Middle name for Casper (Girl)

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Really want a lovely middle name for Casper, something feminine, vintage, pretty etc.
Many thanks in advance and happy new year

And sorry for the late response, my new year resolution was to spend less time online

I wonder if her partner’s mother had been born in, say, Charlotte NC or Enid OK and they were expecting a boy, how much sway sentimentality would hold?

Of course people can call their children whatever they like. But it’s pretty obvious that the reason giving boy’s names to girls is fashionable and giving girl’s names to boys is not is that we still associate male things with being cool and strong, and female things with being weak and lame.

Still no no matter the reason - no one will say rose - it will just be Caspar the girl and that’s awful. Please do your niece a favour and stop your sister using this name. Really. Show her this thread if you most.
Use Caspar as the middle name if they must!

Please do your niece a favour and stop your sister using this name.

How on Earth would they do that? Given that the sister and her partner have picked the name in the first place I daresay they are unlikely to be swayed by public opinion. There are many folk who take pride in being a bit 'out there' with their name choices. If Casper Rose hates her name she can always change it when she's older. But I've heard worse tbh.

Reagan they say to their sister that name is a terrible mistake. Don’t do it! Your child will hate you forever and you’ll have name regret from after she’s 5 months old until the rest of your life

And they ignore her but now there's a massive rift in the family. It's considered quite rude to do what you're suggesting OP does, you know.

Not rude - necessary for the sake of her niece

Does one imagine there were similarly pedestrian conversations to this one in the past when parents decided to bestow upon their daughters other hitherto "male" names such as Evelyn (which was also a surname -shock, horror), Carol, Beverly, Vivian, Meredith, Lauren, or Alison?

Hard pass.

That comment wasn’t aimed at you directly, it was in response to all of the comments about bullying, confusion, hassle etc.

I didn’t think it was. Nor did I say what will happen, as you claimed, simply what happened to me.

Firstly, yes- it would be very rude for OP to state it the way you did.

Secondly, even if OP followed your advice, it is incredibly unlikely it would make the parents change their mind and very likely that it would offend them and cause a family argument. Not worth it. At most, OP might tentatively suggest that, in OP's opinion, it wouldn't suit a girl, if OP was asked.

My sister has seen the thread and she isn't swayed. She knows I think it's a bit 'out there' for a girls name but they are in love with it and so each to their own.
I highly doubt anything awful will happen to my neice because of her name, and she'll be loved all the same.

Good for therm, I like Casper Rose. Its not more out there than Reece Withherspoon, Blake Lively (hasn't hurt them) or many other names used in the US, where I think you said she will live?

Not to mention Daryl Hannah, Drew Barrymore, Glenn Close and Cameron Diaz.

I work with Americans and regularly chat with a Read, a Barbi, a female James, a female Cal, a Garry, a Carey, a Desi and a Cody. Nobody gives a shit about unusual names. Luckily for baby Casper, they seem less moribund by tradition ans propriety regarding names in the US.

Casper will barely register, especially in a class full of multicultural names, as nost children now experience.

Suggest "Caspita" to her which is Italian slang for "Christ on a bike"

It's not the unisex (or not) bit about Casper. I'd roll my eyes at any name so connected to a cartoon character.

I'd roll my eyes at any name so connected to a cartoon character.

What like Mickey, Donald, Maggie, Lisa or Tom?

Mickey and Donald, absolutely Ask any Mickey or Donald in the English speaking world what their nicknames were at school.

I live in a non English speaking country and my name is Lisa. Guess what everyone's first reaction always is?

Does it matter though? Do you think poor Mickey is scared for life because school friends called him Mickey Mouse? You can make a nickname or association with any name.

But if they're that kind of person then that's just what people/kids do with any names, isn't it? My name is Louise and the boys at primary school used to have great fun making up sentences with all the words which rhyme with my name.

Poor kid. She'll spend her life explaining it to people. Some people are just so selfish.

I doubt in 5 years time when she goes to school, that anybody her age will have seen or heard of the Movie Casper. I can barely remember it and I'm 36!

Exactly, nobody under the age of 40 will even remember Casper the Friendly Ghost by the time shes at school, unless there's a remake. And that can happen at any time anyway. My scottish friend has a teenage Archie who now gets called Archie Andrews because the Riverdale TV series came out. He doesn't care. Remember all the pissed off mc mothers with their trendy Rubys when one turned up in EastEnders?. It van happen anytime and most kids are resilient enough to be able to handle it.

People get hung up on the associations they have, which will mean nothing to a generation 2/3 down from them. My cousin called her son Dylan and the elderly aunts went oh noooo you can't call him that, thats the druggie rabbit from The Magic Roundabout! Like a 15 year old now guves a shit about a kids TV program that hasnt been on TV simce the 70/80s

Funny how it never works the other way - a girls name used for a boy.

you should've said one of the parents was American, it would be then less puzzling as to why someone think it's a good idea

Yep. Nobody has ever been able to explain to me why boys don’t get called Emily. Everybody knows why, of course. Which is why the question gets studiously ignored.

Reese Witherspoon got mentioned... she is actually called Laura Jeanne Reese Witherspoon and Reese is her mother's maiden name.