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DD hates her name and surname

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9thFloorNightmare · 25/01/2023 22:21

She is 15 now.

The pregnancy was so good, the only issue was finding a name!
I could not choose. It was agony.

One day, just before her birth, I woke up from a lovely afternoon nap, the TV was on and 1st thing I heard / saw was an ad of a product with a human and - the image of a lovely young girl (I didn't know the baby's sex). Right at that time I decided if she was a girl she would have that name.

It is an international (could be pretty much from a lot of different countries and cultures) short, simple, easy to spell, sounds good (to my ears) name. In hindsight I could have choses a middle name, but I jus't couldn't ;(

She hates it. Hates her surname too which is a traditional surname in the UK.

Any one dealing with the same at home?

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Algor1thm · 28/01/2023 15:49

I don't like my name - it's a really stupid name (it's not really a name). When I was a teenager I hated it and was convinced I'd change it by deed poll as an adult, or go by my middle name. As an adult, logistically I realised it was going to be too difficult to ask everyone I knew to start calling me something else. My opinion on it just softened. I dislike it but it's not the end of the world. When you're a teenager everything seems awful and life ruining, as an adult you realise it could be worse.

I'd rather be called my name than a lot of the modern names I hear kids called with -Mae, -Rae etc. tagged on the end and 'unique' spellings 🙈

OptimisticSix · 28/01/2023 16:19

There's a perfume and god knows 🤣 it was just a name I could see a teenage not liking because it is really pretty. My other guess would have been Cleo (as in Renault) but I think that's more like 35 years ago... Hope your daughter changes her mind. Of my many children the one who wanted to change her name was the one who's name I liked the most... Luckily it wore off

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9thFloorNightmare · 28/01/2023 17:34

Not Tina
Not Cleo

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Quiffniff · 28/01/2023 18:06

Nina - Nia

Pixiebutterfly83 · 28/01/2023 21:04

All 3 of my children have hated their names. 2 girls and a boy.

L who is now in her 20s detested it and wanted to change it in high school, now loves her name

C who is nearly 18 doesn’t like to be called C, insists on the shortened nickname (which is also my partners name 🙄) but when he was younger was Randomly picking other names (ones his friends had)

my youngest A is 12, we were talking about this in the car today, she hates all her names, even her surname (which isn't mine and when she’s doing things now puts my surname down)We discussed why we chose her name. And other names she could use.

most kids I know (including myself) have gone through this and grown out of it when into adult hood, and in our teenage years we look to blame our parents for everything that pisses us off

ItIsOkToLook40 · 28/01/2023 22:58

I assume it’s Macy as ‘Macy’s’ had a relaunch in around the year she would have been born so probably would have been advertised more.

As a mum of teenagers of a similar age, it may well be a phase of hating her name and as she gets older she’ll learn to accept or even like it. I would try not to make a big deal out of it and let her express how she feels. Being 15 is hard and there are hundreds of reasons teenagers might feel different or insecure.

One of mine was suddenly really embarrassed by our surname. It is rather unusual and easy to make ‘jokes’ out of but it didn’t bother him until he got to 14. He’s 17 now and I don’t think it bothers him at all. Hopefully it will be the same for your dd @9thFloorNightmare

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9thFloorNightmare · 29/01/2023 01:46

ItIsOkToLook40 · 28/01/2023 22:58

I assume it’s Macy as ‘Macy’s’ had a relaunch in around the year she would have been born so probably would have been advertised more.

As a mum of teenagers of a similar age, it may well be a phase of hating her name and as she gets older she’ll learn to accept or even like it. I would try not to make a big deal out of it and let her express how she feels. Being 15 is hard and there are hundreds of reasons teenagers might feel different or insecure.

One of mine was suddenly really embarrassed by our surname. It is rather unusual and easy to make ‘jokes’ out of but it didn’t bother him until he got to 14. He’s 17 now and I don’t think it bothers him at all. Hopefully it will be the same for your dd @9thFloorNightmare

Thank you;)
It’s not Macy

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vulpix123 · 31/01/2023 22:52

I don't see the problem in saying what the name is, obviously don't share first and last name as that's more identifying but there are probably thousands with the same name

MMoon23 · 01/02/2023 05:45

Tiffany?

im worried my children will hate their names. They probably will at some point. I hated mine when I was younger but now it’s fine. You can’t be a mind reader as to what their favourite name will be at all stages of their lives.

