Boy/girl twins. What goes with....

[Courtney555]

Max.

We thought we had two girls. So had kind of matchy style names (Camille and Claudia) in the pipeline.

Neither of those is the girls' name I love, but I kind of didn't mind because there were two, so it wouldn't be like one had my favourite name over the other. I like both the names, but no more than like.

Now it's turned out they're definitely boy/girl. So the boy will be Max. And I can't think of anything I like other than the name I can't have, now it's only one girls name I need. (It's been what my daughter has always been called in my head for the last 20yrs, and literally a year ago, this bitch who's connected directly to our family stole it, and yes I am fucking bitter) Spam me with names that go with Max please. Help me find something I love...

I’d stick with the name you love

Max and Emmy/Emmie
Max and Lucy
Max and Sadie
Max and Willa
Max and Ottilie
Max and Delilah

It is impossible to steal a name.

Use the name you love.

What was the name you love?

Max and delilah as pp suggested is lovely!

Astrid
Alice
Freya
Aurelia
Clementine / Clemmie
Scarlett
Georgia
Georgina
Sadie
Martha
Genevieve
Anastasia
Juliet
Cecilia
Cecily

If you were having two names with the same first letter when you thought it was girls, how about Max and
Maisie
Marissa
Molly
Millie

Go with the name you love. If people question it you can always explain that you've loved it for 20 years. Max is a pretty common name so it doesn't matter if another child has the same name, does it?

Margo
Millie
Mollie
Mia

I find paired names with the same initial kind of unmemorable.

Max and Matilda (Tilly)
Max and Emilia
Max and Kitty
Max and Millie

Max and Ava

It is impossible to steal a name.

Use the name you love.

I'm not going into this too far. But the name I love is not especially commonplace. And the connection is the equivalent to, my DB having a one night stand with an awful woman. She admits she just wanted a kid from anyone. And yes, yes, DB is a fucking idiot for letting that be him. He sees the child occasionally. She found out somehow what "my name" was, and used it. So you see, I can't have it. It's used on the only girl in the family and a close close relation.

If couldn't use it because my DB and say his wife of ten years had fallen in love with it for their long awaited daughter, I'd be peeved, sure, but I'd get over it. To have to now call my daughter anything but her only name because this horrid woman who is of no connection to our family used it out of spite is a bitter pill, as you can imagine.

It's so hard, every name is just, well, it's not my daughter's name.

Just use the name you want.

Think about it, what's the worst that could happen? Genuinely?

If anyone queried it you can say honestly that you've just always loved the name and oh, how funny their child was born first! And isn't it a lovely name so it's understandable other people would like it too etc etc.

Otherwise, why can't you pick either Claudia or Camille? They're both lovely names that you obviously do like and both go well with Max.

Don't over think it!

You sound too bitter not to use the name you love tbh. For your own sake, do it, or you'll be stewing over it forever.

Ok cross post there but even after reading your explanation I still think you can use it.

Your DB doesn't see the child that much you say. So who cares if you use it too?

Also you sound v v angry about this situation. Have you thought about talking to someone about it?

It doesn't have to begin with M.

Claudia and Camille I had gone with both C's because they were twin girls, so a bit twee/novelty on that fact. At that point they could have still been identical too. Unlikely but not ruled out.

Now it's boy/girl, I don't see them so much as a pair. More two separate children who are born at the same time.

So if your oldest boy was Max, his little sister would be...

Max is an awesome name.
What about:
Max and Emma
Max and Zoe
Max and Imogen
Max and Rebecca
Max and Betsy
Max and Kate
Max and Sophie
Max and Maisie
Max and Roma
Max and Kezia
Max and Poppy
Max and Rachel
Max and Ella

Max and Lucy
Max and Francesca
Max and Amaya
Max and Talia (or Natalia)
Max and Elise

Just read your update and that would upset me too. The only thing is that I don’t think ANY name is going to be right because your element of choice has been taken away. Would you use it as a middle name? She never needs to know and at least your daughter would get the name you love in there somewhere.

You sound too bitter not to use the name you love tbh. For your own sake, do it, or you'll be stewing over it forever.

This is my real concern. But my daughter will forever be "The other Persephone" (it's not Persephone, but it's as uncommon as that, so not a bad example). And other friends/family members thinking I'm being a dick for using that name out of every other name in the world when it's what my brother's kid, and the only girl in the family is called. People asking my mum why on earth she's got two grandkids called the same thing, I've obviously copied deliberately. I'll be the one that ends up looking petty and spiteful.

But yes, I'm truly worried that I will always feel that's not my daughter, if I call her something else. I've wanted my little girl so badly for 20 years. She's always been "Persephone."

It's interesting that a couple of you say use it. My DB would be really cross with me. Really cross. And I get why. It's not his fault that she went off and named her that without telling him. But now it's his kids name.

Max and Faye
Max and Poppy
Max and Sadie
Max and Eve
Max and Emma
Max and Erin
Max and Bella
Max and Kate

I genuinely would advise you to speak to a therapist about this to help you resolve both the naming issue and your feelings. (Inadvertently) passing on all this anger to your kids won't be a good thing but seem unavoidable by the way you talk about it.

You need a name that is better than the stolen name. Give us a clue to what it is (so it cant be searched for) and we will find a better name.

In the mean time

Max and Delilah

I genuinely would advise you to speak to a therapist about this to help you resolve both the naming issue and your feelings

Really? I'm not angry at my kids?

I'm furious that my beautiful daughter has had her name stolen by an awful woman for no reason other than to be spiteful. Therapy won't change that. Or change the fact I've still got to find another name. Might make me less furious. Doesn't particularly help the outcome though does it.

There's got to be a name out there I love as much. I just haven't heard it yet. I'm trying to be positive and think that way. That's why I need spamming with names.

I like very girly names. I like French names. I like Russian names. And nothing with an "Elle" sound in it. As our surname is similar to say, "Bell". I do really like Elle though, names like that too.

I don't like, for example, Megan, Freya, Molly, Polly, Milly, Katie, Sarah, Lily, Rosie, Grace. Those sort of names.

You need a name that is better than the stolen name. Give us a clue to what it is (so it cant be searched for) and we will find a better name.

Hmmmm. I guess it's pretty close to Evangeline.

Also, Delilah (and Tallulah or similar) are not my thing. It does go really well with Max, I just don't like the name.

Thank you everyone, I'm really appreciating you taking the time to do this xx

For Russian names, I love Anouska ( sp Anoushka?)

Personally I'd just use 'your' name as you've had your heart set on it. Nobody owns a name, just use it!

Or use it as the middle name, and call your DD by her middle name. She still has a different first name that way, if she wanted to be known that way when older.

How about Elodie? Max and Elodie