support thread for women who have chosen to terminate II

[brightonbaby]

Erm, trying to create a new thread for us, ladies. Not sure if I've succeeded...

Although Tree may have a PhD too

Thanks for the kind words. DH away so that is helping actually. Just me and the girls.

No Phd here Do have a tiny piece of a masters jigsaw.

Daft - I'm going to ask a gynae nurse friend about that 2 year thing. I find that quite conservative to say the least. If you are happy for me to do that?

Whoops, sorry Tree - see I told you I was stressed, I just neglected to say I was losing the plot!!

Happy for you to ask a nursing colleague: I'm already teh subject of some jnr Drs case study for her fiinals. After treatment for 'funny' cervical cells which was so unusual that 6 med students strolled in to review my bits I have lost all sense of modesty!!!

All I could think of was that, as the embryo was at the junction, they have damaged my womb when removing the tube. Verication would be helpful.

Meant to be working whilst DH takes DDs to park for picnic. Not fun. .

Love and hugs to all

Daft, poor you missing the picnic - hope you got the work done and had some fun all the same.

It sounds like the medics don't know what they're saying - I would ask to see consultant so you know where you stand.

Well, another day out today, and then the AMAZING men's final - fantastic match. Wow.

Hope everyone else is having fun and not losing the plot. Take care!

Morning all, just checking in quickly before I head off to airport for Edinburgh trip.

Camping trip was great, managed to stay dry and the banana bread was v popular - phew! Friend that came with us even asked for recipe.

Wish me luck, and keep fingers crossed that I don't strangle moany pregnant friend....

BK xx

Oh, Good luck, Bezzy, in Edinburgh. Glad camping was good...you managed to get it in right before the weather changed!

I'm knee-deep in job applications today, so can't catch up with all the postings yet...you all move so quickly! Will check in later.

Love to all.

Good afternoon one and all
Have been thinking about Pelvicflawed today.
I do hope you and your Loved Ones are holding tightly to one another my dear. You must be in such pain.
Wishing you well.
Busier Bee

Good afternoon one and all
Have been thinking about Pelvicflawed today.
I do hope you and your Loved Ones are holding tightly to one another my dear. You must be in such pain.
Wishing you well.
Busier Bee

It's quiet here! Bezzy in Scotland, sending good vibes up there for a relaxing and fun stay, and no moany pregnant women.

Hi Brighton, Busier (the two BBs - and then there's Becaroo). Bs prevail here! Anyway hi Pelvicflawed too if you are reading. How are you Busier, you've been quiet? I miss your voice when you're quiet.

OK... Bit of humour here... was going to get DD from nursery, and after the storm today there was a flood across the tunnel I walk through. No other way. Everyone else was looking aghast at it and walking away. I had to get DD. So... I rolled up my trousers and waded through the flood, up to ankles in water, while everyone stared. The things we do for our children...

Edinburgh bez here! Bloody 2 hour delay some eejit left a package in Edi airport. GGGGRRRR. Never mind mini bez was an angel which helped. Having better time than expected. I don't remember grunting quite as much as my friend is doing at 38 weeks though! She was showing me all of her tiny baby clothes, and they made me feel all warm and fuzzy inside (not bitter and resentful, which I feared)

love to everyone, hope you doing ok tree, GU, daft. And everybody else.

Am typing this on my phone so please excuse any weird spellings xxx

Hi Bezzy and everyone else

Glad Edinburgh is going okay. And that you can cope with the baby talk.

Feeling odd here - can't describe. DH is having a really hard time at work and I feel for him because that on top of everything else is unfair. How are you all?

Hello all.

DH didn't get through the final tier of police community support officer recruitment He passed the written, roleplay and medical, but seems to have fallen on the interview [45 mins with 4 panel!!] What a year.

Have texted a friend DaftBat, I may put some feelers out at my old work too. I'll let you know.....

Morning to all. Glum and glumy here so hope you are all more cheerful than me, especially Cant. Hope the funny feeling goes - restless maybe?

