She stole our girl name! What would you do??

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Ladies, what would you do if you were pregnant with a girl, your best "couple friends" were also expecting a baby girl, you told said "couple friends" of your chosen name aaaaaaaand BAMMM they had their child two weeks before your due date and SURPRIIIIIIISE they used your girl name!

Would you still use the name?

Would you unfriend those two and start an open war?

Ooooor... Would you quietly dispise them and gossip about them on Mumsnet pretending nothing happened when you meet?

I want to know your opinion on this!!

I can comment as I wish to Saraclara. . As can you.

I am not familiar with the new verb 'unfriend'. It sounds like Newspeak.

Two of my close friends had baby girls 6 weeks apart and they both chose the same name. However they had discussed it in advance and both knew this was going to happen. The girls were close friends and loved having the same name. It was all fine. Just let your friend know you still plan to use that name and you can congratulate yourselves in having great taste in names. Don't fall out about it.

@Spidey66 I’d find it very odd if any of my siblings used one of my children’s names 🤨

I'd be pissed off - especially if they'd never mentioned it before and you had, but I'd still use it.

Depends on the name - something popular like Olivia, Sophia etc and I'd still use it. Something super unique or rare and I wouldn't feel able to as everyone would think I copied them.

Also depends how often you see them, if your children will be in same school etc

Is 'unfriend' a verb? I know 'despise' is ( but not 'dispise').

This is the only reply you’ve contributed to the thread. Are you really that pathetically petty that you need to pull somebody up on their spelling to make yourself feel better? You could have given your opinion on the OP’s dilemma but it seems being a dick comes easier to you.

OP, I would be slightly irritated if a close friend did this to me and I probably would use the name but would definitely cool the relationship with the friends.

‘Open war’ ?

Are you sure you’re old enough to be having children?

I'd be pissed off - especially if they'd never mentioned it before and you had, but I'd still use it.

^Me too

Happened to me and I used the name, and both boys are now happy 7 year olds with the same name....

Is this light hearted or are we sacrificing here?

Thank you @KaptainKaveman I was really confused and did not understand the post without your helpful corrections.

I would assume they forgot I'd mentioned it or thought it was one of a few names I'd been considering, and I would come up with another name for my dd.

This is why you never tell anyone the names you are considering before the baby is here.

I would choose another name that I loved but I would never admit to them that their choice of name was the reason I changed it.

E.g. them
"weren't you going to call your child Ella too?"
"Yeah we were but then we thought about Lily - being Grandma's middle name (or whatever) and how nice it would be to remember her in the name....."

or if you are braver/bitchier - yeah but we thought if we use a name in the top 10 there will always be loads of kids with the name - and you choosing it just brought that home to us / or if we use such an unusual name no-one will ever know how to spell it properly.....

If there was an element of using it because you wanted it then implying that you moved on naturally will take that shine off it for them. If they had already chosen it and were worried it was also your name of choice then they should be glad that you moved on from it.

How do you know it's not a name they've always loved and wanted. Why should they not use the name but you can. Odd.

Glad I could assist, Sally .

I'm sorry to upset you BillBen - are you going to 'unfriend' me now ? . I found your comment about being 'pathetically petty' amusing and ironic, given the premise of this thread .

Failing to see the problem. They can call their kid whatever they like same as you can.

This happened to my parents just before I was born.

I ended up with a different name. I have never much liked my name and much prefer the original one. My parents remained friendly with these people for a few years and then drifted apart when they moved away but I was still lumbered with Name 2.

Use the name.

Can't they call theirs B1 and you call yours B2?
In all honesty, shrug it off - you'll always come across someone with the same name...they obs lacked inspiration and lazily chose your preferred name.

We had this with our fourth child and only girl. Had the baby and friends ( DH long time friends) had picked that name for their child. We didn’t see them all that often lived in different villages and therefore different schools.
Friend knocked on door when DD was about 10 days over and friend ‘s baby was overdue. Neither of us had discussed names but our DD was named from day 1. Friend explained situation and asked how we felt as they had picked the name early on. I told them no problem at all use the name. They were delighted. We only saw them once with the babies. Later on at Secondary they unknowingly became friends. We really laughed about it when we found out. DD had another friend with the same name too everyone gave her a nickname and she is still known as that. It wasn’t an unusual name but suddenly became very popular in the next ten years. DD put down her middle name at uni but then forgot when they called the register and went back to her first name.
When she was about five she wanted to be called by both name so we did for a number of years then she dropped it. Now she uses it for her website and Instagram.
So make sure you have a middle name.
No one owns a name!

It's too much of a coincidink. Not open war worthy but not cool either.
Any chance she forgot the conversation (babybrain) and you inceptioned her by mistake? Ask her.

I'm very thankful to my DM's next door neighbour for pinching her girl name. I still got it as a middle name, but it's awful.

Perhaps it's fate OP.

They didn't use your girl's name they used a girls name.

If this sort of thing is going to annoy you just don't tell people any names you have chosen. When you congratulate them just say 'Congratulation, what a lovely name' then use the name.

They may not remember where they got the idea for the name from. You mentioned the name in a conversation. Doesnt mean that was the first time they had heard the name or thought of it.

When we picked DS' name I didnt remember where we had heard of it from. It was only later that I realised it was the name of a character in a series of books I had read.

Plus rule for threads like this (same as parking ones have diagrams) is to name the name. then we can all slag it off and come up with better ones

if a relative I’d be bothered but friends come and go especially when kids come a long.
Id use it and just go with it