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We want our names as middle name for baby, but my name is awful.

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Mapricot · 22/05/2023 13:54

We finally agreed on a name for our future daughter. We let go of the parents/relatives names. And I am happy about it. His name's girl version is beautiful but mine is awful. I don't even tell people, I use my middle name.

I was thinking maybe we could use an alternative. Do you know any name that sounds like Karen ? I was thinking of Kerry. But I'd love to hear about more options.

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Sunshine275 · 23/05/2023 05:16

Karine or Karina

olympicsrock · 23/05/2023 05:19

BishyBarnyBee · 23/05/2023 05:13

It's very hard to believe this could be a real issue in any sane family, but assuming you haven't made this up - JUST SAY NO. Nicely but firmly.

If you are struggling to agree a way forward on this non issue, god help you when you actually start to raise a child together.

This ! Bonkers … he doesn’t get to insist.

mum11970 · 23/05/2023 05:28

I know someone called Karen but it’s pronounced ‘Care un’. She’s well in her 50s and it’s always been pronounced that way, so not changed because of the insult attached to the name these days

Forgottenmypasswordagain · 23/05/2023 05:35

You husband cannot force you to use Karen. He isn't your boss, or head of the name police! Use your middle name if you like. You could look into changing your name not sure about the UK, but it is not very expensive where I live.

HuckleberryBlackcurrant · 23/05/2023 05:38

Keren?

atthebottomofthehill · 23/05/2023 05:40

What a weird thread!

"My husband is forcing me to give my baby a name I hate"

And yes really quite unusual nowadays to give a child your actual names at all - a middle name or family name is more common - let alone if you hate it.

You can't use something "similar" to Karen, what's the point in that? If it's not your name then it won't meet your husbands bonkers criteria, and yet it will always remind you of the name you hate anyway.

Using your actual name (your middle name) makes more sense if you really must use your names.

Don't allow your husband to bully you FGS.

Esjolaol · 23/05/2023 05:51

This!!

Mummyoflittledragon · 23/05/2023 05:55

Noorandapples · 22/05/2023 14:44

"We want" no, he wants, you do not want. Be careful about not giving up your own sense of self in your relationship, he doesn't get to tell you how you feel.
Put your foot down and tell him exactly how you feel and that he can't tell you what names you like the sound of!

I hope you’re still reading. But this basically.

Either your middle name or perhaps choose your mum’s name or one of your grandmothers’

GrinAndVomit · 23/05/2023 06:21

GiveOverRover · 22/05/2023 14:18

Your husband INSISTS that you call your child your name, which you hate?

Making no sense. Pick another.

Pick another husband?
Yes, I agree with this.

SkiingIsHeaven · 23/05/2023 06:26

Sharon sounds like Karen

MyFaceIsAnAONB · 23/05/2023 06:35

I know a Maren - it's more of an 'ah' sound but spelled the same as Karen

OccasionalHope · 23/05/2023 06:38

Corinne or Karina

or use the mn you use as a name.

BreatheAndFocus · 23/05/2023 06:40

Why are you tiring yourself in knots by setting this daft rule that the middle names have to be variations of yours and your partner’s names? Why?? Chuck that idea out and choose names you like.

I really can’t believe this…

Flufs · 23/05/2023 06:43

Cara

clara

carinna

Flufs · 23/05/2023 06:43

Corinna rather

meikyo · 23/05/2023 06:44

Caron

FatAgain · 23/05/2023 06:44

Tell your husband to fuck off with his insisting.

Flufs · 23/05/2023 06:45

Your DH can’t force you to do this. I personally wouldn’t be having babies with someone so controlling

tara66 · 23/05/2023 06:47

What about using a 'C' s in 'Ceri' - sort of Welsh or Irish I understand. 'Karen' can't be used these days. You know it is used for a stupid entitled woman?

Missjkay · 23/05/2023 06:49

Is there a way you can find a name that joins a few letters from your names together Karis for instance. Karen & Chris? I just choose middle names I liked rather than family names.

Luckypoppy · 23/05/2023 06:52

Karina
Caryn
Cara
Kara
Caroline
Carrie
Karey
Corrin
Carlie
Carey

DustyLee123 · 23/05/2023 06:55

Keren.

DustyLee123 · 23/05/2023 06:56

tara66 · 23/05/2023 06:47

What about using a 'C' s in 'Ceri' - sort of Welsh or Irish I understand. 'Karen' can't be used these days. You know it is used for a stupid entitled woman?

And by writing it you’re perpetuating the misogyny.

ittakes2 · 23/05/2023 06:57

Karynne

LAMPS1 · 23/05/2023 06:59

Kariss
Karina
Karenna

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