Would you go against your DP and register a name they don't like?

[RosannaJP]

Hello, our baby boy is 4 weeks old and we have still not managed to finalise his name! Me and DP have absolute polar opposite name styles and it has been a nightmare trying to find any compromise at all. When we think we are compromising, the other just doesn't like the name enough so we are left with a name neither of us really like.

I'm at the stage now where we do have to register his birth, I know we have a couple weeks left but I don't want to leave it until last minute to have his decided name and it's already feeling very last minute with him being 4 weeks.

Would it be wrong to say "look, we are never going to agree and I have to register something and one of us may as well love it" and then he will in the end love it because it is his son's name? Or is that just asking for a relationship breakdown. Not sure what to do!

Absolutely do not do this, you need to pick a name you both agree on!

LOVE Samson

Ohh I rather like Micah too as per pp!

He's called Hunter.

Could you go for something inoffensive and neutral like John. You could always call him by a nickname in later life.

if it came down to it, I'd go with your favourite and the one you hate the lest from his list as a middle name. I know you said you weren't having a middle name but I'd go with one in these circumstances.

There's an app called Kinder I think where you each tick names you like and then see if any match.

Will he go for Levi? You say you like it- and it does seem to fit....

No, I’d have been furious if my husband had done that.

I don't know how you made that Manly Man image in your post but it's awesome.

I have a soft spot for Gunnar when spelled with an A - it's a traditional Nordic name. I knew a guy from the mid west with that name and he was great, so that influences me no doubt. (There are lots of people of Scandinavian descent in parts of the Mid West)

Your DP's names are rubbish, stick to your Gunnars guns!

Yes, I think you should sneak out and name him - do it quick!!! 😆

OP has said a double so presumably putting their names together

Jude
Levi
Tobias
Noah

Ezra

Definitely not.

Each write a list of 10 names.

Swap lists. You can each veto 5.

Put the remaining names in a hat, and pick one.

Agree with the poster suggesting Levi Mason if you are both semi-OK with both of these names.

I'm curious though given it's taken you 9 months and 4 weeks and still no agreement on baby's name - how together are you both on issues around general parenting, discipline, finances, sharing household tasks etc?

I'm with you OP. His names are not great and might end up causing your son to be judged (society isn't nice after all). You want to name your child something that they can go anywhere with, whether it's working on a building site or in a board room. People do judge unfortunately. We picked unusual names but ones which could suit all situations and that wouldn't invoke stereotyping. What about Hunter or Archer? That's in-line with his Americanised "manly" type names but a bit more conventional.

I would keep working towards a middle ground. Have you considered:
Ethan
Aaron
Jared
Asher
Phineas
Gideon

Ezra
Ellis
Jacob
Personally I think you should have your choice of first name, as you gave birth

Im going to go a different route. Why not both of you think of all the people you know and have known and write down the five names of the nicest people. It might be from school all the way up to the present day. Then put all he names together and see if one is a fit for both of you (this is how we decided on our second child’s name).

There's an app called BabyName, it's like tinder for baby names. You download it, send the link to your partner so he can download it and is paired with you. Then you swipe right on names you like, and it tells you if you've swiped right on any of the same names. You could try that to see if there's any common ground on names you've not already discussed?

There's actually an app for baby names where you both download the app, link your profiles together and then start swiping (like tinder) if you both like a name then the app will notify you. Might be the best solution

Yes and I did!
I carried & gave birth to my son so i was well within my rights to name him what I wanted and give him my family surname.

No. It's not fair.
But I can see your dilemma as his tastes are not good!
I'm living the idea of Samson.
Also how about:
Zac (on its own as I assume he wouldn't like Zachary)
Barney
Reuben (I think this has a more modern feel?)
Caspar
Aidan
Gus
Axel
Toby/Tobias
Micah (again I think this has a more modern sound despite being Biblical. Same with the the 3 below)
Amos
Ezra
Silas

Leading up to the birth of our first son me and DH had absolutely no idea what to call him and we couldn’t agree on anything. We found some names that we might have been ok with….but neither of us loved them and I hated the thought of my son growing up with a name that neither of his parents were particularly fond of.

About 3 days after the birth I gave in and told my husband that he could choose the name as it was making me too stressed. He chose a name that I’d always known he’d liked and although initially I really wasn’t keen by the time he was about 4 months old I absolutely loved it! He’s 9 now and I still really, really love it!

Ironically it’s a two syllable biblical name 😂 A few people have said it’s quite an American name too so maybe it’s perfect for you and your DH 😂

ps) your husband’s choices are AWFUL 😂