How do you compromise when your style of names you love are THIS different ?!

[Callieviolet]

So that basically…

My top 5 list -

Winter
posie
ceCe
Lux
Loveday

My husbands too 5 list -

Matilda
Jemima
Harriet
Louisa
Hannah

We have both vetoed each other’s list… not sure where to go from here to find a name we even like let alone love….

I adore Loveday and think you should work harder to get your husband to see the gorgeousness of it!!

Other suggestions:
Astrid
Margot
Bo
Nina
Etta
Roberta

Just keep on jotting down names you both don't hate. Eventually you'll find the name!

Totally agree. Love day? Ffs this can’t be real.

You let your husband choose as his are actually names whereas yours are just Sounds You Like.

I know quite a lot of Cece/Ceci s they all have longer names Cecilia, Celia, Cecily and Assisi but they all seem to be able to get people to call them Cece with no problems so it would be a sensible compromise

I have a Cerys shortened to CeCe.

I asked her what she wanted to be know as at school - her answer was a very clear Cerys.

She's fine with me calling her Ce or CeCe but everyone else has to use her full name - she's 3 and very particular about that.

You can try to engineer a nickname but they tend to sort it out themselves

Oh I love your list! I actually had Winter, Posy and Cece on my own list!
Posy can be short for Josephine? And I imagine Cece could be short for a few different more traditional names. Maybe try that route? A more traditional name but then shortened to something you like?

In the interests of family harmony, I think you need a name that is in the same ballpark as Emily, the baby's half sister.

All of your H's names would go well with Emily, though they're a tad unimaginative.

Other suggestions:

Annabel
Tess
Aphra
Avery
Cicely

Lucy
Sylvie
Vita
Xanthe
Carys

Leonie
Romy
Robyn
Estelle
Elspeth

Isabeau
Rosanna
Cleo
Alice
Alicia

Finola
Winona
Naomi
Lowenna
Eloise

Josephine (Posy)
Caroline
Ivy
Flora
Elowen

Elsa
Isla
Holly
Laurel
Eden

I would rather call the baby one from your husbands choices , not a fan of yours

I love Winter and Cece.
Yours and DHs lists are vastly different though so it’ll be a difficult compromise I think!
I think the best option is what a PP has said and choose something like Cecilia which can be shortened to Cece and then you both get something you love.

Go for the unusual but not weird names. So check out names around 1000 popularity dh makes a list and you make one and see if you have overlaps. I don't think you are that far apart.

I love Loveday!

Your choices are rather out there and very 'different for the sake of being different', OTOH you can have a name on a birth cert and call them whatever you like after that.

Team DH on this one ...

Combine them as a first and middle name?

Jemima Lux

Just for the counterpoint - all of your names are gorgeous, unusual and have literary and historical associations. Your husband's names are good if you're a 40 year old Tory councillor from the shires.

I know two teenage Lux's - it's not that out there in certain circles.

I googled every single one of my baby names to check whether there were criminals associated with the name

Well that's DS2 fucked because he has the same name as a (very obscure) murderer. Yes I googled, but too late.

For the love of God, the common spelling is Cecilia, not Cecelia.

On topic, yeah your names are not to my taste either. Much prefer hubby's.

Just as support for you too OP, I prefer the names on your list too. Hubby's list is generic and ordinary. Yours have some flair.

I love the creativity OP , especially Talulabelle the horse 😂

But I think your DH should name your child! Sorry.

I'm team husband. Please pick something from his list for the child's sake.

Hero and Calypso?

This!

Lux 😂.

I don’t have any name suggestions but just as reassurance- my husband and I had similar problems. I like what my husband calls “old lady” names and he liked more “out there” ones. We found our name watching tv when I was about 6 months pregnant and instantly totally agreed on it. There will be something you both love out there!

Or any of those 5 names. They are horrendous. Hubby however has marvelous taste

I know a CeeCee (spelt?) short for Sienna.

The next person who uses the word 'hubby' is getting dunked down a well.