How do you compromise when your style of names you love are THIS different ?!

[Callieviolet]

So that basically…

My top 5 list -

Winter
posie
ceCe
Lux
Loveday

My husbands too 5 list -

Matilda
Jemima
Harriet
Louisa
Hannah

We have both vetoed each other’s list… not sure where to go from here to find a name we even like let alone love….

In your situation you let your husband choose.

Lux is a toiletries brand owned by Unilever that makes soaps and shower gels (presumably amongst other things... Maybe bog roll).

I'm not a huge fan of your list @Callieviolet , sorry 😬

As another poster has suggested, I think you'll need to compromise with an unusual but still traditional name. Perhaps check out names from Shakespeare plays or Greek mythology (as examples)?

What about:
Lacey
Livia or Lucina
I'm not fan of Posie, but Posie and Winter seems better than other choices.

I second choosing old fashioned but unusual names.

Each of you separately go through the top 5000 names from the <a class="break-all" href="//statswww.ons.gov.uk/peoplepopulationandcommunity/birthsdeathsandmarriages/livebirths/bulletins/babynamesenglandandwales/2021" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">ONS website noting down every name you like. Surely you'll find at least one name in common.

I like both your lists
Loveday is beautiful and an old Cornish name.
What about
Mirabel

Isadora

Marianne

Miranda

Astrid

Iona

Greta

Magda

Lara

Anneliese

I ballsed up the link

www.ons.gov.uk/peoplepopulationandcommunity/birthsdeathsandmarriages/livebirths/bulletins/babynamesenglandandwales/2021

Ooh I LOVE Astrid.

I'm VERY boring traditional when it comes to baby names (think George/James) but I think this is lovely.

It is not like naming a pet or a doll

The child- a person in her own right - has to live with the name and the remarks that it generates. If it is in any way unusual she will have years of having to deal with people's reactions and also to spelling it out and deal with the mispronunciations and misspellings. Which can cause huge bureaucratic complications.

So it's generally best to temper the desire to show how individual and original you are and go for something more socially recognisable.

It feels like Astrid gets recommended on every thread

We used an app called Kinder but there's another one called Babyname.

Didn't really help us as we were trying to whittle down an already very similar list of names, but I imagine it's good if you and your partner need to agree on at least one you both like.

I used to think Posie was very twee but now I associate it with Posie Parker / Kellie-Jay Keen who is as tough as they come.

Posie is still twee.

Laxmi?

You trust your husband to name the child.

Why would you want to call your child after a bar of soap (for those of us old enough to remember Lux)

Your list is daft imo, your husband's is sensible (and your child will thank him in later life)

Posie is traditionally short for Josephine

It appears while the OP has checked the meaning of names she has not checked to see if they are identified with brand names, including old ones, or TV programs, and whether there are infamous people with those names.

I googled every single one of my baby names to check whether there were criminals associated with the name and changed my male middle name because I did this. In the end I had a girl.

Meh, it's just a name.

Lux?
What about Pears? Camay?
Palmolive?
Hormones. Please blame them.

you Can’t call your child Lux or Loveday. they’re just ridiculous names even though I know loveday is real name. I could just about live with Winter but I would let your DH choise

People need to stop telling her to let her husband choose the name.

There are many, many names out there. With a bit of effort they'll find one they both like.

This is satire, right? 🤣

@dworky, your name is a big deal. It's part of your branding.

I think I would try and get a traditional name that can be shortened to one you like.

Winifred/Winter
Sienna/Cecily/Cecelia/Cici
Rosemary/Posie

I find it a bit rude when people call names ridiculous or made-up when they are actually either just cultural or uncommon... Sometimes I feel people would be happier if every child was called James and Josephine!

I agree with the other poster saying uncommon but old fashioned, but maybe you'd like nicknamey style names in a similar vein to Posie too?
Winnie, Maisie, Maggie, Annie, Lucy?

Winnie has the option of being Winter too, or a variety of others like Winona, Winifred, Edwina, Rowena...