support thread for women who are pregnant or TTC after a termination for abnormalities

[katiecubs]

Hi girls - i hope this becomes a useful area

Kittens - hope your scan goes well today, thinking of you...

My next scan is still a couple of weeks away, I get booked in next Weds so will be officially pregnant (lol). Feeling lumpy, not pregnant!

Lins - I had a couple of sweeps with DS, they're a tad uncomfortable but I think by the stage you get them/ask for them you don't really care any more! I think it did help, but I was over 10days late by that point...

Must go have lunch, hi to everyone else.

Bloody hell. Just been for my "8 week" scan. Feeling a bit confused and slightly worried now. Turns out the baby only measures at 5+ wks which can mean one of two things. The optimistic option is that it's because I ovulated late in my cycle, and the less optimistic is that things aren't developing as hoped. So, a bit up in the air at the moment. Trying not to worry but difficult. I have another scan in 2 weeks which they are hoping will show the baby at 7-8wks and be able to see the heartbeat etc.

I'm so confused though. When you ovulate in the middle of your cycle they calculate the due date from the first day of your period, so how come, if you ovulate later they don't add a couple of weeks on to that? This is what is making me worry, I don't understand how if I ovulated 5 days later than I thought I was going to then how am I 2-3 weeks less pregnant than I thought?

So, in the best case scenario it will be an extra couple of weeks on top of what I thought before I can have my CVS/Nuchal/whatever.

I guess that would explain why my symptoms showed up later than they have done previously.

Oh blimey, the next couple of weeks are going to be fun

Oh Kittens .

I don't know the answer to this - I don't know if Tree or anyone else more knowledgeable is about... my only thought that could be of comfort is that with DS, he was conceived before it was possible to conceive him (unless he really WAS an accident just before I stopped the pill). And this time although I'm convinced my cycle is short (around 24/26 days) I'm later than I expected. So perhaps it's not an exact science...?

Not that it's going to take away the worry of the next couple of weeks .

Crap kittens - that's not what you needed is it? I agree - I'm sceptical of the exactness of the science at this stage. At my nuchal last time they were trying to tell me I was two weeks less pregnant than I knew I was (ovulation sticks) and then at the CVS three days later it had magically caught up those missing two weeks. I'm so sorry you've been given another uncertainty to add to the pile and I really wish I had something wise to say to make it better. We'll be hanging on in there with you - I hope that's at least some help. xxx

Kittens, sorry to hear your news. It is not really science at this stage. I was moved by a month with my DD! Fingers crossed it all works out for you.

I'm really sorry to hear the scan wasn't reassuring Kitten. I guess it's a waiting game now. As for the dating thing - do you know when you ovulated? Is it likely that it could have been late? - but also in my 2nd pregnancy I was dated a week apart by 2 different hospitals within weeks of each other, so agree it's not precise.

Scans are so hard, arent they? I had one today. All fine but I am a wreck beforehand and everyone else is assuming it's a happy photo opportunity. And of course it so often is for them.

Well, I did ovulate later than I thought I would. I had those cheapy opk sticks and was using them. When I thought that I was meant to be ovulating the line was very very feint but then it had been for the last 3-4 cycles but a few days later (probably 4ish) I had some pains that I thought might be ovulation so I used my last stick and the line came up darker so I guess I did ovulate late. When I did my first HPT the line came up just visible to the human eye and it was only when I did the Clearblue test the next day with the word pregnant on it that I confirmed it. So, maybe I was just barely pregnant.

I've had a look around on some other forums and it seems that this is not uncommon so I am trying to remain optimistic, as I should be. It's so hard not to worry though.

oh Kittens so sorry you have been left up in the air.

Try not to worry (easier said that done i know) i didn't OV until day 30 my last cycle and as such was 2 weeks out when i went for my scan. Also as the others have said it's also hard to get accurate measurements so early on.

Will keep everything crossed it all works out ok xxx

Already knowing you ovulated late is a good start. Annoying having to wait longer for nuchal etc, but I guess you just have to be optimistic, as you say - specially given you knew you ovulated later than usual. Good luck.