Oh tree, I am so sorry; sometimes it seems that nothing goes right, doesn't it? A 4 panel interview seems a bit excessive, too: how offputting.

And Cant'do too. Poor DH. You are quite right, he does deserve better right now.

Warm fuzzy thoughts winging their way to you both in the hope they bring you some sunshine, with them....

Bezzy. Congratulations on keeping your sanity at the airport and whilst viewing the clothes. I am very proud of you. I hope you enjoy knocking back copious amounts of alcohol and other forbidden fruits by way of revenge.... .

Hope everyone else is ok. It seems a bit quiet right now. GU have you started to tell, yet: it would be nice to share some joy.

We go away on Saturday St Ives here we come. My serious ex from pre DH lives down there. WHy do I have to feel so fat and frumpy when there's a chance I'll bump into him again..... Bum!

Busy completing work, packing (well, thinking about packing!) etc. Mum took DD2 to nursery and DD3 shopping so I would have peace and then rang me from the shops as she walked round asking me if I wouldn't like this or that. I KNOW she means well but 11 sodding minutes!!!!! Is it me???

xxx

Hi all, how are you doing? Very chatty I see, its going to take me a week to catch up with all the news. Holiday was lovely, very tiring in many ways as it always is with kids and would have liked more time to sit on the balcony, glass in hand and admire the view, although weather was gorgeous and we did sit out every evening and have our meals, ....except the last night when dh fell asleep after cooking the dinner and the kids were being so naughty I had to take them for a walk. Our chalet is next to trees and bushes and didn't realise from previous hols there that one of them is honeysuckle and the scent wafting over us as we sat out was lovely. We did the beach a few times, outdoor farm park place, but too hot that day really, drove down to the Lake District one day and went on a boat trip and on the way back visited friends near Stirling. They own cottages with a spa area, jacuzzi, outdoor pool, sauna and they let us use it all for free. It was so lovely so lovely to splash about in the pool and we had a BBQ, wine etc. It was a lovely time just to enjoy being with my family and not thinking about anything else.

Now I realise that taking kids a week off school early perhaps not a good idea as still have 6 weeks stretched ahead of us to entertain them, also both boys birthdays this month and done nothing about presents, parties etc!

Better see about lunch (breakfast for eldest, he was late up) Catch up soon. Much love xxx

I am sorry too Tree - and that interview sounds like overkill. Would he get a chance at another try?

Hi Daft. Good luck with the procrastination and packing!

Everyone else - are you okay? You've all gone so quiet... I am still feeling odd, a bit restless might be the word yes Tree (I forget you know these things!), a sort of limbo state too.

Suspect the torrential rain doesn't help.

Hi Eulalia,

crossposted - your post is just what I needed, a cheery postholiday report! It sounds fab. And the chalet sounds lovely, never mind the posh cottage resort!

Hope you find some forms of entertainment for the six weeks off. How old are your brood, again?

tree - how awful for your dh, its so silly as there is a shortage of police. My nephew has just been accepted, 2nd attempt, the first time they told him he was too thin

Hi Cantdo - Sorry to hear of your restlessness. My eldest is 9 (turns 10 on the 19th), then dd age 7, and ds2 is 3 (4 on the 29th). As I've said before ds1 is on the autistic spectrum do despite being the eldest is not by any means sensible, he is a very bright boy but has the social skills of a 2/3 year old. He's bad just now for hitting, anyone really but siblings mostly for doing things 'wrong'. Its very wearing watching all the kids and trying to intervene before it turns into a fight, particularly as ds2 can deliberately provoke him. However they do manage to play well sometimes although it is usually being naughty and making a mess! Either way its a lot of work for me.

Well so far today I have blown up the toaster and ds2 has stuck the electric toothbrush into the cats ear (both are OK). At least it has stopped raining, going to drag them out to the park now.

When do the English school hols start?

