Ruined child's life with the name?

[Leolala]

So the DD name is Alexia. At the time of her birth I was aware of dyslexia term but it was not everywhere like it is now and it never appeared to either of us that alexia is also a medical term, we just struggled to find a name and both really liked it. When we googled it back then we discovered it meant “men defender” and thought it had a good meaning.

She is 8 and I am constantly obsessing over the choice we've made to the point that I am not sure if also made a mistake with our second DC name. She can't go by Alexa either for obvious reasons - mumsnet constantly slams both of the names whenever they come up. This made my anxiety worse with all the negative comments over both of the names.

I do feel like I would want to change it but DD loves her name and doesn’t want any NN or other name. She is not aware of negative connotations but she may find out one day.

Is the name really that bad? What would you think if you hear it on a playground?

Nothing wrong with alexia or Alexa. Both lovely names.

I've never heard of Alexia as a learning issue.

It's fine, but if she's ever concerned as she grows older she can call herself Alex or Lexi or any other number of alternatives

OP I've read the full thread now. This isn't about the name, it's repetitive and obsessive thinking about one issue. It's symptomatic of depression/anxiety or OCD. You definitely need support. I was similar over my DD's eczema, I became obsessed with her skin and could think about nothing else. You definitely need some support. If you can't see the GP, could you pay for counselling?

Really? She's 8, you'd change her name, legally, against her wishes and force the new name on her despite clear indication she likes her name?

No I definitely wouldn't. Apologies to the OP, classic case of not reading it properly because I thought it said her daughter DIDN'T like the name!

It's fine. Take Amelia for instance - it means missing limb but I don't think people really think that when they hear the name.

Absolutely

I know an Alexia and I have never heard of the medical condition. It’s a lovely name and like others have said, Amelia is also a health condition but I would never associate it with the name. It’s like when people say about the name Poppy being linked to war. For me, the two are completely different things! I don’t link one with the other.

It’s a lovely name and I have never heard of the medical term. I promise you, you have not ruined her life with her name! I hope this thread gives you some reassurance but you really need to get some help with your anxieties

OP I have read your thread and felt so much sympathy. I have started a similar thread about name regret and completely understand the obsessive compulsive thinking that comes with it and the inability to move past it. It can become all consuming because it's your child's name, you say it every day and hear it every day, it almost feels like part of your own identity even though it's actually your child's.
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Alexia is a beautiful name, please don't search for Mumsnet threads on it, as its only on Mumsnet that everyone knows the meanings of names because people on here are often fanatical about names. Amelia and Claudia both have similar meanings but people still love those names, I guarantee people you introduce her to won't give it a second thought. The main thing is she loves her name and if she does decide to use nicknames there are plenty of them.
It's a beautiful name, it's very elegant and there aren't many of them which is great.

If a father was trying to force nicknames and name changes on his kid because of his insecurities, I'm pretty sure everyone would be laying into him.

So comforting to see this old chestnut turn up with such regularity.

Now...read through the thread, do a bit of totting up, then come back and tell me how many people are telling the OP that it's a fine name and she needs to move past this, and how many people are telling the OP that she should try and change her name.

Thanks.

Firstly as someone very dyslexic I wouldn’t ever associate with this name

secondly it’s a gorgeous,strong, lovely name so don’t worry.

Hello , Leolala my daughters name is Alexia. She in her last year of high school and has never had any problems or issues with her name. I would not worry or overthink this. It’s a beautiful name my dd sometimes get complements and I heard of other girls named Alexia that are much older than her. Your daughter will be fine in life.

I'm very glad I found strength to post this as it was very reassuring to read most of the responses. Also thanks to the last poster-yiur reply is very helpful.

I had a friend named Alexia when I was younger. I always liked her name. Thought it was unique and pretty. We called her Lexi too. I've also known an Alex. I'm glad you're daughter likes her name! I always thought mine was boring.

It's a lovely name
I think you may have OCD or anxiety or both. Sending love to you

No, you didn’t.

Alexia is a nice name, much better than many names I’ve seen here and elsewhere.

Alexa is lovely too. Who cares, it’s just a friendly robot and you can change the robot‘s name even.

I like Alexandria, Alexandrina and Alexine too.

Alexandra is bland, in my opinion.

You have her a nice name and it’ll serve her well in life. No need to worry.

Right now, it's probably a really cool name because it's almost like Alexa and gives other kids a reason to talk to her in fun. You are obsessing way too much. She loves her name, you should love it-because that is now her identity. People can have nicknames throughout life as well, if she decides for awhile that she wants to do that, it would be perfectly normal. I would leave it, it is creative and there was a reason why you named her that and who cares what others think. It is not a bad name, I think it's cute. But, what's most important is that your daughter may equate you thinking that name isn't good enough to her not being good enough. Kids are funny with that. I recommend safeguarding your child's identity and enjoy life with her, because it doesn't matter what name you have, kids will pick at anything. She needs to be sure of herself so she can deal with that. If you change her name, she may learn to accommodate everyone by changing who she is one shred at a time.

You seem a little obsessive over this so I think you should see a doctor. Your child likes her name, so stop trying to change it, give her different nicknames when she's already expressed how she feels or feeling embarrassed to say her same. She'll pick up on this and it will mess with her head. You're asking if you've ruined your daughters life by naming her alexia... I'd say absolutely not, she had a pretty name that she likes. You could ruin her life though if you drop this as she could end up with mental health and rejection issues. Please get some help.