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support thread for women who have chosen to terminate III

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Cantdothisagain · 30/07/2009 18:45

This thread is for any woman who has chosen to terminate a pregnancy for whatever reason. It follows on from

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/antenatal_tests_choices/770313-support-thread-for-women-who-have-chosen-to-term inate-II

everyone is welcome, old friends and new.

Hi to everyone from the old thread and hope you find me!

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newspaperdelivery · 08/10/2009 18:38

Yup = 5ft 10 when I stand up straight. I can be 5ft depending on workload!

You might want to see a consultant obstetrician to have the anti-kell stuff gone through shagrila? Is that a possibility?

I have new boots too! Bought from Mumsnet. They rock, AND fit my massive calves. Hurrah!

Hope your boot therapy worked for you, and many hugs to all.

Eulalia · 09/10/2009 12:51

Hello all, rainy here today, just the sort of weather to make me pleased we are going to Spain. Not that I am rubbing it in or anything Nearly packed, am v chuffed as everything will fit into hand luggage and we can just walk on and off the plane, mind you we will all be wearing a lot of layers so will probably look like a Michelin Man family!

Shangrila - hope you can get some more answers to your worries, as NPD says seek out a professional opinion. No dd's outfit wasn't homemade. She seems to be the creative one in this family so she'll probably be making her own in due course.

Bezzy - you are quiet, feeling OK?

NPD - sending best wishes for Sunday - would love to see some photos.

justa - hope your ds is feeling better now.

Hi luckywinner., good to hear from you.

Waves to BB, Cantdo, Peanuthead, linspins and brighton girl and anyone else I have missed.

I hope to check in before we go on Sunday but may not have time to post so hope you all have a good couple of weeks. I guess you have half term as well? Whatever you do have fun with your families.

much love
xxx

bezzyk · 09/10/2009 14:44

hello all

am fine, just v tired. Had a pants night sleep because of mini bez. We had a whole family come and stay the night (incl 2 year old and 6 week old), they had Lily's room as it's the biggest and she came and slept in our room in a travel cot. What a mistake, she was up for a couple of hours in the middle of the night demanding Shreddies. GGRRR. So while she napped today, I had myself a little siesta. I'm just getting into the swing of things for your holiday Eulalia

Have a lovely time, and we'll chat when you're back.

How are you doing lovely Bee, am very worried for your 'hingedness'. I know that you become quiet when you're 'private' and hope that you're getting all the love you need at home. Which I'm sure you are.

Love to everyone
BK xx

PS if anyone has sent an email and I haven't responded, I'm not being rude but my email appears to be buggered.

busierbee · 09/10/2009 18:11

Bezz
Am no more or less hinged than normal - really.
Just busy at work and in a 'doing up the house' frenzy of hmmm 'which very overpriced farrow and ball paint colour do I like' so that can go and get cheaper Dulux version.
Was up at 5.45 today, cab at 6.30, train at 7 to Ipswich and just walked back from station in pouring rain.
Busy weekend for sporty son and lots of house sorting - boxes to unpack, cupboards to restock, etc.
Am working 4 days next week too so will be busiest of busy bees next week too.
Bee xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

Cantdothisagain · 09/10/2009 19:07

Hi everyone

Bee, I love the idea of choosing paint colours, etc. In reality it is less glamorous than in my imagination though... your week sounds exhausting. Hope you're doing okay.

Hi everyone else - much for Eulalia's holiday from here too! Have a lovely time.

Shangrila, no idea about acquired antibodies, but if it was something scary, wouldnt you have been summoned by a consultant?

Newspaperdelivery, is J okay? and good luck for the weekend, sounds madly frantic (if fun). What is J going to wear? I recall H's lovely dress, and yours too.

Bez, I too am sleep-deprived thanks to a toddler's nocturnal habits so you have my sympathies! Actually we are going through a particularly bad patch as DD has become very scared - of a witch, we think - and screams at idea of going to sleep. Any tips on convincing her there isnt a witch coming to get her in her sleep, anyone?

Katie, MrsV, hope you're okay. Hi to everyone else, too. Hugs.

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newspaperdelivery · 09/10/2009 20:28

Good work justa - poor ds1 Hope you are holding it all together there Mrs. Have no doubt you are actually.

at holiday Eulalia. Enjoy!!

J is wearing a Monsoon dress. How lovely you are to remember all these details Cant. Even her name, it's touching!
She has a cream one or a cream with red and pink flowers on. She looks a waif in either of them so wil let her choose.

I need to rustle up a table plan but can't be bothered to get off my fat one.

Bee - we hab F&B paint mixed by Johnston. Apparently the paint is much better, all I know is its a third of the price! Our door is that green everybody has . I'd find choosing a colour totally bewildering, their colour card is so subtle and the paints are so unusual in colour. What are you thinking? I love all this stuff

How marvellous you are at this stage, no more holes, just the nice fluffy bits. I hope you enjoy putting your new kitchen together.

Got our new bunkbeds today. Hurrah! Trying to justify 2 fitted pale green gingham sheets for them - as they would go nicely with the duvet covers I've had stashed since November. Hmmmmmm........

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newspaperdelivery · 09/10/2009 20:42

Sounds awful justa. So totally not what a pregnant person can deal with.

I hear ya. Heavy bags to carry my love.

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newspaperdelivery · 09/10/2009 20:56

I drove 80 or 160 miles a day with dd1 up to 34 weeks, it wasn't too bad. Though I needed a winch man to haul me out of my MX-5 when I had to get out though.

I can understand you worrying about the prem thing too [although I can be reassuring as your others were not and flying is considered no biggie...and so on and so on...]

