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I am never going to last until Feb

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nutcracker · 03/01/2006 15:10

Am meant to be doing a positive parenting course in feb. The main reason i am doing it is due to Dd2's behaviour.

The course doesn't start until sometime in feb, but at this rate she won't live that long.

Last night her and dd1 stayed at my moms and by all accounts they were both perfectly behaved.

I went to meet them this morning to go shopping and within about 2 minutes of me being there, dd2 is beating dd1 up, and virtually barking at me if i spoke to her.

We walked down to the bus stop with her sulking all the way. At the bus stop she attempted to push over the buggy (with ds in it), kick a woman who I know cos she spoke to her, push me into the road, and try and rip my coat.
She also sat on the floor kicking the back of the buggy.

She is just so uncontrolable, yet at school she is perfectly fine, infact she is perfectly fine everywhere except when i'm there.

My mom said maybe i'm just not strict enough, but what the hell am i meant to do with her. She doesn't care if you take things off her, or stop her doing something, she'd just basically scream at me for ages. The other day she screamed and shiouted for nearly 2 hours.

Ignoring her occasionally works, but I can't always do that, it depends on what she is doing. She was throwing stuff in the shops, so I couldn't ignore that.

HELP

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nutcracker · 07/01/2006 18:24

No I should be apologising LSM not you. I totally over reacted. Am having a crap day today really and am a bit sensitive/emotional.

Please accept my apolgy, and thanks for your contribution.

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nutcracker · 07/01/2006 18:25

LSB even not LSM.

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littleshebear · 07/01/2006 18:50

Thankyou, nutcracker, for being so nice about it. I know how much we all need support - I certainly have, and still do - and was so sorry I might have made you feel worse.

Eulalia · 08/01/2006 10:34

Some great posts here. I thought that was a brilliant point aviatrix about reducing everything to a reward/punhisment and 'what's in it for me'. I know its hard to teach children to be compassionate when they appear to be essentially selfish but it is surprising how even at a young age they do want to please. They have to be allowed the freedom to do that. Given our difficult situation (ds age 6 with autism) and dd age 3 NT it is completely unbalanced and dd often gets treated badly by ds. Even so she often relents and gives him a toy etc quite unasked just to please him.

sorry if this is a bit disjointed, have a wriggly baby on my lap.

aviatrix · 08/01/2006 11:04

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Eulalia · 08/01/2006 20:09

aviatrix - you can find out more here - What Is NT?

It's a parody really - as it states ....

"The Institute for the Study of the Neurologically Typical" is not a real institute.

ISNT was created to show the arrogance and foolishness of much medical research on autism.

The articles on this website describe the neurotypical - "normal" - person as if they are diseased. This is not because the authors of this site think NTs are diseased. This is to illustrate the way that, by selecting and twisting the facts, medical researchers can portray autistics, who have a difference with positive (*) as well as negative attributes, as defective individuals and genetic mistakes.

The pompous way this website describes NTs as having a disorder is a parody, and is humorous.

Sorry to hijack your thread nutcracker - hope you are feeling better today.

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