Husband's awful name suggestions!

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My husband's absolutely set on several absolutely awful names! I'm trying to convince him otherwise, but MIL and even some of my family are on his side. Don't know gender.
Please tell me I'm not going crazy, these names are awful
Indy
Jolene
Cosmo
Estella
Trisha
Kiana
Aliesha
Chastity

I honestly fear a child named any of those would be absolutely bullied. Any advice?

I don't have anything against Jolene and don't think it's the worst out of those names but I'd be cautious about naming my child when there's a famous song. They'll end up having people sing it at them. I know it's an old song but it was released decades ago and is still well known so who knows how long people will be aware of it for.

If it helps, my daughter's name is Sorcha. Pron. "Sor-Sha".

But the Irish name is supposed to be pron. "Sor-Kah".

Hope this helps? I know it wasn't on your list but just trying to give some alternative ideas. ☺️

Well he doesn’t get to override your name choices just because he and his family likes them.

Stop discussing names with anyone else and come up with something you both like. And don’t let him register the baby without you!

Unless you both agree on a name. You can’t use it, it’s as simple as that.

@MimiDaisy11

I don't have anything against Jolene and don't think it's the worst out of those names but I'd be cautious about naming my child when there's a famous song. They'll end up having people sing it at them. I know it's an old song but it was released decades ago and is still well known so who knows how long people will be aware of it for.

Ah, I didn't consider this before posting my previous entry. This is very true. Thanks @MimiDaisy11 for bringing this to light.

Ultimately though, I guess it is OP's choice. But both a good observation and good point. 👍

Estella is lovely.
Estella May
Estella Jane
Is it growing on you yet?

Tell your DH that from now on all name discussions are strictly between the two of you, not complicated by the opinions of anyone else in the family.

Chastity is hideous, the connotations are awful.

Jolene is too associated with the song, which is now stuck in my head! She'd have a lifetime of people singing it at her.

Alicia (ah-liss-ee-ah) is a nice alternative to Aliesha? I think Cosima is a good suggestion too.

I would suggest going through a list of the top 1000 names each (you can get them from the ONS) and each of you make a list from there and then compare and see if you have anything in common?

They're all hideous

Well I really like Cosmo.

The rest, let's just say not as much and leave it at that.

Keep reminding him that the baby is going to be a real person soon not just a bump.

MIL needs to keep her nose out, remind her she's had her turn at naming children then forget to include her next time you make tea. She will see her card has been marked.

Tell him he isn't going to be in the delivery room unless the name is sorted in advance and it will not be a. anything to do with anyone who isn't you or him, any names suggested or mentioned by any family member will automatically be off the list and b. it will be a name you love. Or you will name the baby yourself.

I don’t really like either his OR your names OP, but I think he slightly wins in the the terrible stakes with Trisha. Go on, you’ve got to do it.

I can't believe that people are saying that Cosmo is OK. It's utterly dreadful. Who do you know who could carry that name well?

I'm surprised at so may people liking Cosmo. Makes me think Cosmopolitan magazine. Cosimo would be better.

Chastity is fine for a 17th century Puritan maid.

Cosmo and Estella are both really nice

Estella makes me think of Estrella lager

And Cosmo the slightly terrible all you can eat restaurant chain.

You should agree that neither of you will discuss names with your families. The two of you should decide together and then announce it after the birth.
But yes those names are all awful.

Estella is fine. Nope to the others

Cosmo must surely be a boy’s name.
Estella is the major character in Great Expectations, beautiful but very damaged.

Sorry but yours are just as bad jane and diana come on .a cruise singer and a ex princess killed in a car crash .Nell .may and estella the best of a bad bunch

Estella is a beautiful name. The rest of them not so much. Your girls names are no better though tbf!

Nell, Jane, May, Diana for a girl and Jack, Charlie, Will for a boy

I don't like May and Will is bit nothingy
The others are great

I know a 10yo Kiana, one of the most lovely girls I know. She really suits her name. I know a few Aliesha’s, all older 20/30s and not in the UK. Don’t mind the name.

All the others 😬

For anyone interested, have had a talk with DH. Chastity absolutely off the cards, and have explained why.
We have agreed not to involve MIL or my brother (who was beginning to poke his nose in a bit) and the baby has to have a name we agree on.
Not any further with a name we both like, but we've agreed to keep looking.
Progress!

You're lucky, I had to deal with Roger & Kevin.

I love Estella!