Please, tell my wife that her names suggestions are awful!

[Demainsdeslaube]

Hello everyone!

I am 5 months pregnant, and my wife and I are having a hard time agreeing. After weeks of "arguing", we decided to forget about all the previous names suggested before and make a new list.
I absolutely hate all the names she wrote down :

• Bradleigh ( her favourite)
• Dallas
• Paris
• Lisandry
• Helen ( The only one I like)

Whereas my favourite names are:

• Romy ( She likes it but not love it)
• Dahlia
• Neva

She is so sure, those are pretty names. Pleaaase help, she'll be reading all the comments!

I used to love the name Romy and was gutted when they picked it for their daughter. And I'm afraid I don't like any of the others on your list OP!

No it really doesn't. I always think of Maude as a scullery maid.
Your whole list is hideous I'm afraid, I think you need to go back to the drawing board.

It sounds like mouthwash. It isn't as if it is a common name here, so its being common in Spain is by the by. That said, the other names sound pretty chavvy except for Romy and Helen.

The other thing is your child is likely to be like you or your wife, so don't pick a name that's too cool or doesn't fit with you. We changed our firstborns list for this reason. Our number one was too cool and we are both too geeky to pull it off. (Yes I am aware you are a same sex couple but still can apply)

What about something unisex or something that is a girls name but not overly feminine like:

Harper
Amber
Piper
Hazel
Blair
Quinn
Audrey
Fern
Avery
Rowan
Ashley
Robyn

Frankie Bridge’s children are called Parker and Carter. They’re both boys.

Close to your list I like Helene and Romilly.

'An unfortunate melange of misandry, laundry, and dysentry' - this had me in fits of giggles. It's true though I'm afraid.

Dallas is the heroine of a Jackie Collins novel if I remember correctly.

My DD is at school with a female Parker, but that doesn’t mean it’s a good idea. And anyone who would name a child (of either sex) Carter is clearly not old enough to remember Sheriff Fatman

Every single name you have mentioned barr Helen is atrocious

each write a list. favourite at the top and keep going for twenty or thirty names each to see if you can come up with something that you both like enough.

look at each others options and see if you can finda slightly different version of the name that you both agree on. (eg cathryn/catherine/katherine/kate/caterina/cathy caroline/carolyn)

Both list are awful. Look on nameberry you put in names you like and they give similar names. Maybe there might be a compromise to be had?

Agree but Helen is deathly dull. Very bland name.

I notice that a couple of the names are from Troy, so how about these:
Alexandra
Penelope
Rhea
Iris

Sorry OP we are all being massively rude. But we have to speak for your LO as some of these are real tease fests. Go with Helen or Emma if you both like them, Lisa if DP insists on honouring the relative. Personally I think Helen and Emma are updated and improved by moving to Helena or Emily.

Brienne always from Troy.
Don't let your wife shorten to Brian though 😂

How about Troy! 🤣NO OP: that was a joke! 🤪

He was a Spartan general who defeated the Athenians in the battle that ended the Peloponnesian war!

How do you pronounce Dahlia? I can never work out if it's Day-lee-a or Daar-lee-a.

I think Emma and Helen(a) are lovely

Romilly?

Means God's beloved one so is an actual name and incorporates some of the sounds you were going for

I actually really liked Bronte for a name but then thought there would be confusion if it was Bront-ee or Bront-ay.

Sorry missed these
Lola , Carla, Fiona , Flora, Sophia, Gabrielle.

Lola - makes me think of eastenders and the song Coca Cola L-O-L-A Lola…

Carla and Fiona - very 80s, and also shrek.

Flora - butter

Gabrielle - dreams can come true

New List

Bradley
Christina (Ina)
Emma
Gabriella
Helena (Lena)
Lorena
Romy
Sophia

Everything ending in ‘a’ is lovely

Half of hers are boys names - Bradl(ey), Paris, Lisandry autocorrects to misandry and reminds me disantry.

Dalia is lovely. That's it.

They're both terrible. Helen is the only passable one.

There’s also Brianna. I’m never certain about mens names with “Anna “ or “ette” on the end. It’s a bit “ Wally-Anna.” Though I do think Harriet ( or Harriette) is cute .

At the end of the day though choose what you both like, don't listen to anyone else. My advice is keep it under wraps until baby is here and you are definite and then you don't get family chipping in opinions. We didn't tell a soul until both names were set in stone.