My sister kind of stole my baby name :(

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I told my sister a few months back that I really liked the name Judah for a boy. We were both expecting boys but she was dead set on calling her baby boy River so I thought I was on safe ground telling her my choice. Anyway she just came out of hospital and announced out tof the blu that her baby was to be Jude. I am completely gobsmacked and quite upset to be honest but I'm not prepared to cause a massive fuss and a fall out over a name. Anyway just wanted some advice, would you still call your baby Judah if your sister had named their baby Jude? Or do you all think I should just bow out graciously and go with my second choice which is Josiah or my hubby's first choice which is Theodore/Theo/Teddy?

It stings right now OP, but at least telling her saved your nephew from being called River for the rest of his life!

Ooh you’ve got some lovely choices! I agree that Josiah is beautiful but so are the others. What a fabulous predicament to find yourself in.

Your sister tried to outdo you but really hasn’t!

Good luck with your new baby.

@PeeOnAStickToday

good for you!
playing nicely is better on the whole, but sometimes you have to hit back

@TaraR2020

In the future you can always tell your nephew that you names him

ooh me likey!

good thinking Batman🤣

I know how you feel. I lost my first child very early after birth. His name was Elijah. My sister had a son last month and called him Elijah because well my Elijah is dead and she always loved the name and why shouldn't she use it.

Fuck me, I have read some vileness on here but that is weapons grade nasty.

I am so sorry that you lost Elijah, I am sure he was a wonderful little boy, and am so glad that you have cut off the toxic family that would think that they can do that.

I agree with PPs amd say that it wasn't the real name you'd chosen.

Then call your nephew Judy! Well until he's old enough to understand. Although I bet he gets called Judy at school.

If I really liked yhe name I'd still use it.

I would do what the previous poster said and tell her that Judah was a red herring name and that Josiah or Theodore were always your chosen name,

I think they are both lovely names, much nicer than Judah which reminds me of Judas which isn’t the nicest of names due to the bible story.

Your sister sounds very much like my ex sil, we were both pregnant at the same time and nothing was discussed because I knew she would have done the same as your sister did!

@hotmeatymilk

Josiah for your baby, Judas for your sister

Call your baby River.

If it comes up that you had chosen Judah first just say ‘I’d gone off it as a name anyway’ with a tinkling laugh 😂

Judah is way too close to Judas. Your alternative names are a thousand times better.

That’s terrible, I also prefer the other two names though

I like Theo, much nicer than Judah. Plus the shortening to Judy, which is likely, would really have annoyed me. Perhaps, evil grin, you could get your son in the future to call his cousin Judy!!!
REVENGE, lol

Josiah is a much nicer name - Jos for short

“Josiah for your baby, Judas for your sister”

😂

@yoghurtdaily my mouth stayed wide open long after I read that.
Really really disgusting on so many levels. I’m really sorry that your Elijah isn’t here with you and also for the hurt you must now be feeling.
You already know it’s a vile thing to do but just offering a few words of moral support

Theodore is a much nicer name, you might even have others on your list by the time you need to make a choice. Your sister is a cow. Good luck with everything 🌸

There is also the issue of the song 'Hey Jude' which could be used to mock a child endlessly in school.

Think your sister has done you a favour as like your alternative names better

Teddy is the most gorgeous name! Judah sounds a little close to Judas for me anyway 😬 Theo is super cute too

Josiah is much nicer than Judah but in my humble opinion go with the name YOU want.

Yes, dad's do get a say so too! But, ultimately, as you are carrying baby you get first call, (IMHO).

My dad's name is shared by cousin, my aunt's name is shared by another cousin, my in-laws have all male firstborns with the same name, (although use abbreviated names for them all), and lastly my FIl, and his father have the same name and my son has it as a middle name.

You don't need to fall out with your sister, you can use the name you chose and she can use it too.

"She's always playing the ' I can do better game' and to be honest I can't be bothered with it anymore. My whole family is pretty toxic and I've had to walk away from them all to preserve my sanity. I'll just let her have the name (not that I have much choice) I have a lovely family and I really should just focus on that."

If you are cutting her out of your life it doesn't matter that her son has a name similar to yours. Honesty, just do what is right for you.

Oh and Jonah is a brilliant name.

Josiah is a beautiful name. Whatever you settle on, I’d not give your sister the satisfaction of realising you are upset (however tempting it is to apologise for misleading her as you never know who you can trust when it comes to baby names…” ).