Hello to all of you lovely ladies in all your spots of the country

Have been quiet yes Cantdo - you are right - partly a busy bee at work, then so much to organise at end of term for children. Also my period here today and feel so weepy on the inside of me. No tears yet, but feel that if someone so much as said 'boo' to me, I would melt. Tired. Achey. Would have been six months today - me and Bezzy. The alternative reality alongside the real one.
The rain appears to be casting its gloom on us all.
Of course you feel out of sorts lovey - a different feeling settles down maybe after a few weeks - not so raw but immensely sorrowful and ... wistful maybe. I do not know as am speaking about myself really.
You are doing so well and am glad your voice so present. Believe me if I was not working I would be here every hour. I love it here. Last night went to bed early, composing what I would like to write to you all if I had the energy to fetch the laptop.
Eulalia - that sounds dreamy to me your holiday. And the weather! Perfect. Smell of honeysuckle ahhhh! I love it - takes me back to a heady overpowering smell in my back garden when I was a wee one.
My dearest Tree - what tough times. He has done so well to get so far - can he appeal or ask for feedback? You never know.... Tough when you have a young family... more words for you later darling.

I am also sending big, bigger, biggest cuddle and hug and squeeze to our Linspins. Anyone care to join me?

In my achey misery last night i convinced self had swine flu. Sneezing for England, achey, runny nose. There is an outbreak at my children's school.
LM decided the only flu I had was... wine flu.
Or possibly, which is much worse in my opinion, whine flu.
So rude.

Me? Whine? Surely not. And wine? Well yes, I see his point there.

Bezzy kins - well done honey for making it up to Edinborough with the wee gal. And for smiling and feeling fuzzy for baby clothes too. If you have a wobble, get in touch with us. The Wobble Police.

Laugh away at it.
I have whine flu in spades.
Whiney and proud.
Gu - my favourite choccie pudding - I hope you are well and blooming.
I have bought an enormous Key lime pie from M and S for dinner.
What, may I ask, is a key lime?
Who cares - gonna scoff it all with raspberries. Apparently one of the benefits of having a period and not being pregnant is you can drink WHATEVER you like and eat PIES

Hello to you too Daftie
And eulailia the school holidays start next Friday here. And then six nearly seven long, lovely weeks of no work for me. Apart from a ridiculous week of training in Hong Kong that i am already having insomnia about. Staying with friends of LM who have a baby exactly the age my first one would be. Am concerned may die on the way in terrible plane crash and have performance anxiety about training in another country.
Neurotic? Moi?

Oh not more sickness.
Sorry will stop talking about pies, pudding and wine.
Get thee to bed pregnant one.

Hi ladies

so relieved to hear your voice, Busier. When you're quiet I start to doubt whether I'm okay or not (don't know why) - think it's because you know where I'm coming from and you understand what to say.

Dare I say I envy you the period? 32 days here and no sign, and I just want normality back. But I can imagine it hurts horribly too. I would have been 25 weeks today. It doesn't hurt too much to write that - it feels like a parallel universe - it's just horribly, horribly sad.

Wine/whine flu-fantastic! Can I sign up for it, too?

Oh, if anyone likes easy dinners with fish that are kid-friendly - I tried this tonight:

haddock fillets, skinned and boned, either smoked or unsmoked, cut into bite sized pieces, topped with halved cherry tomatoes, tthen single cream and creme fraiche, and cheese on top, then baked. YUM.

Thinking of everyone, and Lins too, of course.

Growingup - Oh no lurking sickness! Seabands may help [a bit...]

BB and Bezzy- would have been 6 months today. Hope you are ok there, with keylime pie and wine flu. It doesn't go away does it, it just gets further away.

Hugs to lins - wonder how you are.

Dafty - have heard form gynae mate, she says conservative. Advises speak to consultant sec, ask for a telephone call from the consultant who did the surgery. Then you can ask the question without a palava of appointment etc. Have another freing asking a consultant their rough opinion this week too. Can't replace the opinion of the dude who did the deed though - so think the telephone advice is good idea myself.

Bee - can I come to HongKong with you? I could...er...make sure your lap top is charged and your pencil sharpened? Had enough of my house at the mo.