We want our names as middle name for baby, but my name is awful.

[Mapricot]

We finally agreed on a name for our future daughter. We let go of the parents/relatives names. And I am happy about it. His name's girl version is beautiful but mine is awful. I don't even tell people, I use my middle name.

I was thinking maybe we could use an alternative. Do you know any name that sounds like Karen ? I was thinking of Kerry. But I'd love to hear about more options.

So what if your dh insists? It’s not just his decision. You don’t like a name, you don’t use it.

Have you always used your middle name? Every Karen I know is lovely tbh.

Karen's

Oops I meant Karena!

My Nana passed away while I was pregnant with my daughter, we wanted to name DD after her, but she HATED her name, so we just chose her middle name. It's still after Nana, but not in a way that would make her haunt me 😆

I really don't see why your husband is so insistent on it being your first name only, more so given that you don't even go by your first name.

I think someone is procrastinating from their gcse revision 🤔

Just use his name, or use a play on your surname. Or something else completely! That all said I like Karina, Karine, katja; or you could use Caron as an alt spelling of karen?!

I knew a Keren. (pronounced "Care-en"). That might be a good compromise?

Carenza? Sounds the same and different so fits the bill? Lovely meaning. Would it work @Mapricot ?

This sounds weird.
Why are you using your names as middle names?
Why does your DH want to do this? Particularly when one of you hates your own name.
All of this sounds ridiculous.

How about Karina or Karrie or something similar ?

I went to school with a Corrine (pronounced Caw- ryn).

I use the name Karen every day given that it is my name that my parents gave me. It is ridiculous that people use a woman's name to describe a 'stupid entitled woman' when b%£ch is so readily available 🤷‍♀️ x

I agree with others who think this is strange. I don’t understand why you can’t use the name you’re known as but can choose a name similar to your first name which isn’t your name. Karen and Kerry are so different. It’s silly.

Agreed. I don’t much like the sound of your DH.

@Mapricot your husband INSISTS ?! I'd suggest he chooses one name, you choose the other. And if he chooses Karen out of spite / badness, then you know he's controlling

BTW, I think Karen is a lovely name, but it may not come back into fashion, sadly (think Sharon, Kevin etc...)

Karina as mentioned above
Also Kara
Kerys (different spelling of Carys

Charys
Charis
Corrinne

There’s nothing actually wrong with the name Karen despite its use as a slur.

Tell your husband that unless he fancies pushing the baby out of his vagina instead, he can sod off insisting this arbitrary rule that you must use your first names!
Use your middle name. Or a name you like. Not a random other name, that starts with the same letter as your first name but has nothing to do with it/ you dont even like all that much

Tough. He choses his middle name you chose yours

Your husband isn’t the one pushing a human out of his vagina, he can back the fuck off.

yeah, pick another.....husband.

I knew a Cairine, which is Scots Gaelic. She pronounced it Keye-reen (like “eye”) but in Gaelic it’s Ca-ree-na. Which is lovely. Or you could alter the spelling to Karena which is more like your name, and pronounce it Ka-ree-na.

"Future daughter"........are you actually pregnant?