Oh love. Pants Am too far away to be any use.

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newspaperdelivery · 09/10/2009 21:54

No - just being protective of your cargo. Its how you are supposed to be

Poor poor you. That is a mother of a journey with a bad skeleton. The way to look at flying is that you are only in the air for a tiny amount of time, and were something to occue they can land with help forewarned and waiting for you. There are so few times that emergencies are truly crash bang wallop. Most come with a run up of little niggles etc. You would have landed and sought help during that time.

Store up all this reassurance stuff for if you need to fly.

shangrila · 09/10/2009 22:45

Aw heck, Justa. Sounds like the most terrible additional stress to deal with. We get so used to being able to jump in a car, on a plane that when we can't, it feels like we have been transformed into a caged animal. News' advice and perspective is spot on, as ever. Hope that you get positive reports of your Dad to sustain you into the New Year.

Happy holidays, Eulalia and a glorious weekend to the News family. Waves and hugs to Cantdo, Bee and her fine impression of Van Gogh and lovely Bezz - and all other friends, of course.

Have to scoot as I am up in bed, furtively mumsnetting on my phone, as DH has hidden all the Internet chargers from me in an attempt to stem the Surfing. Bless him, he means well. Will be back in touch when I can get back online at work on Monday. xxxx

Cantdothisagain · 10/10/2009 07:54

Oh Justa, it is so sad when you put it like that. Is there any chance of going on the train, or is it one of those marish journeys roundabout everywhere? And poor ds2, though you've given me the cheery idea of chocolate cake (my favourite) - can't hurt, can it?!

Shangrila, no googling!!! At this point it might be worth telling you about a letter I had when pregnant with DD, before all the pregnancy traumas since. We'd been away for a few days, I was about 28 weeks, and had had bloods taken because I was rhesus negative and needed anti-D, but while doing that they tested the glucose level. The letter said 'a level above xxx may indicate diabetes'. I read that and thought it said I had diabetes. And I freaked, because I had been scoffing Starbucks cakes all holiday and before I opened the letter I had put some muffins in the oven to bake. I was a major drama queen, dancing around crying that I had diabetes. Only my level was v low and I didn't, only I hadn't read that far. I started googling and panicking, and bemoaning my lost muffins. It took DH to read the letter and tell me I hadnt got diabetes to calm me down. And that was BEFORE all the horror since.

Bee - please tell us aboy your colour schemes! I love that sort of thing too.

And Newspaper (I preferred your old name, was quicker to type!!!!), J's dress, either one, sounds lovely. As for remembering things, I am like an elephant - I never forget anything. The polite explanation is that I am interested and have a good memory. The real answer is that I am incurably nosy...

Another hellish night here, punctuated by screams of 'weeeetch' (witch).
But I am cheered by prospect of making cake.

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linspins · 10/10/2009 08:53

Justa - what a hard situation to be in re: travelling etc for your Dad. Bless your dad for trying to talk to you though about the stuff of life, that's not usual for men is it! Maybe you need a webcam link with him?!

I am in a bit of a panic myself about flying, and am not sure whether I am sensible or silly: my whole family (extended family, the whole lot!) and us have booked to go Ski-ing in the french Alps for Xmas week. We'd booked it ages ago before we lost Daisy. So I am due to fly at er....36 weeks!!! Well strictly speaking I will be back on the last day of my 26th week, as BA won't fly you after this - though I haven't managed to track down any travel insurance that will cover me yet. Obviously no ski-ing, or anything, for me, just wallowing like a whale on the sofa. I would stay behind, but who with? and I don't want to miss Xmas with DH and DD, and miss seeing her wobbly on tiny weeny skis.
Just hope the baby doesn't appear too early - Dd was a week early..hmm. Not due til 23rd jan...

Bee - I went to a 'nursery Mums coffee morning' with the Mum's from Dd new class, hosted by the 'class rep' this week. Was at her grand manor house - it looked like a showcase for Farrow and Ball, god so tasteful, all grey/taupe sludgy colours that sound grim but look classy. Not ashamed of our little terraced home, but oh how the other half live! Tell us what you are choosing.

Hello to All. xxxx

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Cantdothisagain · 10/10/2009 09:20

Recipe, please, Justa?

Lins, no advice from me about flying at 36 weeks, since I am a wimp about everything in pregnancy. Except my cousin did it - flew to France at 34 weeks and stayed till 36 weeks, camping - then had her baby at 40 weeks - OVER TEN POUNDS!!!! Scary...

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linspins · 10/10/2009 17:47

My fault, I wrote 26 instead of 36! Bit of a difference!

I'm not going to bother with special ski clothes I think, (will probably rarely leave the chalet) I'll just get a duvet and make head hole!! An elegant look. As long as I don't get mistaken for a small mountain and people try to ski down me.
No soft cheeses, pate and lovely french reds either. Boo hoo.

I am escaping my house tonight to let Dh try to put Dd to bed without hours of messing around, tantrums and stress. Eeek!

newspaperdelivery · 11/10/2009 22:12

Hi everyone. Baptism a big success, we had a lovely day. Will upload pics asap, although ours aren't very good. Hatts looked a little bobbit and smiled happily all day. x

bezzyk · 12/10/2009 08:23

Lovely to hear NPD. Can't wait to see a few pics, I love babes in Christening gowns.

Sad weekend here. Lots of tears, but think they were needed Was in major state of denial last week.

Small funny though. Mini bez informed me yesterday that Santa would be coming soon, and would be delivering presents...on his rhino.

Bless.

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