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support thread for women who have chosen to terminate II

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brightonbaby · 09/06/2009 19:05

Erm, trying to create a new thread for us, ladies. Not sure if I've succeeded...

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linspins · 29/07/2009 10:31

[Lins giggles at someone being called a doughnut]...

growingout · 29/07/2009 10:54

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bezzyk · 29/07/2009 11:17

Hello all, ok no more mention of me feeling sorry for self!

Have now signed up to CAT too. Tried CATting you Can't but says you've chosen not to receive messages.

Potty training being quite tedious...day 1 went really well, was wondering what the fuss was all about, yesterday was rubbish and today not faring much better! Luckily (hand firmly placed on some wood) there was been no number 2 mishaps as yet....However, we have just done a massive wee in potty, all the 'accidents' all seem to be little dribbles....

Weather being horrendous, and we're meant to be camping again this weekend with the whole family....oh geez....

Cantdothisagain · 29/07/2009 11:28

Hi Bezzy

Changed my CAT option now to receive messages, and have CATed you I think.

Little dribbles... they just let out little dribbles when they feel like it, don't they, rather than saving them up like we do? Maybe their little pelvic floors are a bit like ours after we give birth to them...

Camping again - you have got the bug! I recommend some alcoholic hot chocolate...

linspins · 29/07/2009 11:28

Blimey, I don't miss potty training. Luckily for me dd pretty much got it sorted quickly but even that was stressful - what to do in the car? in the shops? how long to stay out for? whether to 'make' them go before leaving the house..? etiquette of cleaning wee on other people's floors? Phew!
Bless your mini bez. xx

I haven't signed up to CAT yet..

And growingout, isn't the power of suggestion crazy when you are pregnant, all I want now are doughnuts!

busierbee · 29/07/2009 11:32

Bezz- I want to be Catted too! (moaning voice and big brown eyes)
Hurray for potty training - I will never forget my daughter aged about two and a half, recently potty trained, doing a big jobby right outside the cafe in the local park. Lovely.
Sorry Lins - I forget you feeling sick!
Bee x
ps - she doesn't do that any more to my knowledge.

busierbee · 29/07/2009 11:34

LIns -so glad you got some help with mini-Lins and that you can rest .How is the back doing?
I am not pregnant and I quite fancy a doughnut too now. Get baking Cantdo and i will put the coffee on.
xxxxx

busierbee · 29/07/2009 11:37

Oh buggeration Bezzy.
Just got the cat thing but email will only receive and not send. What is that?
Boo hiss.
Will get daughter to look
xx

bezzyk · 29/07/2009 11:46

I've also been mulling about doughnuts - damn you BB!!! Why is it I can never lust after celery or carrots?

You were my first CAT BB

re mini bez pelvic floor - v funny!

re the camping, I've always loved it, but Capt C has been anti (after a diabolical trip to Isle of Arran a couple of years back where we did nothing but hide in our little tent with 2 friends eating Haribo and drinking wine for lack of anything else to do in the torrential downpours and howling gales. We were bouncing around off walls of tent after a couple of days of escalated sugar intake.

BK x

treedelivery · 29/07/2009 11:50

Argh! I can't stay and talk, I can't find the hour I need!!

But I love you all and agree with everything

Got to be at baby weight clinic in an hour and a dd in pj's who also needs lunch. And a baby who also needs lunch and 2 boobs. Hmmmm likely?

And a load of potential Christening dresses have arrived, and I want to examine them! I know you will understnad and allow me to mention Hatts CHristening, I think you all know I have a baby? If it's not good for someone say, and I wont o there for a while.

The thread is fluid, you all have to ride the wave of it, and get off if the wave isn't right for you. Then get back on when it is. That's life, it's all good. Ebbs and flows.

Maybe my job is to be the base mood - to answer to the posts that need a mood shift, and connect with that vibe. So that aching mummies just trying to get to work don't have to if they can't do it that day. That makes sense to me [although you may be all tutting and rolling your eyes ]

treedelivery · 29/07/2009 11:50

go there

busierbee · 29/07/2009 12:13

Tree - I hate to be provocative but could you not, like, weigh your own baby?? What with you being a midwife and everything?
Put her on the muffin making scales?
Then everyone can stay in PJS - hurray - and sure Hatts may like bouncing up and down on there?
Also like you being the Mood Moderator. Think you good at it.
Someone get me off here now.

shangrila · 29/07/2009 13:26

Hi All. No broadband last night grrrr. And it's pouring here, cats dogs and the whole of Noah's Arc. Not the weather to lift the spirits!

Numptymum - thank you for sharing your last few days with us. I'm sure it's been exhausting but you will have some very special memories of Iola for time to come. I adore the name - such a lovely choice. Incidentally, here in Wales, it's well known amongst Welsh speaking communities and translates as 'valued by the lord'. Sorry if you know this already and I am stating the obvious. Thinking of you all so much...

Bezz - as one of the more sporadic posters, I appreciate that there are times when this thread is like an essential drug (in the nicest sense of the word!) and other times when I feel that it simply serves to define me by my losses and I need to stay away. (The latter is usually when I'm in a BAD way) But I think that's fine. It's a great place where people can come and go, stay or move on. Whatever suits them. That being said, I'm delighted that you're still here!

And which bright spark mentioned doughnuts? I have already consumed two thick pieces of marmite on toast, a cold sausage, both just as a midmorning snack. So I couldn't possibly justify a doughnut now, could I? Well maybe just a tiny ring version one, with no jam and absolutely no cream.

Tree - you can monitor my mood any day of the week!

