support thread for women who have chosen to terminate II

[brightonbaby]

Erm, trying to create a new thread for us, ladies. Not sure if I've succeeded...

5ft 10', I used to be a 12.

Now a size 18 bust, 14 shoulders, 18 waist and 14 hips.

So pretty much incompatible with cloth. Hoping to get bargain in sales. Might just send a surrogate to Christening, and I'll just lurk in the background and eat the buffet

Christening not till October, so I might be 'size 6, loves:chocolate, fav place:Jonnie's backyard for al fresco lunch, most likely to be:having fun fun fun

DH just stalled reverse parking outside and now the car won't start better go!

GO - I'm confused about your Factor v management. My understanding of it is that it is genetic and you are this 'type' for life? What are they looking at measuring, your protein levels etc? Even then though - I think managenment is more determined by history of pregnancy loss, clotting etc? CAT me if you like, or let me know more here - or ignore me if I am being a nosy bugger

Hope all are ok in the rain. Where is daftbat? Hope you are ok out there! Hugs to all.
Hope you are still feeling peaceful Numpty.
Hows you Lins?

Loves; wine - all flavours
Favourite place - mumsnet
Most likely to be - ranting, raving and throwing things
Best tip for what to wear in the rain - Er? A raincoat?
Der.
You sound like one sexy, curvaceous mama to me Tree..
Byeeee

Where is our Eulalia?
Long term no hear.
And as you say also Daftbat Tree.
And I wonder about Katerina and Marj and Pelvicflawed. I think of her often.
And yes, also hoping that Numpty is gentle and quiet today.

Sounds like they got their protein s or antiphospholipid syndrome mixed up with Factor V. You can't, for example, measure protein s levels for deficiancy, but can do the genetic work up to check if your genes have the mutation.
It's good to know if you are heterozygous or homozygous, because that will help dictate the management. You can be anywhere from nothing but compression stockings, asprin, asprin + low molecular heparin @ 34weeks to 6 weeks postnatal, low molecular weight asprin throughout, or higher dose heparin if you have had clots etc. Always the stockings though, if you are even slightly immobile.
But the main thing with medication and the influence FVL this has on your pregnancy is your history and clinical details.
You need a Heamatology Consultant, or Constultant Obs who deals in it.

Would be but no waist though Bee

Ah but the waist will return when Hatts gets bit bigger and hopefully the bazookas will stay and you will be Nigella Kidston.
Am very impressed by your knowledge and support of our GO. Sounds like she could do with an insightful, committed midwife like you at her hospital.
Golly GO. What was that other condition you have recently found you had? Was it polycystic ovaries? And now gestational diabetes maybe and maybe this Factor V thing. Lovey.
How was the paediatrician? Did he or she help or hinder?
Wish could be there to give you a hug and say well done for reaching out here to us all when you have so much on your plate too.
xxx

My goodness you lot can talk! My highlight of the last few post was Bee's Boden take - fantastic.

Sorry GU that your hospital messed you around - are they going to sort it out now?

Tree, grrr, what a day. You need one of Bee's doughnuts.

Someone asked me today, 'do you want another baby or not?' as though they were something you bought at Tesco along with the cereal and bread. I just fobbed them off, but I think people really need to learn not to ask. I feel tired and a bit dejected tonight - am neurotic about people around me getting pregnant, and I've never been neurotic before. Well I probably have, but I've never noticed myself being neurotic before...

I would have been 28 weeks today. Feels like a whole other world has passed me by.

On a positive note, at least I can have a glass of wine later!

Thinking of you Numpty while it's still raw. And all our other missing-in-action mummies. Oh and Brightonbaby - can we hear about the wedding, as Lucky asked too? I love a good wedding story.

Please ignore my spelling

No waist is genetics. Ah well. The rest will slim off

Dinner - hurrah!

Tree - I imagined you as slender and willowy, like a tree really!!!

Waists are overrated...

GU - you sound bowled over by it all mate. Are you doing ok absorbing all this stress?

Imagine a tree - but an Oak rather than a willow. Or one of those huge reds you get in a rain forest...

Growingout, I don't know your story but I am sorry you aren't getting what you need from the doctors etc.

