinking its ok to be bullied and hit. you need to give your DD confidence at this age...not fear. hope you get help soon. much love xx

cowmad · 06/11/2006 10:35

and whats happening here then?
mm or mm friend ?

cowmad · 07/11/2006 23:43

bump

where are you mm an mmf??

runkid · 10/11/2006 09:37

How are you mm is everything ok i often wonder how you are getting on

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majormug · 15/11/2006 21:57

I am ok.... thanks for all asking. Am actually ill for second time in a few weeks so feeling crabby. still with him. have now lost my own house because i couldnt afford to keep it going. am doing everything to make things right for dd and read him the riot act about how to deal with her. told him that her wetting pants is partly due to stress. I swear on everything i have that if he will never be aggresive towards her. the issue is more me now that his house is covered in what he calls my shite.... my life is in boxes and he has not sorted any of his stuff out or moved anything to make space for us. when we moved our stuff over all he helped with was my fridge.... now his beer fridge and the washer (because his was broken and he needed one) I spent days and days lumping huge boxes on my own whilst cleaning house and rectifying damage to cupboards etc on my own. my back is knackered and i am having quite serious 'monthly' troubles. He comeas home to a nice cooked meal..... mainly because i want my dd to eat well, she is always bathed and ready for bed by 7.30 and yet he still goes mad saying he has no time on own to chill. in a house covered in boxes beause i have nowhere to put stuff. cant even get to my clothes so wearing same stuff. am seriously considering leaving stuff in boxes and finding a one bed flat and just being with my dd. trouble is i am skint and owe lots on credit card trying to keep him happy. went to cab last year and gotmoney sorted.... cant face it again. if someone gave me 10,000 i would run out the door.

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Fattymumma · 15/11/2006 22:05

you have answered your own thread right there MM.

You need to leave, you may have sorted the fact that of him being aggressive to yoru DD but he is still treating you both badly.
this relationship is going nowhere, finances shoudl never be a reason to stay with someone.

plesse please contact womens aid. also try speak9ing to your local housing authority, as you have a daughter they may be able to help house you if you explain that your relationship has ended.

runkid · 15/11/2006 22:12

Oh majormug

You can do this and i feel you really want to but need the strength.
You no he is never going to change and you could be so much happier.
You can get strength help and advice from the women on here.
Keep in touch

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majormug · 15/11/2006 22:16

i will do. feeling really rough at mo... nthink i have some sort of throat virus..... went off to work feeling terrible and didnt even get a text asking if was ok.... hasnt made me a drink or cleared a plate away. he said he was too busy to text but found 15 minutes to call a female friend!

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runkid · 15/11/2006 22:57

Hope you feel better soon i will watch this thread so post if you can.
Keep your chin up {{{{hug}}}}

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majormug · 17/11/2006 23:17

anyone there this evening x

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ISawTortoiseKissingSantaClaus · 17/11/2006 23:19

How are you feeling mm?

Saturn74 · 17/11/2006 23:19

Hello MM, how are you feeling?

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majormug · 17/11/2006 23:26

am ok.... missing my friends a lot....

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Fattymumma · 17/11/2006 23:30

wherabouts are you MM, i really think you need to speak with someone.

i honestly belive it is only practicalities keeping you where you are, if we could help you see that you could recive help with that side of things maybe you would feel better about ridding yourself of this (ahem) man

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majormug · 17/11/2006 23:35

am a bit concerned about giving my whereabouts seeing as though i have been threatened with social services.

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ISawTortoiseKissingSantaClaus · 17/11/2006 23:37

You should be able to get housed. As someone said speak to womans aid and get the help you really need to get yourself and your child away from him.