Born on Easter Sunday! Please, help us name our DS!

[GreenLounger]

Hi all,

My little boy arrived yesterday... He is an Easter Baby!

We are so stuck for names - our styles are way too different.

I like relatively popular names...

We gave a list of 15 to each other:

Mine:
Alexander
Benjamin
Daniel
Edward (Teddy)
Ethan
Henry
Isaac
Joseph
Kieran
Matthew
Nathan
Reuben
Samuel
William (Billy)
Zachary

His:
Ash
August
Bryce
Carson
Clinton
Cruz
Dante
Devon
Elvis
Gideon
Kyan
Nixon
Oak
Ryder
Saxon

Help!!!

OP you had a difficult birth on Sunday. It's Tuesday, 48 hours since you birthed your first child. You you cannot possibly drive long distance on your own with a baby. I'm surprised you are even home from hospital. Are you getting daily midwife visits?

I am concerned you are having a 3 hour drive with a new born.. If you do go take documentation needed to register the birth.. but do make sure both of you are well enough ...

Have you spoke to MW about your plans?

Congratulations on the arrival of your beautiful son, he really is GORGEOUS!

FWIW I think he looks like a Daniel and it's a lovely name.

Your DH (D for dickhead) has terrible, terrible taste in names, but that's not the biggest problem. The problem is that he's been an absolute arse about the whole thing and tbh I think he's been egged on by his mother. You clearly have a MIL problem but of course that also translates into a DH problem if he doesn't stand up to her. So I was glad to read your recent update that he asked her to stop contacting you. Actually I think he needs to tell her to back the fuck off (ok maybe politer words ) at the very least until you've decided on a name and registered the birth.

As for deciding on a name, I really hope he will agree to Daniel. You say he's an artist and wants something different... So can you think of any artists, writers, musicians, philosophers or even characters from books with the name Daniel? I was just thinking that you might be able to argue that the name doesn't have to be "out there" to be meaningful (to him/you/both). Actually I don't think it has to be meaningful at all, it just has to be a name you both like, and your son will make it meaningful. But your DH might not see it that way!

Longer term you might need to read the book "Toxic In-laws"! I suggest you get a copy sooner rather than later!

Oh and I think visiting your mother would be lovely, you need someone who's on your side for once! Would it be the end of the world if DH goes with you? Maybe he would listen to you and your mum, away from the influence of his mum? Or do you just want a break from both of them now?

If DH doesn't go, could your mum/dad/sibling come and collect you or at least meet you halfway or something so you don't have to do the whole journey alone with Daniel DS?

Daniel is gorgeous. Your list was great. His was unbelievably awful. Jaxon ffs so chavvy. He has no taste. Do not compromise. Look after yourself at this difficult time and perhaps a little break away will make him realise how precious you both are to him. Mil sounds a total bitch....

Your MIL needs a punch in the cunt.

It does indeed look like you both have very different styles

I like both your lists! However there is rarely a name I don't like (except for the ridiculous ones like nutella, chips and fat boy etc).

The only one I would veto would be Elvis! Sorry, I know that is not much help...

Can't believe that message from mil. Who separates a newborn from their mother?!

I'm also a little concerned a out you driving so soon, and think it will be good for dh to go as well. If never else, it gives you a good opportunity to talk to,him about mil and how she needs to butt out of your life!

Go and see your mum, but take DH so that he can do ALL driving. Get away from batshit MIL.
And play Elton John "Daniel" on a loop in the car.

What about he has Daniel on birth certificate, your poncy DH can call him Dante, everyone else calls him Dan.
Dante won't stick!

Blimey, your MIL is a horror!

Furry, I'm sorry but that made me laugh out loud! and I am prudish about THAT word

I hope Green you are on your way to your mum for some TLC.

How you getting on OP? Did u get to your mums in the end?

Daniel George Victor would be gorgeous and a nice nod to both your and his dad. I can't believe the MIL. 12 missed calls... I would not be able to hold my tongue! Ugh!
Insist on the above (if you like Daniel, don't mind George and want to include your dad). That way he's getting two (given he'll have his surname) and you're getting two.
Btw, I can see where your partner gets his bullying nature from!
Tell him, as the Americans say, his choice in names sucks! And, furthermore, you'd rather upset him and his over-involved mother than saddle your child with an silly name that he'll be lumbered with for life...and will likely be the source of much amusement and bullying!

Yes, Daniel = suits him! He is so squidgy!! Love the hair! Daniel is a timeless name, really strong and derivatives are good! Why would your husband want an ugly fly-by-night, so-called trendy name that his son will end up resenting him for?! In twenty years' time, when you say to Daniel..'You know, your dad wanted to call you......', he'll be thanking you profusely that you were insistent! Stand your ground or you'll get walked all over!
Also, you honestly need to give that ridiculous MIL a piece of your mind!!!!!!

Hoping my little baby will be as beautiful as baby Daniel! He's gorgeous!!

Yours are great, his less so, try to play to his playfulness Roger, Peter but maybe avoid buggs...

Whoops only read page 1, conversation's moved on, ignore above, can't see how to delete.

I know the conversation has moved on, but he really is beautiful

Any news on the name yet OP?

I hope he's registered as Daniel

Archer
Carter
Dexter
Hanley
Ellis
Thomas

Any news?