We want our names as middle name for baby, but my name is awful.

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We finally agreed on a name for our future daughter. We let go of the parents/relatives names. And I am happy about it. His name's girl version is beautiful but mine is awful. I don't even tell people, I use my middle name.

I was thinking maybe we could use an alternative. Do you know any name that sounds like Karen ? I was thinking of Kerry. But I'd love to hear about more options.

I don't understand why you're trying to give her a name you don't like. Just give one middle name, she doesn't need a raft of extra names.

Just don't use the name. Your husband doesn't get to "insist". It you are married to the idea of using a name to remember her mum, then either use the name you identify with or name.her with regards to a quality you have.

Why would you use a name you don’t like? That’s so weird. Just use a different name. I love my Mum and Granny dearly and wanted to incorporate their names BUT they are of a generation that just weren’t suitable for a little girl now. My son has a family middle name, but my daughter doesn’t. It’s no biggie.

Why not save yours for a boy and change it to Kieran, or Ciaran?

Kara? Karena?

Maybe hold off on having children if your husband won’t even compromise on a middle name. Stinks of much worse to come if he’s this controlling now.

For all those saying Kerry is not a nice name… ha ha, thanks! 😂

It’s my name and I’m not even being sarcastic.

I’ve always hated it, and when my daughter was expecting, I told her, please don’t carry it on… the name dies with me 😆

I do feel it’s a little bit uglier now though and all those who proclaim ‘but it’s a nice name’ are bloody liars 😩

Tell him he can pick both names then, but she’s getting your surname, or did he think he got to have all the names he wanted? Why are you even planning a baby with such a selfish man?

Kieran or Erin

Kiera or Kara ?

Dear Mumsnet,

I want to give my child a name I don't want to give my child.

WWYD?

This is completely batshit. Just use names you love, and sack off all this 'saddling a child with someone else's names' business.

And when you say "our future daughter", are you actually pregnant, or is this entirely hypothetical?

I know a Karen who pronounced her name car-wren. Not sure how you’d change the spelling.

Hopefully, by the time this hypothetical baby is born, we’ll have a better handle and awareness on casual misogyny

Cairn

Caron

Carina

I know a not-so-lovely Karen but that's just her. The majority of the population don't buy into this faux-hatred of the name Karen, it's just another synthesised thing for some people to dislike! By the time your child's at school there'll be another bandwagon to climb on board!

How bizarre your husband is insisting on something you don't want. Is there anything else that can be linked to you?when were you born? May, June, August, Summer, autumn, Winter ? There's lots of names that could be linked to you and although they're tenuous links you can just tell her why when she's older

What about Kay?

Oh Carrie is lovely.

Insist on using the name you're using daily for it to have a meaning for you.

Alternatively put your surname as dc's middle name instead.

I have a love/hate relationship with my name. I'm definitely not passing it on even if I don't really know how it will be seen in the future. You name the child the names you're happy with today.

I knew a Karenza a few years back; is that better?

Lauren?

Per my family tree, at least on the male side, the son would use his dad's first name as his second and the second as his first.

Kirren/Kiran or Karina

What about Kara? I think the traditional spelling Cara is better, but for the sake of similarity...

What about Carine? As in Roitfeld. Both French and stylish!