Oh Kittens, that's a really difficult situation for you to be in when you really needed reassurance. I have no good advice to offer about dates etc, let's just hope they didn't quite know what they were talking about.
Sorry it will be another two weeks now...fingers crossed for you. xxxx

Hi all, had sweep this morning (urgh, so undignified and not too comfy either. ) Everything feels a bit different now, but no contractions as yet. But am 1-2 cm dilated (although midwife said you can be like that for weeks before hand...)
Back ache worse though, ouch.
Midwife said have a lovely warm bath - but our bathroom is vile and the green plastic bath is the most uncomfortable I have ever sat in, and very small too. Bathroom high on list of renovations to this house, but wish I had a lovely bath to wallow in now. [Lins wails softly to self, feeling all achy]

Have got induction booked for Friday if I want it - but would prefer nature to take it's course, right now...

Love to all, lins xxx

Thanks for your thoughts ladies. I've been feeling sick and sleepy and sore knockers so hopefully that's all a good sign too.

I wouldn't have minded being a week out as, having missed out on last year's cool due date of 09/09/09 I would've been happy for 8/9/10

It's so tricky with work too. I am continuing to take bookings for september (annoyingly it seems I'm predominantly getting wedding enquiries for september at the moment!) having turned down work in past years around my due date and regretting it later but, much as I hate to mess clients around, I am hoping I can pass them onto colleagues that I trust to do a good job on my behalf.

x posted with you Lins. Good luck hon, Friday's not far off if it comes to it - although it probably feels like weeks away to you now!

Good luck Lins nearly there.

Kittens good news about ovulating late. Even better news about boobs/sickness!

I have another scan tomorrow. Sure it will be fine but I am doing the expect the worst hope for the best dance. I cannot sit still and just want it to be over with. Each time I come away feeling more positive than the last but by the time the next appointment comes round I am back to another low. Still, at least it is another small step forward. I will keep you all posted.

Allstar, I am the same. The scans are so reassuring, but then by the next one I'm scared something has gone wrong again. It hasnt, yet, for me (and I've reached the dizzy heights of 27 weeks), fingers crossed you will be the same. Good luck tomorrow.

Lins, sending labour vibes. And Shangrila - if you see this - good luck tomorrow. Finally if Mishta's some time ahead of us - does she already have her little girl, I wonder?

Thinking of you three with your imminent babies.

Best of luck Allstars. Do you have another one the following week? I remeber you saying that you won't know for sure until after 13 weeks. I hope the next couple of weeks brings good news and reassurance.

I think Mishta's date is now 22nd (she mentioned it being same date as Tree's DD2's birthday, which is Friday). Hoping all the best for Shangrila tomorrow... and for you at your scan, Allstars.

Oh Kittens disappointing and frustrating that the scan didn't give you the feedback you were looking for. This pregnancy's dates bear no resemblance to my supposed ovulation either, if it helps. We lead such stressful lives that I think sometimes our ovulation decides to do its own thing and play games with us. Hope you get more concrete news at your next scan.

Good luck to allstars tomorrow, hope to have some nice news from you soon. Continued luck to all other ladies on the journey.

And Mishta and Lins - almost there. Hope the sweep does the job and we have marvellous news soon. I've an early start tomorrow but will be in touch when, well, you know...

Thank you to everyone who has helped me through these difficult past months. I'll do my very
best to come up with the goods! xxxx

Good luck Mishta and Shangrila - can't wait to hear news of the new arrivals! Hope it all kick starts for you soon too Lins!

Kittens, i'm sure having all the symptoms is a very good sign all is as it should be. Hope the next two weeks passed quickly for you.

Also Goodluck to Allstar for your scan today, let us know how it goes? My NT scan is on weds and the fear is building every day. It's at 9.30am in the morning and i have to go to work after so am in a panic about how i will handle that if it's not good news. Trying to stay positive though.

Thanks everyone for you well wishes, and yes Numpty, your right it is the 22nd again (approx 9 hours from now). Will keep you posted.

