Such an emotional day for our thread?congratulations again Cantdo, it must have been so nerve wracking though. We are looking forward for more details when you feel up to it. Please don?t feel pressured though, you so deserve some time just with your family, enjoying the little one. We?re here thinking of you, and your story is so full of hope. Bee is right, you should change your username.
Allways, you do reach out, and your words help. I am so glad you will have counselling, it?s so important to talk. I understand so well why you need to hear Lily?s and Rose?s names, your babies were real, and as has been said here before they will always be your babies. And I do hope your IVF will be successful in the future and you will have healthy babies, but this will never make your baby girls less real or less important. The way I look at it is that our babies will always be part of our families, but just in a different way than we would have hoped. Such an unfair, sad way, but it?s more important at the moment to realise that they will never be forgotten. This sounds like a cliché, but it?s so true though.
Justa, so sorry to hear your sad news, I?m thinking of you. At the same time, I wanted to thank you for one of your posts a while ago, when I had just joined this thread. You mentioned the words of Kahlil Gibran: The more that sorrow carves into your being, the more joy you can contain. They didn?t have much impact on me then, but I found myself remembering them and I then found the whole poem, and there is another part of the poem which I found immensely comforting: When you are sorrowful look again in your heart, and you shall see that in truth you are weeping for that which has been your delight. It?s so important for me to remind myself that Silvia?s short life has given me so much joy? I have to confess I am not very successful, most of my days are still miserable, and I don?t think I?ll ever completely get over the anger the image of her tiny body raises in me. But these words still help me.
I found that looking at Silvia?s photos changed the way I am grieving. I don?t think I can explain it very well, on the one hand they really floored me, and on the other hand I feel it was the right thing to do, I couldn?t not have looked at them. When those images pop into my head, it?s like someone kicked me really hard in the stomach. But I strangely feel that I need to go through this, that it?s part of my grief.
Popsy and Gina, how are you? I hope the appointment went well Gina. Popsy, thinking of you in the run up to the funeral. Moneli, you have been very quiet lately, I hope you?re ok?
Hello as well to Mishta, Bee , Bezzyk and NumptyMum (I hope I didn't forget anyone) xxxx