Would you go against your DP and register a name they don't like?

[RosannaJP]

Hello, our baby boy is 4 weeks old and we have still not managed to finalise his name! Me and DP have absolute polar opposite name styles and it has been a nightmare trying to find any compromise at all. When we think we are compromising, the other just doesn't like the name enough so we are left with a name neither of us really like.

I'm at the stage now where we do have to register his birth, I know we have a couple weeks left but I don't want to leave it until last minute to have his decided name and it's already feeling very last minute with him being 4 weeks.

Would it be wrong to say "look, we are never going to agree and I have to register something and one of us may as well love it" and then he will in the end love it because it is his son's name? Or is that just asking for a relationship breakdown. Not sure what to do!

What was wrong with Levi then? Seems like that’s the best of both worlds.

If you can't find a name that you both love then just find one that you both agree is ok. Neither of you can have your favourite name so give up on that. And it's not fair for one parent to have a name they hate. So just find one that both you think is fine.

He didn't like Levi and his argument was "what was wrong with Mason then especially as it spun between the 2 of them"

There was a post a while back. The poster I think called her date/bf father by this name as she thought that’s what it was short for. At least that’s how I remember the post.

I think it may have been Barold?

Wow his names are terrible.

Samson is a great idea, also Jackson as @afrikat suggested. So the full name is his style and the nickname is yours.

https://www.biblegateway.com/resources/all-men-bible/Alphabetical-Order-All-Men

Samson is a good call.

Some other biblical names I think sound a bit America/ surnamey:
Soloman
Abel
Gabriel
Asher
Tobias
Seth

What about Alexander.

That's quite a traditional name but can be shortened as a nickname when he's little to Zander which would fit your husbands American name tastes.

What about
Lev
Boyd
Elijah

Jared
Ezekiel

Unilaterally picking a name he hates without him is unreasonable.

Registering your baby without any father on the birth certificate (which is what your proposal would require) because of a dispute over choice of names goes way way beyond unreasonable. "Why don't I have a father on my birth certificate mum?" "Well you would have, but he had terrible taste in baby names"

In your defence, he does have truly terrible taste in names. But Mason, while not to my taste, isn't bad enough to strike him off the birth certificate.

also just read the update.

Gunner. whoa. I’m getting the idea your DP wants a ᕙ(⇀‸↼‶)ᕗ and manly vibe. How about Gus? It’s strong and manly without full on being a military rank. Or, what about Alexander? Tell him it’s after Alexander the Great, one of the most famous generals of all time. I also once met a Samuel who went by Yul. Kinda weird but kinda cool.

Congratulations on your baby OP.
Im sorry you had a difficult birth. Don’t let that or the name thing take away from celebrating the life.

If they are unmarried then he couldn't actually do this anyways.

Is baby getting your surname? They should.

Put both names on the birth certificate and then a change is easily made if preferred later. So each choice is written down and a draw is made. If your choice comes up first then partner gets to choose second name and vice versa. For goodness sake don’t argue about it. Don’t do what you propose.

Micah Is the name you are looking for.

I’d pull up a list of biblical names and get him to look through because some are quite modern / unusual sounding. Ethan, Ezra and Abel seem pretty contemporary to me.

Whose last name is the baby having?

I second Gus. It's kind of American-y and traditional at the same time.

Wow, I can totally see where you are coming from. His choices are absolutely dreadful.

Wasn't it Barold?

Yes I think so, I’ve just replied further up as that was what came back to me. 😂😂

I really struggle to understand how people end up in this position - pregnancy is very long and there's so much time to pick a name, even if it's a coin toss.

Personally I would call him Levi Mason Surname, since you tossed up between those names.

But if he won't agree to that then I think you need to flip a coin. You can't just go out and do it, given that you cried at the possibility of one of his names - you know full well how you would feel if he did that.

Just be aware that, if you are not married, you will both need to register the birth. If you go alone, he won't be on the birth certificate. He can't go alone.