Allstar, all the best with the scan today, and katiecubs, will be thinking of you on Wednesday. Everyone crossed for you both

Shangrila, you've probably had your little one by now. Can't wait to hear the news!

Kittens, sorry that the scan was not assuring. I know the next two weeks will be so hard for you. First dating scan for this baby, they put her a week ahead of my dates. But all my other 3 girls they have put me two weeks behind what I thought it should be - which o thought was impossible as that would have meant that I concieved almost when I was due for period. And I was still always two weeks overdue from the date they gave - so I really don't understand how it works really. I know I was having long cycles. Maybe tree can shed some light. Have everything crossed for you too

Lins, I know what you mean about worrying for your baby/ you/ loved ones. What is it with that? I was becoming quite panicked about it all. Must admit though that I am feeling much more mellow about
things after having these two sleepers. Highly recommended.

Littlepoot, hope you are managing to organise scan. You would think with what you have been thru, the rules could be bent a bit. And I wouldn't feel bad about faking symptoms if that's what it takes. Good luck

so sorry if I've missed anyones news/ concerns - am so sleepy ........ Better go get some rest for the morning

Be in touch soon. Take care everyone xxxx

Hi all, hope things are well today.

Soooo excited thinking about impending good news from Lins, Shangrila and Mishta - I'm thinking about you guys so much and I have everything crossed to hope all goes quickly/smoothly/painlessly - not sure what the most appropriate wish is in these last couple of days.

Allstar - thinking of you too and hoping your scan gives good news. Kittens - hope you're still doing ok? It sounds as though there are lots of possible reasons why yesterday didn't give you the answer you expected, but I can't imagine that will help the next two weeks go any quicker.

And I am nervous with you Katie - I hope the time between now and next Wednesday passes quickly. I wouldn't worry about having to go back to work afterwards if it's not good news. It will be good - no reason why it shouldn't be - the odds are very firmly stacked in your favour (I know that hasn't worked well us in the past, but it will. It has to. xxx). And if something doesn't go to plan - screw work! What are they going to do? Make you redundant?!

Me and this mini-bean are fine. I decided not to worry about silly things like booking in early for this first scan. I'm bunking work Monday to go to the docs and hopefully they can help smooth my way in to the hospital. Failing that, I'll just keep calling until they get so sick of me they book me in. I just had it in my head that it needed to be 'just so', but it doesn't matter exactly when the dating happens in the next few weeks, so I just shouldn't worry about those sorts of details. Heaven knows there will be enough to worry about after that.

Bit of a mess today - so scared. Not felt sick since the day before yesterday. I could understand maybe 2 weeks out, but almost 3 doesn't feel like it adds up. Especially as my cycles were quite short - 23-25 days. Was feeling calm and rational by the end of the evening last night but now I've got a bad feeling. I've not been that hungry compared to previous pregnancies and I'm worried it's because of stunted development.

How am I going to get through 2 weeks? Aaargh!

Sorry you are feeling so low today Kittens, did they do an internal scan or just an abdominal one? i had an internal one when i was 7.5 weeks as they said it was difficult to measure otherwise. Could you not perhaps get another scan for a weeks time i wonder? Two weeks does seem a long wait.

Littlepoot you make a very good point! was actually hoping not to be at work at all next week but this redundency crap is taking ages grr.

I had both and abdominal scan and then, when they couldn't see properly, they did an internal scan. They have told me that as it's measuring just over 5 weeks they won't see the heartbeat for another 2 weeks anyway so I just have to wait.

Looking at my diary it could well be just over 5 weeks since I concieved but I'm just so confused about the fact that they usually add the couple of weeks before ovulation to the date but not in this case. Hmmmm. Maybe I'm just driving myself a little loopy! I wonder if I should email my midwife who wasn't at the scan.

Yep as far as i understand you should add on two weeks to the date you ovulated. But perhaps it could just be you Ov'd quite a lot later than you thought? It's difficult to know for sure i guess. Perhaps it would be a good idea to call or email your midwife and tell her your concerns as i'm sure she would be best to advise you?