Please, tell my wife that her names suggestions are awful!

[Demainsdeslaube]

Hello everyone!

I am 5 months pregnant, and my wife and I are having a hard time agreeing. After weeks of "arguing", we decided to forget about all the previous names suggested before and make a new list.
I absolutely hate all the names she wrote down :

• Bradleigh ( her favourite)
• Dallas
• Paris
• Lisandry
• Helen ( The only one I like)

Whereas my favourite names are:

• Romy ( She likes it but not love it)
• Dahlia
• Neva

She is so sure, those are pretty names. Pleaaase help, she'll be reading all the comments!

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So why not go with one of those? Preferably not Lorena, though.

I wouldn't use any of them, even for a pet I didn't like. But, that shouldn't influence either of you. We used the "pick the letters from a scrabble bag method" Abgeeev, Nyxwioo and Trevory all turned out fine. Arsehol had a few issues growing up, but is now an MP in a red wall constituency.

I would suggest both of you starting by listing what criteria are most important to you in a name, e.g.

• it works in both English and French
• it goes well with the surname (including no unfortunate initials spelling CUL or something)
• the etymology/meaning is significant
• people (family or historical figures) you admire have been called that
• it has unambiguous spelling/pronunciation
• you can imagine her as an adult using that name at university, in work ...
• it sounds nice

and so on. Then compare lists to understand what each of you hopes for out of the name. Then is the time to try to find names that fit both of your top 2 or 3 criteria. As pp have said, there are ways to try out a name publicly before finally deciding - using it on a coffee order for example.

Helen!? Are you having a 55 year old?

I like Romy. Helen's OK, inoffensive, but nothing special. I'd like Paris for a boy but not a girl. I think Manon is lovely; would your wife go for that? Or Helena?

Anna/Ana
Charlotte
Henrietta
Mabel
Genevieve
Laura/Lora

Hey Op, I quite like both your names choices
Romilly is a twist on Romy if you like that?
I like Eris and Cassady which aren't on your list but you might like?
Good luck!

Helen and Romy then you just need a second child.

Helen is fine, others... not so much.

You need to stop the xenophobia. Other countries' spellings are just as valid.

You have no idea of OP's heritage.

@TheCurtainQueen , Cristina is how it is spelt in several european countries and languages

I've never seen it spelled with double 'm' and I'm not sure what your horse has to do with anything.

Yes, the OP and her wife are called Elodie and Johanna - she posted that in response to someone who asked what their names are.

If Lisandry is a family name, you could use it as a middle name. Our DD has a dreadful middle name, but she says "It's a family name" and people just accept that.

Only got to pg 16, so possibly already suggested, but how about Eloise?
Or, instead of Flora, how about Fiorina (little flower)?

As someone with an 'unusual' name, my advice: THINK CAREFULLY AND DON'T SADDLE YOUR KID WITH A PROBLEMATIC NAME. IT'S NOT FAIR.
That said, Helen is lovely.

The horse is relevant as it was called Rommy so knew all about how to spell it. But I think that is only the horse version myself. Rommy looks like rummy as in “Ew, what’s that rummy smell?”

This.
I knew a baby Romy years ago - I do quite like it.
IMO Bradleigh and Lisandry are dreadful - please don’t saddle any poor little baby with either of those, unless of course you hate them already.

Dallas is beyond awful.

Where on earth have the pair of you dug these names up from. Sorry OP but apart from Helen all the names are unappealing. Even Bradley has a weird, and dare I say, chavvy looking, spelling.

I wouldn’t normally opine out loud on awful names but you did ask.

Paris is okay.
The others are not okay.

If you both like Helen, then how about a variation?

Ellen
Elaine
Elinor / Eleanor
Ilona

And same for Romy:

Ruby
Rosalie
Naomi

I think that new list is great! The french names are lovely but I agree they will be mispronounced constantly

Helen and Romy are both lovely! Toss for it!!!!

I like Romy but as for the others (sorry Helen was an ex of my Brother's so that name is dead to me!).