Born on Easter Sunday! Please, help us name our DS!

[GreenLounger]

Hi all,

My little boy arrived yesterday... He is an Easter Baby!

We are so stuck for names - our styles are way too different.

I like relatively popular names...

We gave a list of 15 to each other:

Mine:
Alexander
Benjamin
Daniel
Edward (Teddy)
Ethan
Henry
Isaac
Joseph
Kieran
Matthew
Nathan
Reuben
Samuel
William (Billy)
Zachary

His:
Ash
August
Bryce
Carson
Clinton
Cruz
Dante
Devon
Elvis
Gideon
Kyan
Nixon
Oak
Ryder
Saxon

Help!!!

MIL is being an arse...

"Hi chick, u being good to my boy? He really needs u to stop being so controlling. We all no ur the mother, we hear that enough, but he helped make that little man. U couldn't do it alone. Maybe I could have him the night? U can spend some alone time with my boy? I'm just a phonecall away. P x"

I'm going to my mums, I'm too annoyed to me around that bitch. It's her that is the issue!!

I won't register him, but I'll make sure he can't and spend a nice week (at least) with my dear mum, who needs me and her grandson

OMG! Is she for real?! Just go! What a controlling bitch!!!!! As if you're gonna give her the baby. ...just unreal!

He needs YOU to stop being controlling?
Good god.

Daniel is a lovely name
Re the birth registration, not sure where you are but in my area you have to phone to make the appointment in advance and depending on how busy they are you may have to wait a few days/weeks so you may not be able to do it immediately.

Cannot believe all the missed calls from you MIL! Whatever you do, DO NOT answer the phone to her. Tell your H to tell her to wind her neck in and leave you alone. Then you need to make H understand what a twat he is being when you are so vulnerable, and that he needs to sort himself out or you're off to your mum's for a few days to get the emotional support you need right now.

Daniel will be fine on the journey, just make sure to build lots of feeding stops

Your MIL sounds horrendous, controlling and immature. "My boy" "little man"? Jeez!

Ahh x-post! That message from her is unbelievable! I am raging on your behalf...go! Go to your mothers and have some peace and leave your H and his crazy mother to it. Once things have calmed down you need to make MIL understand that you will not put up with any shit from her...start as you mean to go on!

I think I'd gt moving before the crazy bitch comes round as she clearly thinks she's got the right to interfere as much as she wants! Has your husband always been such a mummy's boy? X

I don't get why he has changed since DS has arrived.
It's usually when abusers become obvious.
I hope that's not the case, but it's not looking great.

As for the text from your MIL, I'd be tempted just to write back: you, your.

OMG! that text would have sent me over the edge. Tell her to get the F out of your marriage, for starters. If your husband "needs" you to do something let him be the one to tell you, eh?

Wow that's terrible...

I would make it absolutely clear to h that you will not be tolerating your mil interfering like this.

Is she usually so controlling? Name issue aside your husband needs to tell her to back the fuck off.

He's 2 days old

Run OP run to your mum and don't look back, go now! They are a pair of fucking wrongens!

I'm so mad on your behalf I want to come to your house and shout at them both. Loudly. While throwing things. At their heads.

Seriously if you are in south west London or north Surrey I'll come now

If only! I'm in SE!

I'm so fed up with it all (sorry for making this thread so annoying!)

I think I'll set off tonight, I can always stay in a hotel if I get too sleepy to drive.

He can do what he wishes for a couple of weeks!

Yes, always been a "precious gem" type. She sees no bad in him, never thinks e does wrong! It's the worst. He is usually fine, but now I'm not that important to him now DS is here, obviously.

Daniel is a lovely name.
With Prince George people will think you copied William and Kate if you use George.

Daniel is lovely! Really suits him. MIL sounds ridiculous, sorry you are having such a tough time of it. I hope they both look back I how they have been behaving with huge embarrassment! I think I can categorically say that IMO your DH has the worst taste in names I've seen on MN...

I've just seen the text from your mil.
Is she for real?
'Hi chick' etc etc.
Jesus wept.
You have a gorgeous wee boy. Call him what you like.
She named her own 'little man'.
It's your turn now.

WTAF? YOU are controlling? Grab the birth certificate and your little Daniel and get the hell out of there for a while. What a cow your MIL is.

Op, please be very careful leaving the house. I really would try to get help to leave. God speed. This kind of thing never gets better.

Is this thread for real? It's gone from a naming dilemma to a 'I'm leaving with my newborn" This is very serious. I think you might not be thinking straight and really don't think you should set off on a 3 hour drive when sleep deprived post any delivery. Get some help from a friend maybe?

Oh dear lord. That is a TERRIBLE text from your MIL.

I still think the decision to stop talking about it is the best. Go to see your mum in the morning - don't leave now. Is your husband on paternity leave? Won't he want to come to your DM's too? If so, maybe he should - a change of scene and a change of people --who are on your side- might be what's needed?

Day 3 after birth is often pretty hormonal, just to forewarn you.

I love the name Daniel. I would go Daniel George Victor, if I were you. But it is still pretty traditional, so it may be that with a little distance and time out you can both agree on a name you both like.

for you, OP.

Hope you're ok OP and on the way to your mums to enjoy you're beautiful baby. This is really playing on my mind, I feel so bad for you.

I'm heading tomorrow, I've hopped into bed. DH really wants to come too

Maybe I'm just over sensitive, bloody hormones! I'm a right mess! Since my "I'm not messing around anymore" talk with DH, things are much better and he phoned up MIL to tell her we are going away and she needs to stop contacting me. Finally.

Sorry all for all the jumping around x

I'm heading tomorrow, I've hopped into bed. DH really wants to come too

Maybe I'm just over sensitive, bloody hormones! I'm a right mess! Since my "I'm not messing around anymore" talk with DH, things are much better and he phoned up MIL to tell her we are going away and she needs to stop contacting me. Finally.

Sorry all for all the jumping around x

Your mil needs a slap.
I would do it but I'm literally the opposite end of the country (NW)

Good god. So sorry you're having to go through all this shit, Green. And that MIL of yours sounds like a right piece.

Daniel is beautiful and it suits him perfectly. He is so squidgy and cute.