Can'tdothisagain, people can be so insensitive. They ask such dumb ass questions sometimes. If I hear one more person tell me it was nature's way I am going to shove mother nature a long way up their backside.

I have spent the past hour sobbing at my extra therapy session. Not bad for an hour's work. And in my corner of London, which I just want to add, is a nice corner, we have had police everywhere. They shut off our road, had 2 helicopters hovering over head and policemen in those stab proof vest thingys. Was all v exciting.

I am prescribing everyone a packet of these. The colours themselves are enough to make you bounce off the walls.

Am off to iron a pile of dddddh's shirts in front of america's next top model.

Lucky - they have definite hyperactive possibility. And thanks for the support.

Gu, good that the paed didn't push anything on you. And how can they assess a child in those circs, anyway? DD goes silent in those situations too, and she's a real chatterbox usually (like mother, like daughter...).

Anyway - this thread is nearly full! We will need to create a new one. Cant believe we have filled it in less than 2 months. Respect to our capacity to natter.

PS, Lucky - what had happened to bring on the police?

Growing out and Tree, gosh you've both got so much going on at the moment in your lives, big hugs to you both.

GO - I hope the hosp and midwives get their act together soon. It's bizarre how random the NHS is: excellent care for some people in some places and rubbish treatment elsewhere.
And glad the paed didn't go on at you too much. My dd is full of beans and talks loads but she's always shy and quiet somewhere new, so your little ds is bound to be overawed too, poor pickle.

Tree, boden stuff is only yummy in the catalogue, I have decided, and overpriced anyway! Love Bee's catty comments on this! Nothing in Monsoon?

Lucky, hope you are ok after the sob-session. xxx. What's with the police everywhere?

Who is going to make our new thread? Same name but with III ?

My bump is huge for 14 weeks (think it's all bloat, yurgh). Haven't been in normal clothes for weeks now. Weirdly all my bra's seem too small too - round me not cup size, which is weeny usually. I don't know why my ribs have got bigger now? Hmmm. Just can't get comfy.

Morning/afternoon all

Thought I'd just kiss this thread goodbye before I zoom out.

Treat/positive step for the day = sneaking off work early for a full set of highlights!

I am doing Boden empire line summer dresses at present. They disguise what to the world must look like the mother of all beer/pie bellies. I am never going to look chic or stylish in them but they get me past the work 'professional attire scrutiny committee' on a daily basis.

Ashamed though I am to admit to plundering Johnnie's wardrobe this summer, my DD absolutely embraces the total hotpotchness of it all. Mind you , she is 7, so has an excuse!

And Tree, can't you relocate to Wales and be my personal midwive, please? Begs unashamedly. Ours are all incredibly no-nonsense, old-school types. Which I suppose is a good thing, and let's face it, gets the job done. But neurotic old me needs just a dash more TLC, and there's bags of it here!

You'll probably be onto a new thread when I get back from my hair. I have LONG hair and a full head is something of an endurance award for both me and the colourist. But thanks to all for holding my hand through this one.

Speak later xxx

Ooo have a lovely 'do!

I read the first half line on 'threads I'm on' and thought you were leaving the thread.

So will allow you afternoon leave for a hair do, out of pure relief

Hello All! How is everybody? Sorry you're having such a rubbish time GO and Tree.

Good to see you about again Lins, does this mean you're feeling a teensy bit better?

I was wondering how the dress shopping went Brightongirl?

We're still battling on with the toilet training, haven't left the house since...errr...Sunday...

BK xx

I am a sad girl today. That's all. Sad, sad. Just want to be pregnant again. Plus my dc are really acting up.

Hope everyone else is ok.

Hi Lucky

Sad is normal. It's strange how when you stop being pregnant it's like a bodily loss. I think we all have ups and downs and sad is part of the down. Anger, emptiness, grief, too.

I'm exhausted and headachey as DD is just not sleeping at all. Wonder if her last molars are coming. Hoping it IS that... and hoping she decides to sleep tonight...

Roll on bedtime!
How was the hair colouring, Shangrila? Hope you found some good book/magazine to read...

I guess we need a new thread. Before that comes, bye bye to the old one and thank you all for helping me through this time.