Unexpected break in the clouds, so I'm off to shop. xxx

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busierbee · 29/07/2009 13:45

I am the doughnut culprit. Called Bezzy one.
But then the thread defined it in a different way and suddenly all talk is of doughnuts.
I therefore, in the spirit of generosity to my fellow threaders, made a batch of Nigella's jam doughnut muffins.
I did not add the Nigella - esque 100 grammes of butter and a mountain of sugar; essentially they are muffins with a blob of jam and a bit disappointing if what you had in your mind's eye was something decidedly deep-fried.
I have to admit that I would not often eat a doughnut - although those american ones - what is the name again?- are pretty tempting.
Hi Shangrilala - glad to see you here and glad no bad news come your way. kisses
Bee

luckywinner · 29/07/2009 13:59

Tree you were in no way being flippant. In fact it made me laugh out loud. You're right, real life does coexist amongst all this chaos. This morning it feels almost comical.

My friend does know what is happening, and yes she truly is a numpty. A numpty of the highest order. Today I feel it is a funny thing, her complete insensitive numptiness of it all. She is a taker. She normally has a full time cleaner, full time nanny and her mum and her husband around and all of them are away. She doesn't work so I think she's a bit lost. But to be honest I couldn't give a frig.

Ok deep breaths, losing my sense of humour already!

Busierbee, it is good to know you felt angry too. I am a bit like you, don't really do anger but I think that might account for all my years of therapy. If only I'd smashed some plates in my formative years eh .

Brightonbaby, how exciting when you getting married? And did you find your dress?

Lins, glad you are getting a bit of a break. Don't do chores, find some mindless tv to watch. Eat biscuits and drink tea.

Bekky, sounds terrible but with my dd I gave up all sense of principles and bribed her with chocolate buttons. My ds was such hard work, I remember following a trail of poo around the natural history museum.

I am in London too! Just down the road from Westfield. Would love to meet up if you ever do one.

busierbee · 29/07/2009 14:20

Bugger- just wrote message that has got lost.
Was saying 'ooh can feel a meeting coming on Lucky' and not to invite your friend as I do not like her already!
Am going over to Chiswick tonight for dinner - I shall send you a wave.
The anger does subside - my termination was April 1st and in last few weeks i have calmed down a bit.
Go -maybe just say 'la la la' to yourself in your head when the paediatrician starts banging on. I pretty much always assume i know my child better than they do - they are not always right these medics.
Off to get my middle one dressed - still in PJs. Ah the summer holidays.
xx

shangrila · 29/07/2009 14:50

Growing Out - you must be livid. It is maddening when 'professionals' who are charged with our care fail to get the important things right. I am so fed up and tired of the feeling that everything I'm told needs to be double checked and I'm sure you are too. I confess that I don't know anything about GD - does it mean close monitoring of your food and drink and extra scans? I hope that the raised glucose is just a blip and causes you no complications. Agree with Bee about the paed. In similar circumstances, I nod vaguely, with an impassive look on my face. Wonderfully unnerving to many!

Bee - lucky you to be schlepping around. Afternoon pyjammies is the best thing about summer hols!
xxx

Still raining here. I'm going to start to rust soon.

busierbee · 29/07/2009 15:01

What is with Wales and the rain?
I kid you not we were there for a week last year and it rained incessantly.
Pembrokeshire - beautiful and worryingly damp.
Is cloudy with gentle breeze and breakthrough sunshine -enough to dry laundry out.
I swear have spent practically the whole day on the internet. Is compulsive.
Must get help.

linspins · 29/07/2009 16:29

Weather dry here in Kent but I think your rain is headed this way soon cos it's getting awfully dark outside.
I really want a doughnut still!

busierbee · 29/07/2009 16:39

I am trying something clever here for you Lins, but, bear in mind it is me and am a technological dimwit.
"Look at www.theage.com.au/ffximage/2006/06/19/krispy_..."
This is unlikely to work but the thought was there.
xxxxx

busierbee · 29/07/2009 16:40

Oh poo and stink.
I was sending you a box of Krispy Kremes!

bezzyk · 29/07/2009 16:54

this is not good, BK trying to be good (after eating her body weight in food last weekend) and now this doughnut talk is STILL going on! Behave ladies!

Bk x

treedelivery · 29/07/2009 17:13

Now look here - I have never even had a krispy whatsit donut, the bin men left ours as the lid was up a bit, and I went to Sains with no cashcard, I heard the Dr receptionist say something a bit sarky about me, and both dd's have to go to Paeds as neither of them can poo without advanced planning and medication.

And its pissingit down. Flaming June flaming arse!

And I tried on 4 dresses, 2 skirts, 4 blouses and 2 coats and I look a beast in all of them, and they will cost a bomb to post back to Mr Boden/longtallsally. He's an arse too.

Oh and Harriet finally did do a poo, all over her cashmere suit and it's managed to coat the highchair belts.

Phht!

busierbee · 29/07/2009 17:23

Oh crap Tree.
No Krispy cremes for you.
I did not know you were Long and Tall.
What about borrowing something nice from someone nice? Is it for the Christening?
Could you pootle down to York for the day?
Buying clothes recently after a baby is shit isn't it?
Try the TOAST sale?
Gorgeous stripey dress in there.
I know what you mean about Johnnie I'm so Fantastic Boden and look at all those models in his catalogues!!!!
Hi I am a teeny weeny size 4, I have 5 children and they are all called Theobald, my favourite place? This very small, boutique hotel in Iceland - I know the owner. My favourite food? Oh most definitely chocolate?
Really ladies? Really?

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