DD hates her name and surname

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She is 15 now.

The pregnancy was so good, the only issue was finding a name!
I could not choose. It was agony.

One day, just before her birth, I woke up from a lovely afternoon nap, the TV was on and 1st thing I heard / saw was an ad of a product with a human and - the image of a lovely young girl (I didn't know the baby's sex). Right at that time I decided if she was a girl she would have that name.

It is an international (could be pretty much from a lot of different countries and cultures) short, simple, easy to spell, sounds good (to my ears) name. In hindsight I could have choses a middle name, but I jus't couldn't ;(

She hates it. Hates her surname too which is a traditional surname in the UK.

Any one dealing with the same at home?

Dd was like this, she has a somewhat rare name in this country though I suspect it's very common elsewhere. She went through a phase of hating it with a passion because everyone else she knew was a Molly or an Emily or an Amelia et but now she likes that when people hear her name on (here we go) social media in this area, they know it's her. We all know how much that stuff matters to the young ones...

Anyway, she loves it now.

I think it's a phase that loads of girls go through when teenagers, they don't want to stand out, until they do.

Why not let her change it? Deed poll is quick and easy!

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Hahaha this is familiar to me too - being really good friends with a Lily or a Kiki, knowing them like that for 5 years, and then they turn out to be Elizabeth and Camilla.

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There was a cute ad for Aptamil early in 2017, but I doubt your daughter is called that.

It seems like she's never liked it, so I wouldn't suggest it's a phase/because she's a teenager. Let her choose another name to go by. Ultimately it's her name, she has to be comfortable with it.

Let her change it. My son changed his for about 6 months and then decided to revert back. It's her name. It belongs to her. It is important that she likes it and feels like her name.

It's decades ago, now, but I had several friends at Uni who went by their second names (well I assume they were) rather than the name their parents called them. Confusingly, some of them went back to using their first names when they started work.

Would your DD be happy to have the name you chose for her relegated to a second name if she did change her name by Deed poll?

The school is unlikely to bat an eyelid - so many kids have non-binary names these days.

Op given she really doesn't like it and hasn't done for a while so it's not just a whim, teen rebel thing I'd look at changing it.

Talk about names she would like or consider. Maybe tell her to use the new name informally for a year before formally changing it.

If she changes it while in school it means all her certificates will be in the same name.

DD was similar from 14 with her first name. She doesn’t hate it, but let’s say she was called Anastasia, we at home would call her Stacey for short, but she’s chosen to be known as Anna instead by her friends/school.

She doesn’t object to us calling her Stacey though. Could your DD do something similar?

(Not her real name obviously!)

also my friend has always used her middle name as her first name.

I hated my name in primary school because I could never get pencils etc with my name on it! But I love it now, it's not weird but not common at all

Oh and I DISPISED my surname. I had my dads surname but he left when I was a baby, I insisted from approx age 5 to be called my mums surname and had it changed by deed poll when I was 11. Could something like that be part of it?

You can change your name without being married.

My DD (13) has disliked her first name for years (she doesn't seem to have any strong opinions about her surname). It's different from yours in that she could shorten it quite easily, but she likes the short forms even less. She also has a middle name, which she doesn't like either.

She keeps saying that she will change her name as soon as she's an adult, I says that she's entitled to do that but I would be sad as her name is meaningful to me. Not only is it the name I chose for her, but it's derived from the name of a beloved family member (who died before DD was born, so there's no confusion), it has a nice meaning, and it's the name of an important person in my religion (it's not Jesus ).

I don't know the answer of exactly how to deal with it, but you're not alone in going through this. I told her that she can just use a different name (e.g. once she starts uni) by introducing herself to people as X without going through the faff of changing her name officially. And that that might be a good stepping stone to seeing whether she actually wants to change it legally or not. In the meantime, I will continue to call her by the name I chose, although I do also call her a lot of pet names which are unrelated.

To make matters more confused, the name she wants to change to is my name. I think that's just needlessly complicating things! Also, my name has a lot of the same features as the name she doesn't like - same family and religious connotations, about as commonly used, exact same number of letters, same level of classic/traditional woman's name, same multilingual transferability (they're both fairly well known Christian saints' names, so have very similar variants in most European languages). For whatever reason, she just prefers my name to hers.

Without sharing what the name is it's hard to say if she's justified in hating it.

Is there a possibility of her being bullied because of it?

I changed my name when I was 15. My parents didn't know for almost a year 😂. No regrets

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OP why aren't you sharing the first name. It's a ridiculous question to ask without saying what the first name is!

I hate my name. I was born with a first name and two middle names and hated all of them. I got rid of my middle names by deed poll years ago but really wish I'd changed my first name too, I just hate the look of it written down and the sound of it which I think is ugly. I'm in my 40s now so clearly never going to grow to like it, and wish I'd changed it years ago but it feels too late now.

I think the story of how it came about would be enough to make me dislike it.

These threads are so tedious and pointless when the OP won't say what the name is.

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