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Is this really an issue???

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Sim2 · 01/10/2011 02:33

My brother has a one year old called Eva..I have just called my daughter Eve- both girls have different middle and surnames yet my sister in law has fallen out with us!!!
Is this really an issue?!..surely it doesn't matter at all!!

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Tuschinski · 01/10/2011 13:08

Sorry I'd be pretty pee'd off with you too.

SpanglyGiraffe · 01/10/2011 13:18

My niece (who is only two years younger than me) has pretty much exactly the same name as me, and the same surname. My parents were furious when my half DB named her, and i can see why!

It's never really bothered me or my niece, but i do think it's silly, and tbh i think i would have been annoyed if a family member had used a similar name to my DS.

Sorry!

LunaticFringe · 01/10/2011 13:34

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allhailtheaubergine · 01/10/2011 13:42

Erm... wouldn't really bother me because names like Eve and Eva are so popular they are going to be one of 4 in their class anyway.

If you had purloined a really unusual name it would be more irritating, but still not as devastating as most posts on here indicate. Am clearly in a minority though.

allhailtheaubergine · 01/10/2011 13:43

My brother has just got engaged to a girl with the same name as me. I am utterly furious with him and considering blanking them in the street.

Chandon · 01/10/2011 13:48

not the same at all Aubergine

PenguinsAreThePoint · 01/10/2011 13:49

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thereisalightanditnevergoesout · 01/10/2011 14:23

We had real problems naming our youngest. DH wanted one name but it would have been the same as his brother, I liked one name, but it was the same (same surname and everything) as a nephew. But there is another nephew with the same name as DH. It seems to be something they do in their family - and it's almost a bit strange not to do it. I could see why it might be an issue for your SIL if the children had the same first name and the same surname, however, the fact she knew you liked the name Eve before she named her own daughter Eva, seems to negate her annoyance.

bilblio · 01/10/2011 14:26

I wouldn't fall out with you, but I would think it was a bit stupid. I feel sorry for your parents too, it's going to get very confusing, especially if you're a close family and likely to be spending a lot of time together.
My nephew has the same first and middle name as our friends son and that's confusing enough. We have Big E and Little E.

I'm really struggling to find names I like for DC2. DD's name is from a particular area, there's a really obvious boys name we could pick, which we like, but it's pretty much the same as my brother's name so it's not even an option for us. The same would go for any other names of people we know, especially relatives.

helendigestives · 01/10/2011 14:42

My nephew has exactly the same name as my paternal cousin (first and last), and the same first name as my maternal second-cousin. It gets a little frustrating within the family to say, "No, no, that James."

maswera · 01/10/2011 14:49

I can see why people might find this a bit odd, but I really can't understand why anyone would be 'furious' about it. Or indeed even a bit miffed. Could someone explain to me what exactly it is that would make them cross about it? I just don't get it

cory · 01/10/2011 14:57

My db gave his ds a name that is a short form of our other brother's ds' name. The boys live near each other and spend all their holidays together. Noone thought to be offended and it has never caused any problems. Ime if people do get upset it is either because they are very precious/hormonal or because there are already family issues.

RitaMorgan · 01/10/2011 15:03

I would think it a bit weird to be honest - can't be nice for your dd either, she's going to be known as "Little Eve" all her life!.

seeker · 01/10/2011 15:04

It's a bonkers thing to do. Change it if there's time.

anewmotivatedme · 01/10/2011 15:11

I would expect SIL to ask me if it is okay first?

I would be annoyed, and slightly flabergasted, if SIL chose such a similar name, but would not fall out with her over it. I'm quite a laid back person though.

frutilla · 01/10/2011 15:17

Hmm, I'd like to know how much they knew you liked the name. Did you feel they had nicked it from you? I hope this doesn't turn into a rift.

zingzillachinchilla · 01/10/2011 15:35

My DH has a sister and 2 cousins who all have the same name, and their mothers were all sisters (so they all have different surnames at least). There is only a couple of years age difference between them all. I agree it's odd now but it must have been less controversial a generation ago?

tummytickler · 01/10/2011 16:16

Sorry, but I would be seriously angry, and would have a massive sulk.
Are you serious that out of the hundreds of thousands of names out there, you only like 3 or 4? I could write you a list off the top of my head of at least 40 I owuld love to use!

Catslikehats · 01/10/2011 16:19

Calling a child of a different generation the same name is totally different, and I think one of the reasons historically why titles are used: "aunt Emily" would often have a niece of the same, especially when families were large and you couldn't get away with calling your first born Jaydean

pictish · 01/10/2011 16:21

Yes it's a bit of an issue - you've chosen a name (out of all the thousands of names you could have picked) that is VERY similar to your brother's child!
What an insensitive choice to make, as well as it beijng faintly ridiculous as well.
I'd be pissed off too.

activate · 01/10/2011 16:21

Yes I'd be pissed off

activate · 01/10/2011 16:23

I'd be pissed off

I'd get over it

I'd always think you were a bit of an arse after that - yes you the mother - firm in the belief that mothers have the final say in names, fathers the veto rights

qwerty123 · 01/10/2011 16:44

I would be furious too if I were your SiL. Although it is an incredibly popular name, you have taken away the individuality of their daughter's name within the family which is a shame.

minipie · 01/10/2011 17:03

Oh FGS. I really can't see why this is a big deal and am quite surprised at how vehement some people are being about this.

So two cousins have very very similar names. So what? What actual harm does it do?

Many people here are suggesting the OP should change her daughter's name. But that would mean she was not choosing her favourite name for her daughter. I think it's way more important that a child's parents get to choose their favourite name for their child, than that 2 cousins have different names.

dreamingofsun · 01/10/2011 17:09

minipie - its called being considerate and thoughtful to someone else. Or not in this case.

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