LadyWithLapdog · 01/02/2023 06:13

If it’s Anaïs, I think it’s a gorgeous name.

DarkNecessities · 01/02/2023 07:22

vulpix123 · 31/01/2023 22:52

I don't see the problem in saying what the name is, obviously don't share first and last name as that's more identifying but there are probably thousands with the same name

Because the name is irrelevant and divulging it would completely derail the thread with people wading in with their thoughts.

The opinion of you, me and anyone else doesn’t matter. It’s not the name, it’s the OP’s DD not liking it that’s the problem and the whole point of the thread.

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9thFloorNightmare · 01/02/2023 12:38

No Tiffany nor Anaïs

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Quiffniff · 01/02/2023 12:58

Nina!

TheOriginalEmu · 01/02/2023 15:14

Calphurnia88 · 27/01/2023 12:16

Yep, as in Flora and Fauna.

It's a beautiful name but would most definitely conjure up images of yellow, buttery (but not actual butter), spread. In the UK anyway.

I say this as someone who shares a surname with a very niche American singer. Most people haven't heard of him, but I still get a couple of people commenting on it a year. It's fun, but if it happened every day, or even every week, it would get old pretty quickly.

You sound pretty confident that that isn't what's happening though.

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Is it Daughtry?

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9thFloorNightmare · 01/02/2023 17:03

Quiffniff · 01/02/2023 12:58

Nina!

What is the product and the singer?

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Quiffniff · 01/02/2023 17:08

Nina Simone and various products with Nina in. But Nina (Ricci?) perfume was what sprung to mind.

Nina can be shortened to Nia and you mentioned something about shortening by one letter and liking how it sounds.

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9thFloorNightmare · 01/02/2023 17:32

Quiffniff · 01/02/2023 17:08

Nina Simone and various products with Nina in. But Nina (Ricci?) perfume was what sprung to mind.

Nina can be shortened to Nia and you mentioned something about shortening by one letter and liking how it sounds.

🏆🏆🏆🏆🏆🏆🏆

She shortened a different way though;)

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Calphurnia88 · 02/02/2023 07:59

Nina is a lovely name.

I wouldn't say it was particularly unusual either, I have a Nina in my friendship group and also work with a Nina.

Appreciate there's degree of subjectivity with names, but given that you have given your DD (what most people would consider) a standard name, I would assume this is a phase and suggest that if she really hates it to use a nickname for now and revisit it again in a few years.

I think the backstory about the TV advert was a bit of a red herring!

WimpoleHat · 02/02/2023 08:07

Appreciate there's degree of subjectivity with names, but given that you have given your DD (what most people would consider) a standard name, I would assume this is a phase and suggest that if she really hates it to use a nickname for now and revisit it again in a few years.

Absolutely this. I think Nina is a lovely name; slightly unusual but not “out there”. It also has a faintly glamorous ring to it to my ears. (I know a Nina of my age (mid 40s) and one of 11 - always liked it.) I honestly think she might regret it in later life if she changes to something that her 15 year old self thinks is “cool”. A shortening/nickname if she’s happy with that sounds like the perfect compromise here.

DisforDarkChocolate · 02/02/2023 08:19

I love Nina too, definitely a glamorous name. Teens, no taste.

BloodAndFire · 02/02/2023 10:18

I thought it might be Tina- not far off! Nina is lovely.

diddl · 02/02/2023 14:08

Nina-lovely!

Have never known one!

DietCroak · 02/02/2023 15:55

I love the name Nina, so elegant and cool.

ImJustMadAboutSaffron · 05/02/2023 11:08

Our old (as in previous, not that she's old) Head of Faculty is called Nina. She's so smart and cool and knowledgeable, she's fabulous.

Milly899 · 22/02/2023 09:36

Aww I love the name Nina. That’s a shame she hates it. It suits young and old. I know a young person called that - funnily enough she told me she also hated it when she was growing up, no reason in particular she just didn’t, but likes it now.