runkid, I seem to recall there was a bit of a controversy a few weeks ago about another poster and there was a suggestion that majormug was another alias for that poster - so people are not sure how genuine she was....
Have stumbled across this posting by accident tonight and have spent the time to read most (but not all) of it. Early on in the thread I heard warning bells....not of safety but of a con going on. IMO this posting was simply a way of getting attention. Having been in a very abusive relationship with my Ds' father I know that you do go through hell and high water to get out of the situation. You go through the hate myself, life, everything emotions when it is affecting only yourself. BUT when something affects your child however minute it may be you DO move heaven and earth to resolve the situation. MM, FmmF, MMF IMHO are one and the same, some sick person who seemed to think this was amusing. Posters showed genuine concern and I wish to god that when I was in the relationship with my son I had had you all to support me. Luckily I got out and I am now in a very stable, happy, loving relationship with a man who loves me and DS, he has said many times he wants to adopt DS.....and we have only been together just a year and 9 days. For the first time in a long time I am happy and I can proudly say I came through the shit a much stronger wiser person.
As for MM I will not believe it was a true account of what was going on, if anything I would say it was either a game or MM had hit her daughter and needed to get it off her chest....WHO KNOWS????
Anyways to all those in abusive relationships please take this on board. My DS was 22 months old when his father and I split, i waited too long, I wanted to be away from the situation but his constant verbal, physical and emotional abuse had taken all my confidence....What changed me was my the 22 month old getting in front of me when he was about to hit me and saying "Daddy don't hit my mummy hit me instead". Where he found the words from i don't know, but now he is 8 yrs old and still remembers what happened to me. He has a hard time trusting people especially men and I have finished 3 relationships because of it, (none lasted too long) My ds is more important to me than life itself. BUT he adores DP and asked if he can call him daddy?????? unsure ?????? all i know is DS is happy, I am happy and DP is happy.
Please anyone in this situation even if you DC is not being hit, the abuse affects them in a major way. They will remember it for a long time afterwards don't torture them with these memories, GET OUT BEFORE THERE ARE TOO MANY MEMORIES FOR THEM PLEASE FOR THE LOVE, SANITY, SAFETY AND SECURITY OF YOUR CHILDREN DO IT NOW!!!!!