Have been busy off-loading dd for other people to look after this week to give myself a breather. It sort of works...but still feeling pretty squashed by life.
Would like to feel WELL, just for a bit. I was ill from Xmas to March 15th, then it all started again in week 5 of this pregnancy, - this being week 14. Urgh.
It's good advice from you all to not do any house work and take it easy for a bit, but one can only do that for a while, not the whole of a year. It's got to a point where I am I frustrated by myself and my inability to tackle life. (I should point out that due to Dh wonderful effort we are nor living in a pig sty!)
And it's more than just house work that is getting me down, I think that's just an easy example. I need to go to the hairdressers, the dentist, buy some new clothes. There are nice things I'd like to do - go swimming, pot up the strawberry runners, go out and socialise with more than a few long suffering friends. But I just can't be...bothered? Can't explain it, I just want peace. And some energy.
Phew. Sorry.

Lucky, sorry you are having a sad day. They will come and go. When the blues hit, it's such an empty feel. Hugs. Are you going to try again? soon? (sorry I can't remember if we've all discussed this at length. Apologies if so) And don't answer if you are already fed up with that question!

Thinking of you Bezzy in your wee-imposed exile.

Shangrilla, how's the hair do? lookin' hot?

I am off out tonight to a Sands meeting. I like going but it's emotionally wearing.

Dh has been doing some DIY today, and now the downstairs is covered in a fine layer of dust. Sigh.

Have a good evening all. xxx

Have been busy off-loading dd for other people to look after this week to give myself a breather. It sort of works...but still feeling pretty squashed by life.
Would like to feel WELL, just for a bit. I was ill from Xmas to March 15th, then it all started again in week 5 of this pregnancy, - this being week 14. Urgh.
It's good advice from you all to not do any house work and take it easy for a bit, but one can only do that for a while, not the whole of a year. It's got to a point where I am I frustrated by myself and my inability to tackle life. (I should point out that due to Dh wonderful effort we are nor living in a pig sty!)
And it's more than just house work that is getting me down, I think that's just an easy example. I need to go to the hairdressers, the dentist, buy some new clothes. There are nice things I'd like to do - go swimming, pot up the strawberry runners, go out and socialise with more than a few long suffering friends. But I just can't be...bothered? Can't explain it, I just want peace. And some energy.
Phew. Sorry.

Lucky, sorry you are having a sad day. They will come and go. When the blues hit, it's such an empty feel. Hugs. Are you going to try again? soon? (sorry I can't remember if we've all discussed this at length. Apologies if so) And don't answer if you are already fed up with that question!

Thinking of you Bezzy in your wee-imposed exile.

Shangrilla, how's the hair do? lookin' hot?

I am off out tonight to a Sands meeting. I like going but it's emotionally wearing.

Dh has been doing some DIY today, and now the downstairs is covered in a fine layer of dust. Sigh.

Have a good evening all. xxx

Have been busy off-loading dd for other people to look after this week to give myself a breather. It sort of works...but still feeling pretty squashed by life.
Would like to feel WELL, just for a bit. I was ill from Xmas to March 15th, then it all started again in week 5 of this pregnancy, - this being week 14. Urgh.
It's good advice from you all to not do any house work and take it easy for a bit, but one can only do that for a while, not the whole of a year. It's got to a point where I am I frustrated by myself and my inability to tackle life. (I should point out that due to Dh wonderful effort we are nor living in a pig sty!)
And it's more than just house work that is getting me down, I think that's just an easy example. I need to go to the hairdressers, the dentist, buy some new clothes. There are nice things I'd like to do - go swimming, pot up the strawberry runners, go out and socialise with more than a few long suffering friends. But I just can't be...bothered? Can't explain it, I just want peace. And some energy.
Phew. Sorry.

Lucky, sorry you are having a sad day. They will come and go. When the blues hit, it's such an empty feel. Hugs. Are you going to try again? soon? (sorry I can't remember if we've all discussed this at length. Apologies if so) And don't answer if you are already fed up with that question!

Thinking of you Bezzy in your wee-imposed exile.

Shangrilla, how's the hair do? lookin' hot?

I am off out tonight to a Sands meeting. I like going but it's emotionally wearing.

Dh has been doing some DIY today, and now the downstairs is covered in a fine layer of dust. Sigh.

Have a good evening all. xxx