We want our names as middle name for baby, but my name is awful.

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We finally agreed on a name for our future daughter. We let go of the parents/relatives names. And I am happy about it. His name's girl version is beautiful but mine is awful. I don't even tell people, I use my middle name.

I was thinking maybe we could use an alternative. Do you know any name that sounds like Karen ? I was thinking of Kerry. But I'd love to hear about more options.

If you use your middle name, how about using that instead?

Why not use your middle name?

Karen is nicer than Kerry IMO, and they're not the same name.
One middle name is plenty, but if you are Karen Louise or something and go by Louise, use that.

If you don't like the name why on earth saddle your child with it. There's no real need for middle names and they never get used anyway .

Because we were thinking by the age she is an adult maybe it would have stopped being an insult. Tbh I'd prefer my middle name husband INSISTS so much

I hate it, and you are right. Hence why I want a name that sounds like it and not Karen itself.

Cara meaning darling or loved one. You could use Kara if you really have to.

What about Maren?

How about Kaaren (not sure of spelling). I knew a Dutch woman who pronounced her name like Car-en. Much prettier

I went to school with a Karina? (pronounced Car ee nah) would that work?

You 'want your names for middle names for your daughter'? But you don't want that. Your husband is 'insisting'.

Insisting that you call your own baby a name you hate. Regardless of it being your own name, can't you see how ridiculous that is?

The whole thing is daft. As is choosing a name that isn't your name at all but picking it because it's like your name but it's not your name.

How about kareen?
Sounds like car reeeen

So your baby will be something like Olivia Karen Alana Bloggs
It's too much.

Call her something like Olivia Alana Apricot Bloggs

You want your name but don’t like your name? This isn’t making much sense to me. Why are you not giving your child a name you love?

** names are examples only, I'm not suggesting those actual names. Apricot is rather nice though

Are you sure it's going to be a girl? What if she arrives and is a boy? Would you use the same pattern for middle names?

How bazaar, calling a child a name you hate. Not even dislike or a bit meh about. But hate! Don't do it. Tell your husband no and find a name you both like.

Karen is a great deal nicer than Kerry!

It’s a nice name actually, and it’s image problem will probably have gone, so personally I’d use it.

However it’s the Danish version of Katherine, so any version of that - Caitlin, Catrin, Katrina, Katharina might work. Or Kay, which is a short form of either name.

You can't always control what you pass on.

But you can control this. Why give a child a name that has negative connotations for you? If you don't love it, don't pass it on. Pick something new - give the child a clean slate, free of the burden of trying to repurpose a name you hate into a more positive one.

That’s a good idea -

Your husband is insisting you don’t use the name you are actually known by (your middle name) and yet is happy for you to swap to a name that isn’t your first name at all and not linked in any way (ie Kerry)?

Your husband needs to learn to compromise. You need to learn to ‘insist’.

I think your husband can shut up about insisting when you both get a say.

But you could use Karenza? It's a variation on the Cornish word for love (kerensa).

Any variant of the name Karen would be ridiculous, it’s not your name! Either give your child your name that you hate (again, ridiculous) or you know, pick an actual name you like for your child.

Your husband INSISTS that you call your child your name, which you hate?

Making no sense. Pick another.

Most people don't give their kids two middle names or name them after the parents so why is your husband insisting on this bizarre thing that you don't want to do?