Is this really an issue???

[Sim2]

My brother has a one year old called Eva..I have just called my daughter Eve- both girls have different middle and surnames yet my sister in law has fallen out with us!!!
Is this really an issue?!..surely it doesn't matter at all!!

Quite honestly, I give people full and complete leave to be precious over their name.

There are loads of things which I would judge people for being precious over, but your main identifier, something you will carry with you for your entire life, something that defines you? Yeah, I reckon you have full rights to be totally precious over it!!

But Lewis and Lucas are very different names (despite sounding vaguely similar) and one is not a derivative of the other. Eve and Eva are essentially the same name, and there is a good chance they will both end up being called just Eve, or Evie. that is the issue. In my family we have a Cameron and a Callum and no-one batted an eyelid at that, least of all me.

Had these girls been called Eva and Ava, or Evie and Edie it would have been a bit silly and irritating, but less bad IFSWIM.

Yes I should have said that, Lucas and Lewis were similar enough for me to have thought 'no i can't, it sounds a bit daft' but Eva and Eve are practically the same name.

Like Julie and Julia
or Nicole and Nicola
or James and Jamie

or ..no you get my drift.

I think OP was wrong to do it, - just my opinion.

I would be really pissed off if I were her. Sorry.

Don't think I would mind really. More likely I would be flattered that you liked my name choice so much. Definitely not worth falling out over.

TBH I would be annoyed that DB and SIL used a name they knew I would probably use in the future. I have one girl's name that both DH and I really love; it would have been DS's name if he had been a DD. I've mentioned it in passing a few times when SILs have asked what a DD's name would be and I would probably still use it if they decided to use it for a DD of their own.

Haven't read the whole thread but two of my dad's sisters, living in different countries from each other but very close, have an Alex and an Alexander. The Alexander gets called Alex. I thought it was funny but as far as I know my aunties never fell out over it. Some people must be more sensitive to this than others.

Wow. It wouldn't occur to me to be even remotely bothered by this.

I might be a bit if the names were identical (particularly if the dcs were v.close geographically and in age) - but they're not.

Now I have read the whole thread

Gosh, the OP didn't do anything that terrible. I don't think she should feel obliged to change her baby's name or even apologise for it. For some folk it IS difficult to narrow down and agree with their DP's from a choice from millions of names. SIL needs to get over it! By the way, congratulations OP.

I don't think people here have been bitchy, but they do sound like loons. Just like the OP's sil.

If there are more important things in life than a name, then you didn't have 'no choice' but to call your daughter almost hte same name as theirs.

YABU - it's an annoying thing to do. Not the end of the world, but very irritating!

Also YABU for choosing to post for opinions straight after you've given birth, then complaining that people are giving you their opinion straight after you've given birth. Just because you don't like the opinions!

I am really shocked that so many people would be fuming and furious and don't think her SIL is bonkers to actually fall out over this.

FFS what's the big deal? I honestly don't get it.

I have about 8 cousins with the same name as me, it's kind of nice actually, it's created a bond between us. One of my other cousins has a son with a name very similar to my son's. It's nice!

The idea that the child won't have her own identity or the grandparents will get confused is really melodramatic, I think.

OP you have explained yourself and apologised, if your SIL wants to be a brat then let her. Just focus on recovering from your section, and enjoy your new baby!

My mind is boggling at having eight cousins who all share my name. I don't even have 8 cousins, never mind eight with the same name as me!

Ha, yes, well we're Catholics

dreamingbohemian I married into a Catholic family where this seems to be the norm, too. And actually being upset or offended about it would be greeted with puzzlement from the rest of the family.

"I have about 8 cousins with the same name as me, it's kind of nice"

Nice - I bet it's not so nice for their parents and grandparents...Or anyone else who wants to identify any of you!!

I think some of us are forgetting WHY we name a person or thing. We do this to IDENTIFY it/him/her. Imagine naming different plants by the same name - not very helpful, is it? Well, the same applies to people imo.

thereisalight exactly, in my family anyone who got upset about this would have the piss taken out of them for, oh, about forty years

tammy sorry I still don't get it. It's not like everyone in the world has their own name, no? obviously you can still tell people apart, you just use additional names or clues, like their middle names.

Honestly, no one in my family ever seemed confused or troubled by any of this, it's not really that complicated.

When I started school there were four other girls in my class with the same name. Should the teacher be upset with my parents because she had to deal with that?

I don't mean to be snarky, I just genuinely don't understand why so many people think this is a legit thing to be upset about. I understand I'm in the minority here but I just don't get it.

sim2, I think your SiL (and BiL) is an egocentric and rude cow.

Have to say I am quite surprised to read how many other mums would be offended in the same situation. it would be a complete non-issue to me. can't understand what the fuzz is all about!

also I don't find Eve and Eva that similar.

oh, and congrats on the birth of your little girl

Congratulations on the birth of your baby sim 2. How are you getting on? I do agree that I'd be upset if my sil named their baby something so similar. Is s he already registered? how does your dh feel about the situation? Would you consider a name change?

dreaming, yes you can add middle initials or an other adjective (big, small, fat, whatever) to someone's name to identify them. But given that there are so, so many (over 8,000 last year alone, I think) names to choose from, it would be much easier to give everyone their own name - that makes identification easier and avoids having to add a modifier to their name .

Again, why do we NAME people - imo to IDENTIFY them. And as a teaching assistant, we struggled with having three Harry's in our class last year, two of which had the same initial...

People are talking as if everyone in the world has a unique name. They're not. Lots of us have the same name as others. It's like this trend there is at the moment to give your child a really unique name. As if they can't be unique unless their name is. You don't invent the name, you don't own it, and you're never going to be the only one giving it. What an odd thing to get precious about. Really don't get it...

"They don't", should be. Not "They're not."