support thread for women who have chosen to terminate II

[brightonbaby]

Erm, trying to create a new thread for us, ladies. Not sure if I've succeeded...

I am not a Jan or Feb person either Tree. Think I prefer Feb to Jan, though.

I'm a summer person definitely. The warmer the better. Though I do like Christmas.

Happy Father's day everyone.

Hello all.

Hope the DH's and DP's are ok today. Just came to acknowledge their loss really, and to say I hope you are all having a supportive family day, whoever that involves.

I guess days like today will be days of reflection.

xxx

Hello All

Hope you're feeling better Tree. Did you manage to get antibiotics or are you fighting it alone? Tonsillitis was the reason I gave up breastfeeding DD as was so ill and NEEDED THE DRUGS!!!

Did everybody have a good weekend? ours was pretty nice, seemed to spend most of it eating and drinking which is never a bad thing, it would also appear that DD has recovered. No apparent reason for the nasty fever, just very glad it's over and that it didn't turn into anything more sinister.

I read on the BBC website earlier that 'Stig' will show his face on Top Gear tonight, am intrigued!!

How are all of my lovely buddies?

BK x

oh GU, I'm so sorry to hear this. Parents aren't meant to get sick. What kind of illness does he have?

BK x

oh dear, not nice. I'm hoping he's not suffering too much though.

I can't believe who the Stig is! Anybody else share my amazement!?

Who is he?

Very very sorry about your Dad growingup. He is young really, for all that

who is Stig then?

GU. I am so sorry too. Maybe though the memory thing is just a blip today? I hope so.

Well, we took DD to the beach and she paddled, and was terrified of the waves!!! se liked her bucket and spade though. Bless her.

Get well soon Tree. And hi to everyone.

The Stig is Michael Schumacher

Hi Cant and bezzyk - that's amazing really isn't it? Michael Schumacher. Blimey!

growing - has the pattern been noticed over months or is it recent. I know after a 'certain age' the slightest illness, water infection, chest infection etc, can cause confusion. Then it goes when infection clears. My mum always knew when her charges were geting water infections etc by that.

Morning.

My MIL is the same in many ways. I think when you have old[er] age and oung age running together in your life it brings things into sharp focus.

My pil are fit as fleas, but my nan is an 'old' older person. When she and dd1 are together the distance across the years seems so vast. Yet they have similar needs - small regular meals and nothing obvious in their way to bump into.

My beloved only close relative [nan is in Ireland] is my mum at 54. I refuse to deal with the idea she will age. It is beyond me.

How are you growingup?

That's great, on all fronts

GU - you are 12 weeks already? Great to hear you've passed that milestone Sorry to hear of your dad? Has he been referred for it yet? Is he aware of it himself? That sounds like a great resource for your ds.

Tree - your mum is only 54! I have a sister nearly that age and another older. So much of it is down to health, my parents are 80 and 82 and have just spent a month driving round Europe, I don't even think of them as old really!

Wimbledon starts today, I love it but not going to have much time this week. I remember it well 10 years ago this month, I gave up my job at 37 weeks to have my first baby , I had time to relax, watch tennis, drink Pimms and struggle out of a deckchair...(due to bump not drink!)

As I said v busy got a ton of things on this week, visit to the nursery (yes my baby starts pre-school nursery next term), sports day, appointments and packing.... so may not have much time to come on before we are away.

Hi to everyone else, it's a bit quiet round here? Hope everyone is happy, busy and not sad. xxx

Hang on a min .......

She's 53 in Aug. I think.

SHe was 18 when had me and I'm 33. I think.

Am thinking sunny days for most too, hopefully. But am thinking of Cant and hoping you are ok. And all of course. x

GrowingUp -- There's this great play center where I live that's only for families with special needs. The staff are all fantastic and are very engaging with the children and take a real active approach to play. And best of all, there is a cafe, and quiet zone for parents/carers, and massage therapist.

DD has been ill . She woke up this morning at 2:30 saying she wasn't well. High temp. Asked her what would make her feel better. 'cuddle and chocolate' She is sooo my girl

Poor dd. I see she has good insight into womenhood already

Our surestart centre has a sensory room too.

Hi everyone

Good news on DS, Growing. And that you've reached 12 weeks. Lins will be next! thinking of you too, Lins.

Tree - are you feeling any better?

Well, no news from here, really... Am utterly shattered because DD has barely been sleeping, on top of everything else. She has always been a terrible sleeper - and I am not the kind of controlled crying parent - so very bad for me means she is up most of the night. It is exhausting on top of the grief and sadness.

Funeral tomorrow for my grandmother. I haven't cried properly for her yet - assume I will tomorrow. We were very close - she was a fantastic grandparent, hands-on when we were little, plain-speaking, very proud of us but ready to tease us too, very warm and interested, just generally the model grandparent. I don't think it's sunk in properly yet that she has gone. I am so numbed by everything that I couldn't take anything in at the mo, I suspect.

So: M and S dinner tonight. Though I DID make those chocolate cupcakes and they were very nice, with yummy icing. Yesterday's job, before we went to the beach.

Oh and not to lower the tone but I watched Wife Swap last night and was so angry. I know television is massively exaggerated but the woman who left her 18 month old in a cot until lunchtime every day, so she could lie in - then let her play on her own, she could surf the net - arrgggh! And then she was pregnant again to repeat it all.

Hugs to Busier, who has gone silent. And to everyone else here.

PS Ilove: is your DD better this evening? hope so.

You sound ok Cant? Good good luck for tomorrow.
I guess it will be a haard day for you.

Not the controlled crying type myself. Health visitor said to do 1 min for every year of life. Well, that would have achieved nothing at all!!

Wonder how Marj1 is?

Hello All

Feeling a bit blue today. Anyway, just wanted to say that I hope tomorrow goes as well as expected Cantdo, such a lot for you to take in such a short time.

My DD never slept either, I then read the 'No Cry sleep solution for preschoolers and toddlers' by Elizabeth Pantley and just changed a couple of the things I did when I put her to bed and lo and behold, I now put her in her cot at night, she gives me a kiss and says 'night night mummy' and after playing with her animals for a little while goes to sleep until 7am the next morning. I NEVER thought I was going to get there, but I did! It's made life SO much easier, I can get a babysitter without worrying how she'll be and so on. Not to mention my sanity is slowly returning.

Sorry, don't mean to preach, I know it got VERY boring when everybody tried giving me their sleep solutions when DD was boycotting the sleep thing.

I'm just feeling a bit sad as just wish I was pregnant again and past the whole testing thing. I desperately want another baby and just can't see it happening for ages yet. I know time is on my side etc etc but that doesn't help fill the emptiness I feel at the moment.

Love to all

BK x