We want our names as middle name for baby, but my name is awful.

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We finally agreed on a name for our future daughter. We let go of the parents/relatives names. And I am happy about it. His name's girl version is beautiful but mine is awful. I don't even tell people, I use my middle name.

I was thinking maybe we could use an alternative. Do you know any name that sounds like Karen ? I was thinking of Kerry. But I'd love to hear about more options.

I don’t get the hate for the name tbh. I wanted to change it as a teen but I never give it a second thought these days.
I think I’d be more concerned that DH was being so insistent about something I’d said I wasn’t happy about!

Karelle?

If the baby will have his surname, how about using your surname as one of the middle names?

i.e. Penelope Erica Featherstonehaugh Cholmondeley. No hyphen, your name not used as a surname.

Other than that, Karen is a Germanic diminutive of Katherine.

You could also spell it Karin.

Hmm - something that sounds like, but isn't Karen.

Daren, Faren, Garen, Haren, Jaren, Laren??

Corrine?

Keren?

I agree you are making arbitrary rules when you don’t have to!

But in answer to your actual question:

Kerenza was my first thought.

I far prefer Karen to Kerry.
What about Caron ?
Could you use your surname as a middle name ?

How about Wren?

Can’t you just use his middle name? It will still be your child.

If the idea is to relate the names directly to your and your husband, it makes infinitely more sense to use the name that you actually go by. Otherwise it's going to look as if she hasn't been named after you at all.

Completely agree with Gladys here.

I can't understand why you would saddle your child with a name you hate

Cara/Kara
Caroline
Carter
Raine
Ren

Can get names sounding like half the name. Tbh, use your middle name if you like it more. Why you'd give a child something you hate is beyond me. If your DH is going to be a child saying it must be your first name you can always do a quick deedpoll and hand it to him with your middle fingers up 😂.

Corinne?

Are you pregnant with a girl? The expression Future Daughter just seems like something you would say before being pregnant.

:O Either we know each other or there are more of me out there! 😂😅

Insist your husband fucks off, tbh.

Insists - have we gone back to the 1950s ???

I don't understand why you want your baby to have your names as middle names anyway. Usually people pick either a name they like or to name it after someone they loved. Maybe think about the intention of the middle name? I don't have one and I feel it's an advantage!

Karen is the Scandi version of Katherine - and that gives you heaps to play with! Catriona, Katrin, Catherine, Katie, Caitlin... I'm saddled with the same so I do get it!

Or tell your DH to do one 😁

How about Karenna? Or the famous Karenina (Anna Karenina)?

Not related but I read an article the other day about Calista Flockhart and thought what a lovely name, Calista.

Karen was derived from Katharine.
Katerina, Kate, etc are related names so there are many to choose from.

You could have Rena, though why not just pick a name you really like?

It's very hard to believe this could be a real issue in any sane family, but assuming you haven't made this up - JUST SAY NO. Nicely but firmly.

If you are struggling to agree a way forward on this non issue, god help you when you actually start to raise a child together.