Is this really an issue???

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My brother has a one year old called Eva..I have just called my daughter Eve- both girls have different middle and surnames yet my sister in law has fallen out with us!!!
Is this really an issue?!..surely it doesn't matter at all!!

Won't it be a bit confusing for the grandparents?

I'm afraid you'll probably annoy the adults in the family, but you won't bother the children at all. We have every version of Eva, Evie, Ellen, Ella etc at school and every possible spelling of Isabel/a at ballet they've all chosen their preferred nn and manage just fine.

I think you were a bit odd to call her practically the same thing and I would be annoyed if I were your SIL.

Yes, it really is an issue as you have thoroughly upset your DB's family.

You now need to putting yourself into his shoes and working out how to make it up to him.

It shouldn't be a problem. I know cousins with the same name and it's not an issue at all.

I think it's very odd to have too cousins with the same name. the Grandparents have to DGC with the same name, how can that not strike you as odd? It's not like it's a colleague's DD who won't be socailising with your DD as she grows even if you do, it's someone your DD should expect to grow up close to.

Also, think about the sort of relationship your want your DD to have with her older cousin, do you see them spending Christmases together? Spend holidays playing with each other at Granny's house? Be each other's bridesmaids? That's not going to happen unless you rebuild some bridges with your SIL.

What's your DD's middle name? could you use that as her first?

Alternatively, if you only like Eve, what about something longer that can be shortened to Eve for the rest of the world but kept as long name for Grandparents and DB & SIL? What about Evelyn? Evita? Evette? Evonne? Evelina? Evangeline? Genevieve is sometimes shortened to Eve (although also can be Genny). Chava is the Hebrew form of Eve.

Personally I would be bloody fuming! If there was already a child in the family called Eva, I would have thought any close variants would have been off the table from the start, not whittled down to a favourite.

There are thousands of names out there. THOUSANDS. What are you going to do should you have another DD, if that is definitely the only name out there, in the entire world, that he likes?

(Congratulations on the new bundle btw! )

I agree with the majority here - seems a very strange and not nice thing to do. I wouldn't fall out with you as such as not really my style but I would be very upset and make my feelings clear. I hope you change it or can make it up to your brothers family in some way.

I have 4 cousins with the same name as me 3 older i younger dosnt bother me . your child your choice

Its pretty unoriginal. There are so many names out there its a shame that essentially you just opted for the one that your brother had used.

Annie seriously 4 first cousins? How many cousins do you have? That strikes me as utterly bizarre!

yeah, I can see why she would be miffed too....sorry op!

Wouldn't be an issue for me.
You can name your dd whatever you want!!
If you love the name why choose something else just because your sil has a dd with a similar name.

I think I would be slightly miffed, but would get over it.

QueenOfDenial "Eve2"

Can't believe how many people would be 'fuming' about this. Complete non issue if you ask me.

if they knew you liked the name and used it anyway they should have been prepared for you to still use it if you had a dd but personally i'd still be a bit peeved if you hadnt at least mentioned it in a ''well you know i liked it and although you have used a variant its still by far and away our favourite and we will probably be using it too'' kind of way.

in my family there are a lot of reused names but not in the same generation i.e dads and sons, grandsons middle names after great grandads, grans/great grans as middle names etc etc

wow am surprised by all the responses! I wouldn't be thrilled if I was your SIL but it's not a falling out offence - especially as you liked the name before either of them were born.
DH has a cousin 1 or 2 years younger with the same first name, it's no big deal (although MIL was a bit miffed at the time)

saying that, my gran when she was pregnant with my dad and 2 uncles had girls names chosen just in case and one of her sisters 'stole' all 3 of them! so my dad has a cousin with 'his' girl name and my uncles too. very strange.

actually thinking about this further I suspect how much of an issue it will be will depend on your relationship

my guilty secret is that my SIL chose to have an elective CS on my first borns birthday
TBH I'm still not over it and her son is actually her 'nicest' child

(sorry but I have to use that word)

and yes she did choose it was her third CS and she worked in the hospital so was given her choice of any day

I wouldnt 'fall out' with a relative over this, but yes, I would be pissed off if close relatives chose practically the same name for their child as we did.

you could have another baby in a couple of years and call her Ava

Personally I wouldn't do this. If I really loved the name I would ask said sil first and if any objection would not go ahead. As I said though, this is just a hypothetical situation because I wouldn't do it

An old friend of mine chose the same name as another close friend's DD for her second DD.

At the time I thought it was curious but in fact it has been no problem. To be fair they didn't live that close so only saw each other now and then and "the two Emilys" was quite a joke when they met. It helped that it was such a popular name.

In any case one family now lives in America! I think it is curious with a close family member (tries and fails to imagine picking neice's name for DD) but I guess it depends on how often you see them, how near they live etc.