Would you go against your DP and register a name they don't like?

[RosannaJP]

Hello, our baby boy is 4 weeks old and we have still not managed to finalise his name! Me and DP have absolute polar opposite name styles and it has been a nightmare trying to find any compromise at all. When we think we are compromising, the other just doesn't like the name enough so we are left with a name neither of us really like.

I'm at the stage now where we do have to register his birth, I know we have a couple weeks left but I don't want to leave it until last minute to have his decided name and it's already feeling very last minute with him being 4 weeks.

Would it be wrong to say "look, we are never going to agree and I have to register something and one of us may as well love it" and then he will in the end love it because it is his son's name? Or is that just asking for a relationship breakdown. Not sure what to do!

Tell us some of the names. Someone might have a suggestion you haven’t thought of ( unlikely at this point I know).

What about if you both write your top 5 names down. Then flip a coin and whoever wins gets a name from their list, but the loser gets to pick the name from the list.

The names I like are things such as:
Isaac
Jacob
Caleb

Basically 2 syllable biblical names

He likes unique surnames/Americany stuff:
Boston
Beckett
Gunner
Rocco

Oh god, I’ve changed my mind. Run now and name
him without him…

Gosh I take my comment back. Go a pick a name from yours 😂

What about Jackson, shortened to Jack?

The names that we feel are a bit of a middle ground are Mason (leans to his preference more) and Levi (leans to my preference more) and we actually did a spin wheel thing and it landed on Mason and I just cried......... so we decided against doing that route but maybe I should have been more fair and gone with it but I think I'd feel so sad

HAHAHA SEE it's not that I'm trying to be completely unfair but his names are awful and not my style

Codlingmoths made me laugh out loud.

I’d agree compromise is the ideal standard and you can’t have a happy relationship without it, but if that’s not achievable, someone needs to make a choice. YMMV but for me, the mother should have final vote. This is just my view, but we’re the ones who take the risk to our health, carry and give birth. The state my fanny was in after DD, if DH had wanted to start vetoing dozens of proposals in the hope of getting his own way, I’d have been disappointed in him. I’d feel this even more if the baby has his surname.

Plan B: call him James or John. Job done.

No. This is a terrible idea I'm afraid. Also, it is not the last minute, you have time to sort it would between you. We registered our LB's birth on the last day possible and still hadn't decided the night before. You need to find a compromise.

you have to register the birth but you get up to a year to register the name

His names are awful, really awful but you can't register your son without telling him.

We can work with this Venn diagram for sure!!

Noah
Asher
Eli
Samson
Matthew
Joseph

Oh no I would definitely tell him but I would just straight up say it's going to be a name we haven't agreed on...

If he did that to you- registered with a name he liked because the baby has to be called something- would you accept it?

Also
Emmett
Amos
Isaac

It’s short for Barrington

Oh wow Samson... hmm, I'm kind of feeling it. I loved Samuel and he didn't but with the son end... might be more his taste. We genuinely didn't discuss that one!

Yeah, go with one of your names...
I'd be saying that even if his names weren't terrible though: you grew the baby and birthed him, with all the strain that that entails.

I wanted to say, no way that's horrible. Like if my husband went and registered some dumb ass American name such as Rover, or Boxer or like phi or some Elon musk shit I'd go bonkers.

But then I read your update! Haha.
Definitely go for the normal names!!

It’s ‘short’/ common nickname for Finbar!

Your names are lovely. 2 were on my list. His names are awful

Do the hat suggestion and sabotage it. Put double your names in

If/when you come to an agreement please come back to the thread and give us closure lol

I also love Samson, it's a great story too

Definitely definitely not. Imagine the reverse situation. He's as much as a parent as you are. You need to find a name you both like.

Levi is your sons name now 🥰